39. Marriage
٣٩۔ كِتَابُ النِّكَاحِ
[Machine] The Prophet ﷺ said, "None of you should give a sermon over the sermon of his brother." Abu Bakr ibn al-Hassan and Abu Zakariya ibn Abi Ishaq reported to us that Abu al-Abbas Muhammad ibn Ya'qub informed us that Muhammad ibn Abdullah ibn Abd al-Hakam narrated to us that Ibn Wahb informed me that Yunus ibn Yazid reported from Ibn Shihab, who said that Sa'id ibn al-Musayyib told me that Abu Huraira narrated from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ regarding this.
قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ لَا يَخْطُبُ أَحَدُكُمْ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ 14030 وَأَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ وَأَبُو زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ أَبِي إِسْحَاقَ قَالَا ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ أنبأ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الْحَكَمِ أنبأ ابْنُ وَهْبٍ أَخْبَرَنِي يُونُسُ بْنُ يَزِيدَ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي سَعِيدُ بْنُ الْمُسَيِّبِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ بِذَلِكَ
[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "None of you should propose on the proposal of his brother, nor should he sell upon the sale of his brother."
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ لَا يَخْطُبُ أَحَدُكُمْ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ وَلَا يَبِيعُ عَلَى بَيْعِ أَخِيهِ
The Prophet ﷺ decreed that one should not try to cancel a bargain already agreed upon between some other persons (by offering a bigger price). And a man should not ask for the hand of a girl who is already engaged to his Muslim brother, unless the first suitor gives her up, or allows him to ask for her hand. (Using translation from Bukhārī 5142)
أَنَّ ابْنَ عُمَرَ ؓ كَانَ يَقُولُ نَهَى رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَبِيعَ بَعْضُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ بَعْضٍ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَتْرُكَ الْخَاطِبُ قَبْلَهُ أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ الْخَاطِبُ
[Machine] "That the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'None of you should sell upon the sale of his brother, nor should he propose to a woman who has already been proposed to by his brother, except with his permission.' This is the wording of the Hadith of Muhammad bin 'Ubayd, and in the narration of Yahya, 'except with his permission.'"
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ لَا يَبِيعَنَّ أَحَدُكُمْ عَلَى بَيْعِ أَخِيهِ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ لَفْظُ حَدِيثِ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عُبَيْدٍ وَفِي رِوَايَةِ يَحْيَى إِلَّا أَنْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ
[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ prohibited a man from proposing to the sister of his brother until he is rejected or given permission.
نَهَى رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَخْطُبَ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَرُدَّ أَوْ يَأْذَنَ لَهُ
[Machine] "From the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, beware of suspicion, for indeed, suspicion is the most false of speech. And do not pry and do not investigate, and do not have enmity, and do not plot. And be servants of Allah as brothers. And let not a man propose marriage to his brother's fiancee until he either marries her or leaves her. And a woman should not be together in seclusion with her husband's uncle and not with her husband's paternal aunt. And a woman should not observe fasting when her husband is present unless she has his permission. And she should not give permission for someone to enter her husband's house when he is present without his permission. So whatever she spends from what she has earned, then she will have half of its reward. And a woman should not seek divorce for the sake of emptying the vessel of her companion, but rather she should get married, for indeed, she has what is destined for her."
عَنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ إِيَّاكُمْ وَالظَّنَّ فَإِنَّ الظَّنَّ أَكْذَبُ الْحَدِيثِ وَلَا تَحَسَّسُوا وَلَا تَجَسَّسُوا وَلَا تَبَاغَضُوا وَلَا تَدَابَرُوا وَكُونُوا عِبَادَ اللهِ إِخْوَانًا وَلَا يَخْطُبَنَّ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَنْكِحَ أَوْ يَتْرُكَ وَلَا يُجْمَعُ بَيْنَ الْمَرْأَةِ وَعَمَّتِهَا وَلَا بَيْنَهَا وَخَالَتِهَا وَلَا تَصُومُ الْمَرْأَةُ وَزَوْجُهَا شَاهِدٌ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ وَلَا تَأْذَنُ فِي بَيْتِهِ وَهُوَ شَاهِدٌ إِلَّا بِإِذْنِهِ فَمَا تَصَدَّقَتْ بِهِ مِمَّا يَكْسِبُ عَلَيْهَا فَإِنَّ لَهُ نِصْفَ أَجْرِهِ وَلَا تَسْأَلُ الْمَرْأَةُ طَلَاقَ أُخْتِهَا لِتَسْتَفْرِغَ إِنَاءَ صَاحِبَتِهَا وَلْتَنْكِحْ فَإِنَّ لَهَا مَا قُدِّرَ لَهَا
A believer is the brother of a believer, so it is not lawful for a believer to outbid his brother, and he should not propose an engagement when his brother has thus proposed until he gives it up. (Using translation from Muslim 1414)
أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ عُقْبَةَ بْنَ عَامِرٍ عَلَى الْمِنْبَرِ يَقُولُ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ الْمُؤْمِنُ أَخُو الْمُؤْمِنِ فَلَا يَحِلُّ لِمُؤْمِنٍ أَنْ يَبْتَاعَ عَلَى بَيْعِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَذَرَ وَلَا يَخْطُبُ عَلَى خِطْبَةِ أَخِيهِ حَتَّى يَذَرَ
[Machine] He proposed to the daughter of Abu Jahl and a man used to propose to her. So the man came and said, "Are you proposing to the daughter of Abu Jahl?" He said, "Yes, I have left her." He said, "You have left her and have no need for her?" He said, "Yes." He said, "I want to propose to her." He said, "Propose to her if you are on the right path." So he proposed to her, then he appeared to have left her and Allah knows best.
يَخْطُبَ بِنْتَ أَبِي جَهْلٍ وَكَانَ رَجُلٌ يَخْطُبُهَا فَأَتَى الرَّجُلُ فَقَالَ تَخْطُبُ ابْنَةَ أَبِي جَهْلٍ؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَدْ تَرَكْتُهَا فَقَالَ قَدْ تَرَكْتَهَا وَلَا حَاجَةَ لَكَ بِهَا؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَخْطُبَهَا قَالَ اخْطُبْهَا رَاشِدًا قَالَ فَخَطَبَهَا ثُمَّ بَدَا لَهُ فَتَرَكَهَا وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ