"Do not wail over me, for no one wailed over the Messenger of Allah." This is an abridgment. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1851)   

«لَا تَنُوحُوا عَلَيَّ فَإِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ لَمْ يُنَحْ عَلَيْهِ»  

when the Messenger of Allah accepted the women's oath of allegiance, he accepted their pledge that they would not wail (over the death). They said: "O Messenger of Allah, there are women who helped us to mourn during the Jahiliyyah should we help them to mourn?" The Messenger of Allah said: "There is no helping to mourn in Islam." (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1852)  

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَخَذَ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ حِينَ بَايَعَهُنَّ أَنْ لَا يَنُحْنَ فَقُلْنَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءً أَسْعَدْنَنَا فِي الْجَاهِلِيَّةِ أَفَنُسْعِدُهُنَّ؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «لَا إِسْعَادَ فِي الْإِسْلَامِ»  

"I heard the Messenger of Allah say: 'The deceased is punished in his grave due to the wailing over him."' (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1853)  

سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ يُعَذَّبُ فِي قَبْرِهِ بِالنِّيَاحَةِ عَلَيْهِ»  

"The deceased is punished due to his family's wailing for him." A man said to him: "A man died in Khurasan and his family wailed for him here; will he be punished due to his family's wailing?" He said: "The Messenger of Allah spoke the truth and you are a liar." (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1854)   

لَهُ رَجُلٌ أَرَأَيْتَ رَجُلًا مَاتَ بِخُرَاسَانَ وَنَاحَ أَهْلُهُ عَلَيْهِ هَاهُنَا أَكَانَ يُعَذَّبُ بِنِيَاحَةِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ؟ قَالَ «صَدَقَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَكَذَبْتَ أَنْتَ»  

'The deceased is punished due to his family's weeping over him; Mention of that was made to 'Aishah and she said: 'He is wrong; rather the Prophet passed by a grave and said: The occupant of this grave is being punished and his family are weeping for him." Then she recited: And no bearer of burdens shall bear another's burden. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1855)  

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ فَذُكِرَ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَتْ وَهَلْ إِنَّمَا مَرَّ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ عَلَى قَبْرٍ فَقَالَ إِنَّ صَاحِبَ هَذَا الْقَبْرِ لَيُعَذَّبُ وَإِنَّ أَهْلَهُ يَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَرَأَتْ {وَلَا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى} [الأنعام 164]  

The dead is punished because of the lamentation of the living. Upon this 'A'isha said: May Allah have mercy upon the father of 'Abd al-Rahman (Ibn 'Umar). He did not tell a lie, but he forgot or made a mistake. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ happened to pass by a (dead) Jewess who was being lamented. Upon this he said: They weep over her and she is being punished in the grave. (Using translation from Muslim 932c)  

عَائِشَةُ يَغْفِرُ اللهُ لِأَبِي عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ أَمَا إِنَّهُ لَمْ يَكْذِبْ وَلَكِنَّهُ نَسِيَ أَوْ أَخْطَأَ إِنَّمَا مَرَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عَلَى يَهُودِيَّةٍ يُبْكَى عَلَيْهَا فَقَالَ «إِنَّهُمْ لَيَبْكُونَ عَلَيْهَا وَإِنَّهَا لَتُعَذَّبُ»  

"Aishah said: Rather the Messenger of Allah said: 'Allah, the Mighty and Sublime increases the punishment of the disbeliever due to some of his family's weeping for him."' (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1857)   

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «إِنَّ اللهَ يَزِيدُ الْكَافِرَ عَذَابًا بِبَعْضِ بُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ»  

"I heard Ibn Abi Mulaikah say: 'When Umm Aban died, I attended with the people. I sat in front of 'Abdullah bin 'Umar and Ibn 'Abbas, and the women wept. Ibn 'Umar said: 'Why don't you tell them not to weep? For I heard the Messenger of Allah say: The deceased is punished due to some of his family's weeping for him."' Ibn 'Abbas said: "Umar used to narrate something like that. I went out with 'Umar and when we got to on uninhabited area, he saw a caravan beneath a tree. He said: 'See whose caravan this is.' I went and I found Suhaib and his family. I came back to him and said: 'O Commander of the Believers! This is Suhaib and his family.' He said: 'Bring Suhaib to me.' When we entered Al-Madinah, 'Umar was attacked and Suhaib sat by him, weeping and saying, 'O my brother, O my brother.' 'Umar said: 'O Suhaib, do not weep, for I heard the Messenger of Allah say: The deceased is punished due to some of the weeping of his family for him. He said: I mentioned that to 'Aishah and she said: 'By Allah you are not narrating this Hadith from two liars who have disbelieved, but sometimes you mishear. And no bearer of burdens shall bear another's burden. And the Messenger of Allah said: 'Allah increases the punishment of the disbeliever because of his family's weeping for him."' (Using translation from Nasāʾī 1858)  

سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ» فَقَالَ ابْنُ عَبَّاسٍ قَدْ كَانَ عُمَرُ يَقُولُ بَعْضَ ذَلِكَ خَرَجْتُ مَعَ عُمَرَ حَتَّى إِذَا كُنَّا بِالْبَيْدَاءِ رَأَى رَكْبًا تَحْتَ شَجَرَةٍ فَقَالَ انْظُرْ مَنِ الرَّكْبُ فَذَهَبْتُ فَإِذَا صُهَيْبٌ وَأَهْلُهُ فَرَجَعْتُ إِلَيْهِ فَقُلْتُ يَا أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ هَذَا صُهَيْبٌ وَأَهْلُهُ فَقَالَ عَلَيَّ بِصُهَيْبٍ فَلَمَّا دَخَلْنَا الْمَدِينَةَ أُصِيبَ عُمَرُ فَجَلَسَ صُهَيْبٌ يَبْكِي عِنْدَهُ وَيَقُولُ وَا أُخَيَاهُ وَا أُخَيَاهُ قَالَ عُمَرُ يَا صُهَيْبُ لَا تَبْكِ عَلَيَّ فَإِنِّي سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «إِنَّ الْمَيِّتَ لَيُعَذَّبُ بِبَعْضِ بُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ» قَالَ فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِعَائِشَةَ فَقَالَتْ أَمَا وَاللهِ مَا تُحَدِّثُونِي هَذَا الْحَدِيثَ عَنْ كَاذِبِينَ وَلَا مُكَذَّبِينَ وَلَكِنَّ السَّمْعَ يُخْطِئُ وَإِنَّ لَكُمْ فِي الْقُرْآنِ لَمَا يَشْفِيكُمِ {أَلَّا تَزِرُ وَازِرَةٌ وِزْرَ أُخْرَى} [النجم 38] وَلَكِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ «إِنَّ اللهَ لَيَزِيدُ الْكَافِرَ عَذَابًا بِبُكَاءِ أَهْلِهِ عَلَيْهِ»