ذِكْرُ مَا يُسْتَحَبُّ لِلْمَرْءِ عِنْدَ التَّزْوِيجِ أَنْ يَطْلُبَ الدِّينَ دُونَ الْمَالِ فِي الْعَقْدِ عَلَى وَلَدِهِ أَوْ عَلَى نَفْسِهِ
[Machine] Jalibib was a man from the Ansar who used to visit women and talk to them. Abu Barzah said, "I told my wife, 'Jalibib should not enter upon you.'" The companions of the Prophet ﷺ used to not marry off their daughters until they knew whether the Messenger ﷺ wanted them or not. One day, the Prophet ﷺ said to a man from the Ansar, 'O so-and-so, marry your daughter to me.' He said, 'Yes, and may our eyes find rest.' The man asked, 'Is it for myself or someone else?' He replied, 'For Jalibib.' The man said, 'O Messenger of Allah, should I consult her mother?' He then went to her mother and said, 'Indeed, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is proposing to marry your daughter.' She replied, 'Yes, and may our eyes find rest.' He asked, 'Is it for himself or someone else?' She said, 'For Jalibib.' He questioned, 'For Jalibib?' She responded, 'By Allah, I will not marry Jalibib.' When her father stood up to go to the Prophet ﷺ , the girl asked her mother, 'Who proposed to you?' She said, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' The girl then said, 'Will you reject the proposal of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ or me? Accompany me to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as he will not disappoint me.' So her father went to the Prophet ﷺ and said, 'What is your opinion regarding her?' The Prophet ﷺ replied, 'Marry her to Jalibib.' Hammaad said, 'And do you know what he supplicated for her?' Ishaq ibn Abdullah ibn Abi Talhah narrated, 'What did he supplicate?' He said, 'O Allah, pour blessings on them abundantly and do not make their lives difficult.' Thabit said, 'So he married her to him.' While the Prophet ﷺ was in a battle, he asked, 'Is anyone missing?' They said, 'No.' He inquired, 'But I am missing Jalibib. Look for him among the martyrs.' They found him lying beside seven fallen enemies. Then they killed him. The Prophet ﷺ said, 'So he killed seven and they killed him? This act was from me, and I am pleased with him.' He mentioned this seven times, and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ placed him on his arm. There was no bed that did not have the Messenger of Allah's ﷺ arm except for Jalibib's, until he was placed in his grave.' Thabit said, 'He was one of the Ansar who spent in charity whatever he possessed.'
أَنَّ جُلَيْبِيبًا كَانَ امْرَأً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ وَكَانَ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَيَتَحَدَّثُ إِلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَبُو بَرْزَةَ فَقُلْتُ لِامْرَأَتِي لَا يَدْخُلَنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ جُلَيْبِيبٌ قَالَ فَكَانَ أَصْحَابُ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ لِأَحَدِهِمْ أَيِّمٌ لَمْ يُزَوِّجْهَا حَتَّى يَعْلَمَ أَلِرَسُولِ ﷺ فِيهَا حَاجَةٌ أَمْ لَا؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ لِرَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ «يَا فُلَانُ زَوِّجْنِي ابْنَتَكَ» قَالَ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ «إِنِّي لَسْتُ لِنَفْسِي أُرِيدُهَا» قَالَ فَلِمَنْ؟ قَالَ «لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ» قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حَتَّى أَسْتَأْمِرَ أُمَّهَا فَأَتَاهَا فَقَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكِ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَتْ لِنَفْسِهِ يُرِيدُهَا قَالَتْ فَلِمَنْ يُرِيدُهَا؟ قَالَ لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ قَالَتْ حَلْقَى أَلِجُلَيْبِيبٍ؟ قَالَتْ لَا لَعَمْرُ اللَّهِ لَا أُزَوِّجُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَلَمَّا قَامَ أَبُوهَا لَيَأْتِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَتِ الْفَتَاةُ مِنْ خِدْرِهَا لِأُمِّهَا مَنْ خَطَبَنِي إِلَيْكُمَا قَالَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَتْ أَتَرُدُّونَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمْرَهُ ادْفَعُونِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَإِنَّهُ لَنْ يُضَيِّعَنِي فَذَهَبَ أَبُوهَا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ شَأْنُكَ بِهَا فَزَوَّجَهَا جُلَيْبِيبًا قَالَ حَمَّادٌ قَالَ إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ هَلْ تَدْرِي مَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ قَالَ وَمَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ؟ قَالَ «اللَّهُمَّ صُبَّ الْخَيْرَ عَلَيْهِمَا صَبًّا وَلَا تَجْعَلْ عَيْشَهُمَا كَدًّا» قَالَ ثَابِتٌ فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ فَبَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي غَزَاةٍ قَالَ «تَفْقِدُونَ مِنْ أَحَدٍ؟ » قَالُوا لَا قَالَ «لَكِنِّي أَفْقِدُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَاطْلُبُوهُ فِي الْقَتْلَى» فَوَجَدُوهُ إِلَى جَنْبِ سَبْعَةٍ قَدْ قَتَلَهُمْ ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَقَتَلَ سَبْعَةً ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ ? هَذَا مِنِّي وَأَنَا مِنْهُ» يَقُولُهَا سَبْعًا فَوَضَعَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى سَاعِدَيْهِ مَا لَهُ سَرِيرٌ إِلَّا سَاعِدَيْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَتَّى وَضَعَهُ فِي قَبْرِهِ قَالَ ثَابِتٌ وَمَا كَانَ فِي الْأَنْصَارِ أَيِّمٌ أَنْفَقُ مِنْهَا