Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) came and sought permission to see Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He found people sitting at his door and none amongst them had been granted permission, but it was granted to Abu Bakr and he went in. Then came 'Umar and he sought permission and it was granted to him, and he found Allah's Apostle ﷺ sitting sad and silent with his wives around him. He (Hadrat 'Umar) said: I would say something which would make the Prophet ﷺ laugh, so he said: Messenger of Allah, I wish you had seen (the treatment meted out to) the daughter ofKhadija when you asked me some money, and I got up and slapped her on her neck. Messenger of Allah (mav peace be upon him) laughed and said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) then got up went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and slapped her on the neck, and 'Umar stood up before Hafsa and slapped her saying: You ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ which he does not possess. They said: By Allah, we do not ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ for anything he does not possess. Then he withdrew from them for a month or for twenty-nine days. Then this verse was revealed to him:" Prophet: Say to thy wives... for a mighty reward" (xxxiii. 28). He then went first to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said: I want to propound something to you, 'A'isha, but wish no hasty reply before you consult your parents. She said: Messenger of Allah, what is that? He (the Holy Prophet) recited to her the verse, whereupon she said: Is it about you that I should consult my parents, Messenger of Allah? Nay, I choose Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Abode; but I ask you not to tell any of your wives what I have said He replied: Not one of them will ask me without my informing her. God did not send me to be harsh, or cause harm, but He has sent me to teach and make things easy.  

دَخَلَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَوَجَدَ النَّاسَ جُلُوسًا بِبَابِهِ لَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لأَحَدٍ مِنْهُمْ قَالَ فَأُذِنَ لأَبِي بَكْرٍ فَدَخَلَ ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ عُمَرُ فَاسْتَأْذَنَ فَأُذِنَ لَهُ فَوَجَدَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ جَالِسًا حَوْلَهُ نِسَاؤُهُ وَاجِمًا سَاكِتًا قَالَ فَقَالَ لأَقُولَنَّ شَيْئًا أُضْحِكُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَوْ رَأَيْتَ بِنْتَ خَارِجَةَ سَأَلَتْنِي النَّفَقَةَ فَقُمْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَوَجَأْتُ عُنُقَهَا فَضَحِكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ هُنَّ حَوْلِي كَمَا تَرَى يَسْأَلْنَنِي النَّفَقَةَ فَقَامَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِلَى عَائِشَةَ يَجَأُ عُنُقَهَا فَقَامَ عُمَرُ إِلَى حَفْصَةَ يَجَأُ عُنُقَهَا كِلاَهُمَا يَقُولُ تَسْأَلْنَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ فَقُلْنَ وَاللَّهِ لاَ نَسْأَلُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ شَيْئًا أَبَدًا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ ثُمَّ اعْتَزَلَهُنَّ شَهْرًا أَوْ تِسْعًا وَعِشْرِينَ ثُمَّ نَزَلَتْ عَلَيْهِ هَذِهِ الآيَةُ { يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لأَزْوَاجِكَ} حَتَّى بَلَغَ { لِلْمُحْسِنَاتِ مِنْكُنَّ أَجْرًا عَظِيمًا} قَالَ فَبَدَأَ بِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَعْرِضَ عَلَيْكَ أَمْرًا أُحِبُّ أَنْ لاَ تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَشِيرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَتْ وَمَا هُوَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَتَلاَ عَلَيْهَا الآيَةَ قَالَتْ أَفِيكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَسْتَشِيرُ أَبَوَىَّ بَلْ أَخْتَارُ اللَّهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الآخِرَةَ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ لاَ تُخْبِرَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِكَ بِالَّذِي قُلْتُ قَالَ لاَ تَسْأَلُنِي امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ إِلاَّ أَخْبَرْتُهَا إِنَّ اللَّهَ لَمْ يَبْعَثْنِي مُعَنِّتًا وَلاَ مُتَعَنِّتًا وَلَكِنْ بَعَثَنِي مُعَلِّمًا مُيَسِّرًا  

[Machine] Abu Bakr came and sought permission from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ while the people were sitting at his door. Permission was not granted to him. Then 'Umar came and sought permission but it was not granted to him. When Abu Bakr and 'Umar both asked for permission, he granted them permission and they entered. The Prophet ﷺ was sitting and his wives were around him. He was silent. 'Umar said to him, "O Messenger of Allah, if you see Bint Zaid, you will surely laugh." The Prophet ﷺ laughed until his canine teeth were visible. He said, "They are here around me and ask me for money. By Allah, I never treated them unjustly." Then Abu Bakr went towards 'Aishah in order to strike her, and 'Umar went towards Hafsah, and both of them said, "You ask the Messenger of Allah ﷺ that which is not with him." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ stopped them and said, "I only dislike that you both speak to me about something I do not have." Allah the Almighty then revealed the verse: "O Prophet! Say to your wives..." (Quran 33:28) 'Aishah said, "O Messenger of Allah, is it me you are directing to consult my parents? I choose Allah and His Messenger and I ask you not to mention anything about a woman among your wives that you dislike." He replied, "Allah did not send me to cause hardship or be harsh, rather He sent me as a teacher and to make things easy. Do not ask me about a woman from among them what I have chosen."  

أَقْبَلَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ وَالنَّاسُ بِبَابِهِ جُلُوسٌ فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لَهُ ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ عُمَرُ فَاسْتَأْذَنَ فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لَهُ ثُمَّ أُذِنَ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَا وَالنَّبِيُّ ﷺ جَالِسٌ وَحَوْلَهُ نِسَاؤُهُ وَهُوَ سَاكِتٌ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ لَأُكَلِّمَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَعَلَّهُ يَضْحَكُ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ لَوْ رَأَيْتَ بِنْتَ زَيْدٍ امْرَأَةَ عُمَرَ سَأَلَتْنِي النَّفَقَةَ آنِفًا فَوَجَأْتُ عُنُقَهَا فَضَحِكَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ حَتَّى بَدَا نَاجِذُهُ قَالَ هُنَّ حَوْلِي كَمَا تَرَى يَسْأَلْنَنِي النَّفَقَةَ فَقَامَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِلَى عَائِشَةَ لِيَضْرِبَهَا وَقَامَ عُمَرُ إِلَى حَفْصَةَ كِلَاهُمَا يَقُولَانِ تَسْأَلَانِ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ فَنَهَاهُمَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقُلْنَ نِسَاؤُهُ وَاللهِ لَا نَسْأَلُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ بَعْدَ هَذَا الْمَجْلِسِمَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ قَالَ وَأَنْزَلَ اللهُ ﷻ الْخِيَارَ فَبَدَأَ بِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَ إِنِّي ذاكِرٌ لَكِ أَمْرًا مَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ قَالَتْ مَا هُوَ؟ قَالَ فَتَلَا عَلَيْهَا {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ} [الأحزاب 28] الْآيَةَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ أَفِيكَ أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوَيَّ؟ بَلْ أَخْتَارُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ لَا تَذْكُرَ لِامْرَأَةٍ مِنْ نِسَائِكَ مَا اخْتَرْتُ فَقَالَ إِنَّ اللهَ لَمْ يَبْعَثْنِي مُعَنِّفًا وَلَكِنْ بَعَثَنِي مُعَلِّمًا مُيَسِّرًا لَا تَسْأَلُنِي امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ عَمَّا اخْتَرْتِ إِلَّا أَخْبَرْتُهَا  

Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) came and sought permission to see Messenger of Allah ﷺ. He found people sitting at his door and none amongst them had been granted permission, but it was granted to Abu Bakr and he went in. Then came 'Umar and he sought permission and it was granted to him, and he found Allah's Apostle ﷺ sitting sad and silent with his wives around him. He (Hadrat 'Umar) said: I would say something which would make the Prophet ﷺ laugh, so he said: Messenger of Allah, I wish you had seen (the treatment meted out to) the daughter ofKhadija when you asked me some money, and I got up and slapped her on her neck. Messenger of Allah (mav peace be upon him) laughed and said: They are around me as you see, asking for extra money. Abu Bakr (Allah be pleased with him) then got up went to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and slapped her on the neck, and 'Umar stood up before Hafsa and slapped her saying: You ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ which he does not possess. They said: By Allah, we do not ask Messenger of Allah ﷺ for anything he does not possess. Then he withdrew from them for a month or for twenty-nine days. Then this verse was revealed to him:" Prophet: Say to thy wives... for a mighty reward" (xxxiii. 28). He then went first to 'A'isha (Allah be pleased with her) and said: I want to propound something to you, 'A'isha, but wish no hasty reply before you consult your parents. She said: Messenger of Allah, what is that? He (the Holy Prophet) recited to her the verse, whereupon she said: Is it about you that I should consult my parents, Messenger of Allah? Nay, I choose Allah, His Messenger, and the Last Abode; but I ask you not to tell any of your wives what I have said He replied: Not one of them will ask me without my informing her. God did not send me to be harsh, or cause harm, but He has sent me to teach and make things easy. (Using translation from Muslim 1478)   

أَقْبَلَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَسْتَأْذِنُ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ وَالنَّاسُ بِبَابِهِ جُلُوسٌ فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لَهُ ثُمَّ أَقْبَلَ عُمَرُ فَاسْتَأْذَنَ فَلَمْ يُؤْذَنْ لَهُ فَجَلَسَ ثُمَّ أَذِنَ لِأَبِي بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرَ فَدَخَلَا وَالنَّبِيُّ ﷺ جَالِسٌ وَحَوْلَهُ نِسَاؤُهُ وَهُوَ سَاكِتٌ وَاجِمٌ قَالَ عُمَرُ «لَأُكَلِّمَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ لَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَضْحَكَ» قَالَ عُمَرُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ لَوْ رَأَيْتَ ابْنَةَ زَيْدٍ امْرَأَةَ عُمَرَ سَأَلَتْنِي النَّفَقَةَ آنِفًا فَوَجَأْتُ عُنُقَهَا فَضَحِكَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ حَتَّى بَدَتْ نَوَاجِذُهُ قَالَ «هُنَّ حَوْلِي كَمَا تَرَى يَسْأَلْنَنِي النَّفَقَةَ» فَقَامَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ إِلَى عَائِشَةَ لِيَضْرِبَهَا وَقَامَ عُمَرُ إِلَى حَفْصَةَ كِلَاهُمَا يَقُولُ تَسْأَلَانِ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ فَنَهَاهُمَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقُلْنَ نِسَاؤُهُ وَاللهِ لَا نَسْأَلُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ بَعْدَ هَذَا الْمَجْلِسِ مَا لَيْسَ عِنْدَهُ فَأَنْزَلَ اللهُ تَعَالَى الْخِيَارُ فَبَدَأَ بِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَ «إِنِّي أُرِيدُ أَنْ أَذْكُرَ لَكِ شَيْئًا لَا أُحِبُّ أَنْ تَعْجَلِي فِيهِ حَتَّى تَسْتَأْمِرِي أَبَوَيْكِ» قَالَتْ وَمَا هُوَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ فَتَلَا عَلَيْهَا {يَا أَيُّهَا النَّبِيُّ قُلْ لِأَزْوَاجِكَ إِنْ كُنْتُنَّ تُرِدْنَ الْحَيَاةَ الدُّنْيَا وَزِينَتِهَا فَتَعَالَيْنَ أُمَتِّعْكُنَّ} [الأحزاب 28] قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ «أَفِيكَ أَسْتَأْمِرُ أَبَوَيَّ؟ بَلْ أَخْتَارُ اللهَ وَرَسُولَهُ وَالدَّارَ الْآخِرَةَ وَأَسْأَلُكَ أَنْ لَا تَذْكُرَ لِامْرَأَةٍ مِنْ نِسَائِكَ مَا اخْتَرْتُ» فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «إِنَّ اللهَ لَمْ يَبْعَثْنِي مُعَنِّفًا وَلَكِنْ مُعَلِّمًا مُبَشِّرًا لَا تَسْأَلُنِي امْرَأَةٌ مِنْهُنَّ عَمَّا اخْتَرْتِ إِلَّا أَخْبَرْتُهَا»