39. Marriage

٣٩۔ كِتَابُ النِّكَاحِ

39.2 [Machine] What is required of him in choosing women?

٣٩۔٢ بَابُ مَا وَجَبَ عَلَيْهِ مِنْ تَخْيِيرِ النِّسَاءِ

bayhaqi:13266Abū ʿAbdullāh al-Ḥāfiẓ And ʾAbū Bakr Aḥmad b. al-Ḥasan al-Qāḍī > Abū al-ʿAbbās Muḥammad b. Yaʿqūb > Muḥammad b. Isḥāq al-Ṣaghānī > ʿUthmān b. ʿUmar > Yūnus > al-Zuhrī > Abū Salamah > ʿĀʾishah

When the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was commanded to give option to his wives, he started it from me saying: I am going to mention to you a matter which you should not (decide) in haste until you have consulted your parents. She said that he already knew that my parents would never allow me to seek separation from him She said: Then he said: Allah, the Exalted and Glorious, said: Prophet, say to thy wives: If you desire this world's life and its adornment, then come, I will give you a provision and allow you to depart a goodly departing; and if you desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter, then Allah has prepared for the doers of good among you a great reward She is reported to have said: About what should I consult my parents, for I desire Allah and His Messenger and the abode of the Hereafter? She ('A'isha) said: Then all the wives of Messenger of Allah ﷺ did as I had done. (Using translation from Muslim 1475)   

البيهقي:١٣٢٦٦أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ الْقَاضِي قَالَا ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الصَّغَانِيُّ ثنا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ عُمَرَ أنبأ يُونُسُ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ؓ قَالَتْ

لَمَّا أُمِرَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ بِتَخْيِيرِ أَزْوَاجِهِ بَدَأَ بِي فَقَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنِّي مُخْبِرُكِ خَبَرًا فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَتْ وَقَدْ عَلِمَ أَنَّ أَبَوِيَّ لَمْ يَكُونَا يَأْمُرَانِي بِفِرَاقِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وَزِينَتَهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ وَأُسَرِّحْكُنَّ سَرَاحًا جَمِيلًا وَإِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ فَإِنَّ اللهَ أَعَدَّ لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} [الأحزاب 29] فَقُلْتُ فِي هَذَا أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوِيَّ ‍‍ فَإِنِّي أُرِيدُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ ثُمَّ فَعَلَ أَزْوَاجُهُ مِثْلَ مَا فَعَلْتُ  

أَخْرَجَهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ وَمُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ مِنْ حَدِيثِ يُونُسَ بْنِ يَزِيدَ
bayhaqi:13267Abū Muḥammad ʿAbdullāh b. Yaḥyá b. ʿAbd al-Jabbār al-Sukkarī > Ismāʿīl b. Muḥammad al-Ṣaffār > Aḥmad b. Manṣūr > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > al-Zuhrī > ʿUbaydullāh b. ʿAbdullāh b. Abū Thawr > Ibn ʿAbbās > Lam Azal Ḥarīṣ > Asʾal ʿUmar > al-Marʾatayn from Azwāj al-Nabī ﷺ al-Latayn

I was eager to ask 'Umar about the two wives of the Prophet ﷺ concerning whom Allah said, “If you two (wives of the Prophet ﷺ turn in repentance to Allah, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet ﷺ likes)” [at-Tahreem 66:4], until 'Umar went for Hajj and I went with him. When we were partway there, 'Umar turned aside and I turned aside with him, bringing the jug. He relieved himself, then he came to me and I poured water onto his hands, and he did wudoo’. I said: “O Ameer al -Mu'mineen, who are the two wives of the Prophet ﷺ of whom Allah said: ‘If you two (wives of the Prophet ﷺ) turn in repentance to Allah, (it will be better for you), your hearts are indeed so inclined (to oppose what the Prophet ﷺ likes)’?” [at-Tahreem 66:4] 'Umar said, “How strange of you, O Ibn 'Abbas”, (az-Zuhri said: By Allah, he did not like the question, but he did not conceal anything.) He said, “They were Hafsah and 'A'ishah.” Then he started to narrate the hadeeth and said: We people of Quraish were a people who dominated women, but when we came to Madinah we found a people who were dominated by their women, and our women started to learn from their women. My house was among Banu Umayyah bin Zaid in al-'Awali. One day I got angry with my wife, and she argued with me. I did not like her to argue with me, but she said: Do you not like me to argue with you? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet ﷺ argue with him, and one of them will forsake him all day until night comes, I went and entered upon Hafsah, and I said: Do you argue with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ? She said: Yes. I said: Does one of you forsake him all day until night comes? She said: Yes. I said: Any one of you who does that is doomed and lost. Does any one of you feel assured that Allah will not be angry with her because of the anger of His Messenger ﷺ, for then she will be doomed? Do not argue with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and do not ask him for anything. Ask me for whatever you want. And do not be misled by the fact that your neighbour is more beautiful than you and more beloved to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ than you – referring to 'A'ishah. And ‘Umar said: I had a neighbour among the Ansar. We used to take turns to go down to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He would go down one day and I would go down the next. He would bring me the news of the Revelation and other things, and I would do likewise. We were saying that Ghassan were shoeing their horses to attack us. My friend went down, then he came to me at night and knocked on my door, then he called out to me. I went out to him and he said: Something terrible has happened! I said: What? Have Ghassan come? He said: No, it is more terrible than that and worse. The Prophet ﷺ has divorced his wives! I said: Hafsah is doomed and lost! I thought that this would happen. Then when I had prayed Fajr, I got dressed, then I went down and entered upon Hafsah, who was weeping. I said: Has the Messenger of Allah ﷺdivorced you? She said: I do not know. He has secluded himself in this loft. I went to a black slave of his and said: Ask for permission for ‘Umar to enter. He went in, then he came out to me and said: I mentioned you to him but he did not say anything, I went away and came to the minbar, where I sat down. By it was a group of people, some of whom were weeping. I sat for a little while, then I could not bear it any longer, so I went to the slave and said: Ask for permission for ‘Umar to enter. He went in, then he came out to me and said: I mentioned you to him but he did not say anything. I turned to leave, then the slave called me and said: Go in, he has given you permission. So I went in and greeted the Messenger of Allah ﷺ with salam. He was resting on a reed mat that had left marks on his side. I said: O Messenger of Allah, have you divorced your wives? He looked up at me and said, “No.” I said: Allah Akbar! if you had seen us, O Messenger of Allah, we Quraish were a people who dominated women, but when we came to Madinah we found a people who were dominated by their women, and our women started to learn from their women. I got angry with my wife one day, and she started to argue with me. I did not like her to argue with me, but she said: Do you not like me to argue with you? By Allah, the wives of the Prophet ﷺ argue with him, and one of them will forsake him all day until night comes. I said: Any one of them who does that is doomed and lost. Does one of them feel assured that Allah will not be angry with her because of the anger of His Messenger ﷺ,then she will be doomed? The Messenger of Allah ﷺ smiled. I said: O Messenger of Allah, I entered upon Hafsah and I said: Do not be misled by the fact that your neighbour (i.e. ‘Aa'ishah) is more beautiful than you and more beloved to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ than you. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ smiled again. I said: O Messenger of Allah, may I speak to you freely? He said: “Yes.” So I sat down and looked around the room, and by Allah, I did not see anything in it to please the eye except three hides. I said: Pray to Allah, O Messenger of Allah, to make life prosperous for your ummah, for He has made life prosperous for the Persians and Romans, but they do not worship Allah, may He be glorified and exalted. He sat up straight and said: “Are you doubting. O son of al-Khattab? They are people whose good things have been hastened for them in this world.” I said: Pray for forgiveness for me, O Messenger of Allah. He had sworn that he would not enter upon them for a month, because he was so annoyed with them until Allah rebuked him. (Using translation from Aḥmad 222)   

البيهقي:١٣٢٦٧أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يَحْيَى بْنِ عَبْدِ الْجَبَّارِ السُّكَّرِيُّ بِبَغْدَادَ أنبأ إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ الصَّفَّارُ ثنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ ثنا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ أنبأ مَعْمَرٌ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي ثَوْرٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عَبَّاسٍ ؓ قَالَ

لَمْ أَزَلْ حَرِيصًا أَنْ أَسْأَلَ عُمَرَ ؓ عَنِ الْمَرْأَتَيْنِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ اللَّتَيْنِ قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} [التحريم 4] حَتَّى حَجَّ عُمَرُ ؓ وَحَجَجْتُ مَعَهُ فَلَمَّا كَانَ بِبَعْضِ الطَّرِيقِ عَدَلَ عُمَرُ ؓ لِحَاجَتِهِ وَعَدَلْتُ مَعَهُ بِالْإِدَاوَةِ فَتَبَرَّزَ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَسَكَبْتُ عَلَى يَدَيْهِ فَتَوَضَّأَ فَقُلْتُ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ مَنِ الْمَرْأَتَانِ مِنْ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ اللَّتَانِ قَالَ اللهُ تَعَالَى {إِنْ تَتُوبَا إِلَى اللهِ فَقَدْ صَغَتْ قُلُوبُكُمَا} [التحريم 4]؟ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ وَاعَجَبًا لَكَ يَا ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ رَحِمَهُ اللهُ تَعَالَى كَرِهَ وَاللهِ مَا سَأَلَهُ عَنْهُ وَلَمْ يَكْتُمْهُ قَالَ هِيَ حَفْصَةُ وَعَائِشَةُ ثُمَّ أَخَذَ يَسُوقُ الْحَدِيثَ فَقَالَ كُنَّا مَعْشَرَ قُرَيْشٍ قَوْمًا نَغْلِبُ النِّسَاءَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ وَجَدْنَا قَوْمًا تَغْلِبُهُمْ نِسَاؤُهُمْ فَطَفِقَ نِسَاؤُنَا يَتَعَلَّمْنَ مِنْ نِسَائِهِمْ قَالَ وَكَانَ مَنْزِلِي فِي بَنِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ زَيْدٍ بِالْعَوَالِي فَتَغَضَّبْتُ يَوْمًا عَلَى امْرَأَتِي فَإِذَا هِيَ تُرَاجِعُنِي فَأَنْكَرْتُ أَنْ تُرَاجِعَنِي فَقَالَتْ مَا تُنْكِرُ أَنْ أُرَاجِعَكَ فَوَاللهِ إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ يُرَاجِعْنَهُ وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ قَالَ فَانْطَلَقْتُ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ فَقُلْتُ أَتُرَاجِعِينَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ؟ فَقَالَتْ نَعَمْ قُلْتُ وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ؟ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ قُلْتُ قَدْ خَابَ مَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْكُنَّ وَخَسِرَ أَفَتَأْمَنُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ أَنْ يَغْضَبَ اللهُ عَلَيْهَا لِغَضَبِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَإِذَا هِيَ قَدْ هَلَكَتْ؟ لَا تُرَاجِعِي رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ وَلَا تَسْأَلِيهِ شَيْئًا وَسَلِينِي مَا بَدَا لَكِ وَلَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ إِنْ كَانَتْ جَارَتُكِ هِيَ أَوْسَمُ وَأَحَبُّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ مِنْكِ يُرِيدُ عَائِشَةَ قَالَ وَكَانَ لِي جَارٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ وَكُنَّا نَتَنَاوَبُ النُّزُولَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَيَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا وَأَنْزِلُ يَوْمًا فَيَأْتِينِي بِخَبَرِ الْوَحْيِ وَغَيْرِهِ وَآتِيهِ بِمِثْلِ ذَلِكَ قَالَ وَكُنَّا نَتَحَدَّثُ أَنَّ غَسَّانَ تَنَعَّلَ الْخَيْلَ لِغَزْوِنَا فَنَزَلَ صَاحِبِي يَوْمًا ثُمَّ أَتَانِي عِشَاءً فَضَرَبَ بَابِي ثُمَّ نَادَانِي فَخَرَجْتُ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ حَدَثَ أَمْرٌ عَظِيمٌ قَالَ قُلْتُ مَاذَا أَجَاءَتْ غَسَّانُ؟ قَالَ بَلْ أَعْظَمُ مِنْ ذَلِكَ وَأَطْوَلُ طَلَّقَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ نِسَاءَهُ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ قَدْ خَابَتْ وَخَسِرَتْ قَدْ كُنْتُ أَظُنُّ هَذَا كَائِنًا حَتَّى إِذَا صَلَّيْتُ الصُّبْحَ شَدَدْتُ عَلَيَّ ثِيَابِي ثُمَّ نَزَلْتُ فَدَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ وَهِيَ تَبْكِي فَقُلْتُ أَطَلَّقَكُنَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ؟ قَالَتْ لَا أَدْرِي هُوَ هَذَا مُعْتَزِلًا فِي هَذِهِ الْمَشْرُبَةِ فَأَتَيْتُ غُلَامًا لَهُ أَسْوَدُ فَقُلْتُ اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَ الْغُلَامُ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ فَقَالَ قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ فَصَمَتَ فَانْطَلَقْتُ حَتَّى أَتَيْتُ الْمَسْجِدَ فَإِذَا قَوْمٌ حَوْلَ الْمِنْبَرِ جُلُوسٌ يَبْكِي بَعْضُهُمْ فَجَلَسْتُ قَلِيلًا حَتَّى غَلَبَنِي مَا أَجِدُ فَأَتَيْتُ الْغُلَامَ فَقُلْتُ اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ فَقَالَ قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ فَصَمَتَ فَخَرَجْتُ فَجَلَسْتُ إِلَى الْمِنْبَرِ ثُمَّ غَلَبَنِي مَا أَجِدُ فَأَتَيْتُ الْغُلَامَ فَقُلْتُ اسْتَأْذِنْ لِعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَ ثُمَّ خَرَجَ إِلِيَّ فَقَالَ قَدْ ذَكَرْتُكَ لَهُ فَصَمَتَ قَالَ فَوَلَّيْتُ مُدْبِرًا فَإِذَا الْغُلَامُ يَدْعُونِي فَقَالَ ادْخُلْ قَدْ أَذِنَ لَكَ فَدَخَلْتُ فَسَلَّمْتُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَإِذَا هُوَ مُتَّكِئٌ عَلَى رِمَالِ حَصِيرٍ قَدْ أَثَّرَ فِي جَنْبِهِ فَقُلْتُ أَطَلَّقْتَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ نِسَاءَكَ؟ قَالَ فَرَفَعَ رَأْسَهُ إِلِيَّ وَقَالَ لَا فَقُلْتُ اللهُ أَكْبَرُ لَوْ رَأَيْتَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَكُنَّا مَعْشَرَ قُرَيْشٍ قَوْمًا نَغْلِبُ النِّسَاءَ فَلَمَّا قَدِمْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ وَجَدْنَا قَوْمًا تَغْلِبُهُمْ نِسَاؤُهُمْ فَطَفِقَ نِسَاؤُنَا يَتَعَلَّمْنَ فَتَغَضَّبْتُ عَلَى امْرَأَتِي يَوْمًا وَإِذَا هِيَ تُرَاجِعُنِي يَعْنِي فَأَنْكَرْتُ فَقَالَتْ مَا تُنْكِرُ أَنْ أُرَاجِعَكَ فَوَاللهِ إِنَّ أَزْوَاجَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ لَيُرَاجِعْنَهُ وَتَهْجُرُهُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ الْيَوْمَ إِلَى اللَّيْلِ فَقُلْتُ قَدْ خَابَ مَنْ فَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِنْهُنَّ وَخَسِرَ أَفَتَأْمَنُ إِحْدَاهُنَّ أَنْ يَغْضَبَ اللهُ عَلَيْهَا لِغَضَبِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ؟ فَإِذَا هِيَ قَدْ هَلَكَتْ فَتَبَسَّمَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ يَعْنِي قَدْ دَخَلْتُ عَلَى حَفْصَةَ فَقُلْتُ لَا يَغُرَّنَّكِ إِنْ كَانَتْ جَارَتُكِ هِيَ أَوْسَمُ مِنْكِ وَأَحَبُّ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ مِنْكِ فَتَبَسَّمَ أُخْرَى فَقُلْتُ اسْتَأْنِسْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ نَعَمْ فَجَلَسْتُ فَرَفَعْتُ رَأْسِي فِي الْبَيْتِ فَوَاللهِ مَا رَأَيْتُ فِيهِ شَيْئًا يَرُدُّ الْبَصَرَ إِلَّا أُهُبًا ثَلَاثَةً فَقُلْتُ ادْعُ اللهَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَنْ يُوَسِّعَ عَلَى أُمَّتِكَ فَقَدْ وَسَّعَ عَلَى فَارِسَ وَالرُّومِ وَهُمْ لَا يَعْبُدُونَ اللهَ فَاسْتَوَى جَالِسًا فَقَالَ أَفِي شَكٍّ أَنْتَ يَا ابْنَ الْخَطَّابِ؟ أُولَئِكَ قَوْمٌ قَدْ عُجِّلَتْ لَهُمْ طَيِّبَاتُهُمْ فِي الْحَيَاةِ الدُّنْيَا فَقُلْتُ أَسْتَغْفِرُ اللهَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ وَكَانَ أَقْسَمَ أَنْ لَا يَدْخُلَ عَلَيْهِنَّ شَهْرًا مِنْ شِدَّةِ مَوْجِدَتِهِ عَلَيْهِمْ حَتَّى عَاتَبَهُ اللهُ ﷻ قَالَ الزُّهْرِيُّ فَأَخْبَرَنِي عُرْوَةُ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ؓ قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا مَضَتْ تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ لَيْلَةً دَخَلَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ بَدَأَ بِي فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَقْسَمْتَ أَنْ لَا تَدْخُلَ عَلَيْنَا تَعْنِي شَهْرًا إِنَّكَ دَخَلْتَ عَلَيَّ مِنْ تِسْعٍ وَعِشْرِينَ أَعُدُّهُنَّ قَالَ إِنَّ الشَّهْرَ تِسْعٌ وَعِشْرُونَ ثُمَّ قَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنِّي ذَاكِرٌ لَكِ أَمْرًا فَلَا عَلَيْكِ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَ ثُمَّ قَرَأَ عَلَيَّ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِي قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا} [الأحزاب 28] الْآيَةَ قَالَتْ قَدْ عَلِمَ وَاللهِ أَنَّ أَبَوِيَّ لَمْ يَكُونَا يَأْمُرَانِي بِفِرَاقِهِ قَالَتْ قُلْتُ أَفِي هَذَا أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوِيَّ فَإِنِّي أُرِيدُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ قَالَ مَعْمَرٌ وَأَخْبَرَنِي أَيُّوبُ قَالَ فَقَالَتْ لَهُ عَائِشَةُ لَا تَقُلْ إِنِّي اخْتَرْتُكَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنَّمَا بُعِثْتُ مُبَلِّغًا وَلَمْ أُبْعَثْ مُتَعَنِّتًا  

رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ عَنْ إِسْحَاقَ بْنِ إِبْرَاهِيمَ وَمُحَمَّدِ بْنِ أَبِي عُمَرَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ بِطُولِهِ
bayhaqi:13268[Chain 1] Abū ʿAbdullāh al-Ḥāfiẓ > Abū al-ʿAbbās Muḥammad b. Yaʿqūb > Muḥammad b. Isḥāq al-Ṣaghānī [Chain 2] Aḥmad b. Salmān al-Faqīh> al-Ḥasan b. Mukram > Rawḥ b. ʿUbādah > Zakariyyā b. Isḥāq > Abū al-Zubayr > Jābir > Jāʾ

Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) came and sought permission to see Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He found people sitting at his door and none amongst them had been granted permission, but it was granted to Abu Bakr and he went in. Then came 'Umar and he sought permission and it was granted to him, and he found Allah's Apostle ﷺ sitting sad and silent with his wives around him. He (Hadrat 'Umar) said: I would say something which would make the Prophet ﷺ laugh, so he said: Messenger of Allah, I wish you had seen (the treatment meted out to) the daughter ofKhadija when you asked me some money, and I got up and slapped her on her neck. Messenger of Allah (mav peace be upon him) laughed and said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) then got up went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and slapped her on the neck, and 'Umar stood up before Hafsa and slapped her saying: You ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ which he does not possess. They said: By Allah, we do not ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ for anything he does not possess. Then he withdrew from them for a month or for twenty-nine days. Then this verse was revealed to him:" Prophet: Say to thy wives... for a mighty reward" (xxxiii. 28). He then went first to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said: I want to propound something to you, 'A'isha, but wish no hasty reply before you consult your parents. She said: Messenger of Allah, what is that? He (the Holy Prophet) recited to her the verse, whereupon she said: Is it about you that I should consult my parents, Messenger of Allah? Nay, I choose Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Abode; but I ask you not to tell any of your wives what I have said He replied: Not one of them will ask me without my informing her. God did not send me to be harsh, or cause harm, but He has sent me to teach and make things easy. (Using translation from Muslim 1478)   

البيهقي:١٣٢٦٨أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الصَّغَانِيُّ ح قَالَ وَأَخْبَرَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ سَلْمَانَ الْفَقِيهُ بِبَغْدَادَ ثنا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُكْرَمٍ قَالَا ثنا رَوْحُ بْنُ عُبَادَةَ ثنا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ ثنا أَبُو الزُّبَيْرِ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ جَاءَ

أَبُو بَكْرٍ ؓ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَوَجَدَ النَّاسَ جُلُوسًا عَلَى بَابِهِ لَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لِأَحَدٍ مِنْهُمْ قَالَ فَأُذِنَ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ ؓ فَدَخَلَ ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ عُمَرُ ؓ فَاسْتَأْذَنَ فَأُذِنَ لَهُ فَدَخَلَ فَوَجَدَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ جَالِسًا حَوْلَهُ نِسَاؤُهُ وَاجِمٌ سَاكِتٌ قَالَ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ لَأَقُولَنَّ شَيْئًا أُضْحِكُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ لَوْ رَأَيْتَ ابْنَةَ خَارِجَةَ سَأَلْتَنِي النَّفَقَةَ فَقُمْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَوَجَأْتُ عُنُقَهَا قَالَ فَضَحِكَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ وَهُنَّ حَوْلِي كَمَا تَرَى يَسْأَلْنَنِي النَّفَقَةَ قَالَ فَقَامَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ ؓ إِلَى عَائِشَةَ فَوَجَأَ عُنُقَهَا وَقَامَ عُمَرُ ؓ إِلَى حَفْصَةَ فَوَجَأَ عُنُقَهَا وَكِلَاهُمَا يَقُولُ تَسْأَلْنَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ؟ فَقُلْنَ وَاللهِ لَا نَسْأَلُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ ثُمَّ اعْتَزَلَهُنَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ شَهْرًا أَوْ تِسْعَةً وَعِشْرِينَ يَوْمًا ثُمَّ نَزَلَتْ هَذِهِ الْآيَةُ {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا} [الأحزاب 28] حَتَّى بَلَغَ {لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} [الأحزاب 29] قَالَ فَبَدَأَ بِعَائِشَةَ ؓ فَقَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنِّي أُحِبُّ أَنْ أَعْرِضَ عَلَيْكَ أَمْرًا فَأُحِبُّ أَنْ لَا تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَشِيرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَتْ وَمَا هُوَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ فَتَلَا عَلَيْهَا الْآيَةَ قَالَتْ أَفِيكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَسْتَشِيرُ أَبَوِيَّ بَلْ أَخْتَارُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ أَسْأَلُكَ أَلَّا تُخَيِّرَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِكَ بِالَّذِي قُلْتَ قَالَ لَا تَسْأَلُنِي امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ إِلَّا أَخْبَرْتُهَا إِنَّ اللهَ لَمْ يَبْعَثْنِي مُعَنِّتًا وَلَكِنْ بَعَثَنِي مُعَلِّمًا مُيَسِّرًا  

رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ عَنْ زُهَيْرِ بْنِ حَرْبٍ عَنْ رَوْحِ بْنِ عُبَادَةَ
bayhaqi:13269[Chain 1] Abū Naṣr Muḥammad b. ʿAlī al-Shīrāzī al-Faqīh > Abū ʿAbdullāh Muḥammad b. Yaʿqūb al-Akhram > Muḥammad b. ʿAbd al-Wahhāb And ʿAlī b. al-Ḥasan > ʿAlī > Muḥammad > Yaʿlá b. ʿUbayd > Ismāʿīl [Chain 2] Abū ʿAbdullāh > Jaʿfar b. Muḥammad > Yaḥyá b. Yaḥyá > ʿAbthar > Ismāʿīl b. Abū Khālid > al-Shaʿbī > Masrūq > ʿĀʾishah

[Machine] God's Messenger has given us the choice, so we did not consider it as divorce.  

البيهقي:١٣٢٦٩أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو نَصْرٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ الشِّيرَازِيُّ الْفَقِيهُ ثنا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ الْأَخْرَمُ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْوَهَّابِ وَعَلِيُّ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ قَالَ عَلِيٌّ ثنا وَقَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ أنبأ يَعْلَى بْنُ عُبَيْدٍ أنبأ إِسْمَاعِيلُ ح قَالَ أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ وَثَنَا جَعْفَرُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ ثنا يَحْيَى بْنُ يَحْيَى أَخْبَرَنِي عَبْثَرٌ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ أَبِي خَالِدٍ عَنِ الشَّعْبِيِّ عَنْ مَسْرُوقٍ قَالَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ

ؓ قَدْ خَيَّرَنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَلَمْ نَعُدَّهُ طَلَاقًا  

رَوَاهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ يَحْيَى وَأَخْرَجَهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ مِنْ وَجْهٍ آخَرَ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ
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[Machine] Who sought refuge from Al-Zuhri and what did he say in response? Aisha reported that when the daughter of Al-Jawn Al-Kalabiyyah was brought to the Prophet ﷺ , she said, "I seek refuge in Allah from you." He said, "You have sought refuge in a Great Protector against harm to your family."  

البيهقي:١٣٢٧٠أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ الْقَاضِي وَأَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ السُّوسِيُّ قَالُوا ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ ثنا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ الصَّغَانِيُّ أنبأ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَسَدٍ أنبأ الْوَلِيدُ بْنُ مُسْلِمٍ عَنِ الْأَوْزَاعِيِّ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ

الزُّهْرِيَّ أِيُّ أَزْوَاجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ اسْتَعَاذَتْ مِنْهُ؟ فَقَالَ حَدَّثَنِي عُرْوَةُ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ؓ أَنَّ ابْنَةَ الْجَوْنِ الْكِلَابِيَّةَ لَمَّا أُدْخِلَتْ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَتْ أَعُوذُ بِاللهِ مِنْكَ قَالَ لَقَدْ عُذْتِ بِعَظِيمٍ الْحَقِي بِأَهْلِكِ  

رَوَاهُ الْبُخَارِيُّ فِي الصَّحِيحِ عَنِ الْحُمَيْدِيِّ عَنِ الْوَلِيدِ بْنِ مُسْلِمٍ