One of the daughters of ʿUthman died at Mecca. We went to attend her funeral procession. Ibn ʿUmar and Ibn ʿAbbas were also present. I sat in between them (or said, I sat beside one of them. Then a man came and sat beside me.) ʿAbdullah bin ʿUmar said to ʿAmr bin ʿUthman, "Will you not prohibit crying as Messenger of Allah ﷺ has said, 'The dead person is tortured by the crying of his relatives.?" Ibn ʿAbbas said, "ʿUmar used to say so." Then he added narrating, "I accompanied ʿUmar on a journey from Mecca till we reached Al-Baida. There he saw some travelers in the shade of a Samura (A kind of forest tree). He said (to me), "Go and see who those travelers are." So I went and saw that one of them was Suhaib. I told this to ʿUmar who then asked me to call him. So I went back to Suhaib and said to him, "Depart and follow the chief of the faithful believers." Later, when ʿUmar was stabbed, Suhaib came in weeping and saying, "O my brother, O my friend!" (on this ʿUmar said to him, "O Suhaib! Are you weeping for me while the Prophet ﷺ said, "The dead person is punished by some of the weeping of his relatives?" Ibn ʿAbbas added, "When ʿUmar died I told all this to Aisha and she said, 'May Allah be merciful to ʿUmar. By Allah, Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not say that a believer is punished by the weeping of his relatives. But he said, Allah increases the punishment of a non-believer because of the weeping of his relatives." Aisha further added, "The Qur'an is sufficient for you (to clear up this point) as Allah has stated: 'No burdened soul will bear another's burden.' " (35.18). Ibn ʿAbbas then said, "Only Allah makes one laugh or cry." Ibn ʿUmar did not say anything after that. (Using translation from Bukhārī 1286)
لِعُثْمَانَ ؓ بِمَكَّةَ وَجِئْنَا لِنَشْهَدَهَا قَالَ وَحَضَرَهَا ابْنُ عُمَرَ وَابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ وَإِنِّي لَجَالِسٌ بَيْنَهُمَا أَوْ قَالَ جَلَسْتُ إِلَى أَحَدِهِمَا ثُمَّ جَاءَ الْآخَرُ فَجَلَسَ إِلَى جَنْبِي فَقَالَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ عُمَرَ لِعَمْرِو بْنِ عُثْمَانَ أَلَا تَنْهَى النِّسَاءَ عَنِ الْبُكَاءِ فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ قَدْ كَانَ عُمَرُ ؓ يَقُولُ بَعْضَ ذَلِكَ ثُمَّ حَدَّثَ قَالَ صَدَرْتُ مَعَ عُمَرَ مِنْ مَكَّةَ حَتَّى كُنَّا بِالْبَيْدَاءِ إِذَا هُوَ بِرَكْبٍ تَحْتَ ظِلِّ شَجَرَةٍ فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ وَانْظُرْ إِلَى هَؤُلَاءِ الرَّكْبِ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ فَإِذَا هُوَ صُهَيْبٌ فَأَخْبَرْتُهُ قَالَ ادْعُهُ لِي فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَى صُهَيْبٍ فَقُلْتُ ارْتَحِلْ فَالْحَقْ أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ فَلَمَّا أُصِيبَ عُمَرُ دَخَلَ صُهَيْبٌ ؓ يَبْكِي يَقُولُ وَا أَخَاهُ وَا صَاحِبَاهُ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ يَا صُهَيْبُ أَتَبْكِي عَلَيَّ وَقَدْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبَعْضِ بُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ فَلَمَّا مَاتَ عُمَرُ ؓ ذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ ؓ فَقَالَتْ رَحِمَ اللهُ عُمَرَ وَاللهِ مَا حَدَّثَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنَّ اللهَ يُعَذِّبُ الْمُؤْمِنَ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ وَلَكِنْ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنَّ اللهَ لَيَزِيدُ الْكَافِرَ عَذَابًا بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ وَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ حَسْبُكُمُ الْقُرْآنُ {وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى} [الأنعام 164] قَالَ وَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ عِنْدَ ذَلِكَ وَاللهُ أَضْحَكَ وَأَبْكَى قَالَ ابْنُ أَبِي مُلَيْكَةَ فَوَاللهِ مَا قَالَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ شَيْئًا لَفْظُ حَدِيثِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ مُبَارَكٍ وَحَدِيثُ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ بِمَعْنَاهُ