أَعَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ؟ فَقَالَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ أَنَّهُ قَالَ الْمُسْلِمُ إِذَا أَنْفَقَ نَفَقَةً عَلَى أَهْلِهِ وَهُوَ يَحْتَسِبُهَا كُتِبَتْ لَهُ صَدَقَةً  

The Prophet ﷺ came visiting me while I was (sick) in Mecca, ('Amir the sub-narrator said, and he disliked to die in the land, whence he had already migrated). He (i.e. the Prophet) said, "May Allah bestow His Mercy on Ibn Afra (Saʿd bin Khaula)." I said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! May I will all my property (in charity)?" He said, "No." I said, "Then may I will half of it?" He said, "No". I said, "One third?" He said: "Yes, one third, yet even one third is too much. It is better for you to leave your inheritors wealthy than to leave them poor begging others, and whatever you spend for Allah's sake will be considered as a charitable deed even the handful of food you put in your wife's mouth. Allah may lengthen your age so that some people may benefit by you, and some others be harmed by you." At that time Saʿd had only one daughter. (Using translation from Bukhārī 2742)   

جَاءَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يَعُودُنِي وَأَنَا بِمَكَّةَ وَهُوَ يَكْرَهُ أَنْ يَمُوتَ أَحَدُنَا بِالْأَرْضِ الَّتِي هَاجَرَ مِنْهَا فَقَالَ يَرْحَمُ اللهُ ﷻ ابْنَ عَفْرَاءَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أُوصِي بِمَالِي كُلِّهِ قَالَ لَا قُلْتُ فَبِالشَّطْرِ قَالَ لَا قُلْتُ فَبِالثُّلُثِ قَالَ الثُّلُثُ وَالثُّلُثُ كَثِيرٌ إِنَّكَ إِنْ تَدَعْ وَرَثَتَكَ أَغْنِيَاءَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَنْ تَدَعَهُمْ عَالَةً يَتَكَفَّفُونَ النَّاسَ فِي أَيْدِيهِمْ وَإِنَّكَ مَهْمَا أَنْفَقْتَ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ مِنْ نَفَقَةٍ فَإِنَّهَا صَدَقَةٌ حَتَّى اللُّقْمَةَ تَرْفَعُهَا إِلَى فِي امْرَأَتِكَ وَعَسَى الله ﷻ أَنْ يَنْفَعَ بِكَ قَوْمًا وَيَضُرَّ بِكَ آخَرِينَ وَلَمْ يَكُنْ لَهُ يَوْمَئِذٍ إِلَّا ابْنَةٌ  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ دِينَارٌ أَعْطَيْتَهُ مِسْكِينًا وَدِينَارٌ أَعْطَيْتَهُ فِي رَقَبَةٍ وَدِينَارٌ أَعْطَيْتَهُ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ وَدِينَارٌ أَنْفَقْتَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ قَالَ الدِّينَارُ الَّذِي أَنْفَقْتَهُ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا  

The most excellent dinar is one that a person spends on his family, and the dinar which he spends on his animal in Allah's path, and the dinar he spends on his companions in Allah's path. Abu Qilaba (one of the narrators) said: He (the narrator) started with family, and then Abu Qilaba said: Who is the person with greater reward than a person who spends on young members of his family (and thus) preserves (saves them from want) (and by virtue of which) Allah brings profit for them and makes them rich. (Using translation from Muslim 994)   

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَفْضَلُ دِينَارٍ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ عَلَى عِيَالِهِ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى دَابَّتِهِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ دِينَارٌ يُنْفِقُهُ الرَّجُلُ عَلَى أَصْحَابِهِ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ قَالَ أَبُو قِلَابَةَ وَبَدَأَ بِالْعِيَالِ فَأِيُّ رَجُلٍ أَعْظَمُ أَجْرًا مِنْ رَجُلٍ يُنْفِقُ عَلَى عِيَالٍ صِغَارٍ يَقُوتُهُمُ اللهُ وَيَنْفَعُهُمْ بِهِ  

the Prophet said: "The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives." (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1977)   

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ خَيْرُكُمْ خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِهِ وَأَنَا خَيْرُكُمْ لِأَهْلِي وَاللهُ أَعْلَمُ