[Machine] Abu Salamah came to me one day from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, "I heard from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ a saying that pleased me. He said, 'No affliction befalls any of the Muslim people, and he seeks reward from Allah for his affliction, and says, "O Allah, reward me for my affliction and replace it with something better for me," except that Allah will do so.' " Umm Salamah said, "I memorized this from him. When Abu Salamah passed away, I recalled it and said, 'O Allah, reward me for my affliction and replace it with something better for me.' Then I thought to myself, 'From where will something better than Abu Salamah come to me?' When my 'iddah (mourning period) ended, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sought my permission to enter while I was dyeing a sheep's wool, and I washed my hands of the dye and gave him permission. I prepared a leather pillow stuffed with fiber for him, and he sat on it. Then he started talking to me, and when he finished his speech, I said, 'O Messenger of Allah, I have no desire for anything except that I am a jealous woman and I fear that you will see something in me that Allah will punish me for. I am a woman who has entered the age of old age and I have children.' He said, 'Regarding what you mentioned about jealousy, Allah will remove it from you. As for what you mentioned about old age, the same has befallen me. As for what you mentioned about children, your children are my children.' Umm Salamah said, 'So I submitted to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he married me.' Umm Salamah said, 'Indeed, Allah has replaced me with something better than Abu Salamah, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ ."  

أَتَانِي أَبُو سَلَمَةَ يَوْمًا مِنْ عِنْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَقَدْ سَمِعْتُ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ قَوْلًا فَسُرِرْتُ بِهِ قَالَ لَا يُصِيبُ أَحَدًا مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ مُصِيبَةٌ فَيَسْتَرْجِعَ عِنْدَ مُصِيبَتِهِ ثُمَّ يَقُولُ اللهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَاخْلُفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلَّا فُعِلَ ذَلِكَ بِهِ قَالَتْ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ فَحَفِظْتُ ذَلِكَ مِنْهُ فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ اسْتَرْجَعْتُ وَقُلْتُ اللهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَاخْلُفْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهُ ثُمَّ رَجَعْتُ إِلَى نَفْسِي قُلْتُ مِنْ أَيْنَ لِي خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتِي اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَيَّ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَأَنَا أَدْبُغُ إِهَابًا لِي فَغَسَلْتُ يَدَيَّ مِنَ الْقَرَظِ وَأَذِنْتُ لَهُ فَوَضَعْتُ لَهُ وِسَادَةَ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ فَقَعَدَ عَلَيْهَا فَخَطَبَنِي إِلَى نَفْسِي فَلَمَّا فَرَغَ مِنْ مَقَالَتِهِ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ مَا بِي أَنْ لَا تَكُونَ بِكَ الرَّغْبَةُ فِيَّ وَلَكِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ فِيَّ غَيْرَةٌ شَدِيدَةٌ فَأَخَافُ أَنْ تَرَى مِنِّي شَيْئًا يُعَذِّبُنِي اللهُ بِهِ وَأَنَا امْرَأَةٌ قَدْ دَخَلْتُ فِي السِّنِّ وَأَنَا ذَاتُ عِيَالٍ فَقَالَ أَمَّا مَا ذَكَرْتِ مِنَالْغَيْرَةِ فَسَوْفَ يُذْهِبُهَا اللهُ ﷻ مِنْكِ وَأَمَّا مَا ذَكَرْتِ مِنَ السِّنِّ فَقَدْ أَصَابَنِي مِثْلُ الَّذِي أَصَابَكِ وَأَمَّا مَا ذَكَرْتِ مِنَ الْعِيَالِ فَإِنَّمَا عِيَالُكِ عِيَالِي قَالَتْ فَقَدْ سَلَّمْتُ لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَتَزَوَّجَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ فَقَدْ أَبْدَلَنِي اللهُ بِأَبِي سَلَمَةَ خَيْرًا مِنْهُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ  

[Machine] The messenger of Allah ﷺ gave a sermon to Umm Salamah and she said, "O messenger of Allah, none of my allies whether present or absent dislikes that." He said, "None of your allies whether present or absent dislike that." She said, "O Umar, marry the daughter of the Prophet ﷺ to me." So, the Prophet ﷺ married her to him and he said to her, "Indeed, I do not diminish from what I have given to your sisters, Ruqayyah and Um Kulthum, a quilt and a mattress from the wool of a sheep." So, the messenger of Allah ﷺ used to come to her to have intimacy with her, but when she saw him, she would take her daughter Zainab and put her in her chamber. So, the messenger of Allah ﷺ would leave. And Ammar bin Yasir knew this and he was her brother through breastfeeding, so he went to her and said, "Where is this scratched and pockmarked one with whom you have annoyed the messenger of Allah ﷺ ?" So, he took her and left with her. Then the messenger of Allah ﷺ came and entered upon her and he started to touch his face in different parts of the house and said, "What did Zanab do?" She said, "Ammar came and took her and left with her." So, the messenger of Allah ﷺ said to her, "If you wish, I will offer a dowry for you. And if you wish, I will divorce you for my wives."  

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ خَطَبَ أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي تَعْنِي شَاهِد فَقَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَتْ يَا عُمَرُ زَوِّجِ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَتَزَوَّجَهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَا إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أَخَوَاتِكِ رَحْيَيْنِ وَجَرَّةً وَمِرْفَقَةً مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺيَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتْ زَيْنَبَ ابْنَتَهَا فَجَعَلَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْصَرِفُ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَأَتَاهَا فَقَالَ أَيْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَشْقُوحَةُ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ؟ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَجَعَلَ يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي نَوَاحِي الْبَيْتِ فَقَالَ مَا فَعَلَتْ زَنَابُ؟ فَقَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَدَخَلَ بِهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ لَهَا إِنْ شِئْتِ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ وَإِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said: When any one of you is afflicted with a calamity, let him say: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." When Abu Salamah was in his death throes, he said: "O Allah, compensate me for my loss with something better." When he died, I said: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." She added: "I wanted to say: Replace it for me with something better than him, but I could not say that. When her waiting period was over, Abu Bakr proposed marriage to her, then 'Umar proposed marriage to her, but the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said to her: "Do not be hasty, O 'Umar. I will not withhold her from you, but I have not conferred a blessing upon her yet. Her children will be given to you." She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have no need for children; rather I want to uphold the ties of kinship." 'Umar said: "I knitted together two garments for her, and stuffed them with a kind of grass, then the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came and took her, and put her in her cradle in his room, and the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , was a modest and honorable man, and he would shy away from her, but he used to do that repeatedly." Then 'Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother through her mother, came and entered upon her, and he moved her cradle from his room and said: "Take away this tainted woman who was the cause of the harm caused to the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ ." The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came in and put his hand on his forehead, and said: "Where is Zainab? What has Zainab done?" She said: "Ammar came and took her away." He said: "Then he married her to his own cousin and kin."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا أَصَابَ أَحَدَكُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِيمَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا احْتُضِرَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قَالَ اللهُمَّ اخْلُفْنِي فِي أَهْلِي بِخَيْرٍ فَلَمَّا قُبِضَ قُلْتُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا قَالَتْ وَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَقُولَ وَأَبْدِلْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَقُلْتُ وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَمَا زِلْتُ حَتَّى قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا خَطَبَهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَرَدَّتْهُ ثُمَّ خَطَبَهَا عُمَرُ فَرَدَّتْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ مَرْحَبًا بِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ وَبِرَسُولِهِ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ وَأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ فَإِنَّ اللهَ سَيَكْفِيكِ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَانِي قُلْتُ يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَا إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ شَيْئًا مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أُخْتَكِ فُلَانَةَ رَحَيَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَوِسَادَةً مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ قَالَ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا فَإِذَا جَاءَ أَخَذَتْ زَيْنَبَ فَوَضَعَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا لِتُرْضِعَهَا وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ حَيِيًّا كَرِيمًا يَسْتَحْيِي فَيَرْجِعُ فَفَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِرَارًا فَفَطِنَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ لِمَا تَصْنَعُ فَأَقْبَلَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ وَجَاءَ عَمَّارٌ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا لِأُمِّهَا فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَافَانْتَشَطَهَا مِنْ حِجْرِهَا وَقَالَ دَعِي هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةَ الْمَشْقُوحَةَ الَّتِي آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ وَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ فَجَعَلَ يُقَلِّبُ بَصَرَهُ فِي الْبَيْتِ وَيَقُولُ أَيْنَ زَنَابُ؟ مَا فَعَلَتْ زَنَابُ؟ قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَذَهَبَ بِهَا قَالَ فَبَنَى بِأَهْلِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ أُسَبِّعَ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِلنِّسَاءِ  

"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3254)   

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ لَهُ ذَلِكَفَقَالَ ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ ﷻ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدًا فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "When any of you experience a calamity, say 'Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.' O Allah, I seek reward from You for my calamity and ask You to replace it with something better.' I used to say this when I had any difficulty. When my waiting period after the death of my husband ended, Abu Bakr proposed to me and I turned him down. Then, Umar proposed to me and I turned him down. The Prophet ﷺ sent someone to propose to me on his behalf, and I said, 'Welcome to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and his messenger! Please convey to him that I am a widow and I have no guardian except Allah. As for your saying that I am a widow, Allah will take care of my children. And as for considering yourself as a replacement, I will pray to Allah to replace you with someone better. As for the guardians, there is no one among them who can testify and there is no one absent whose permission is needed. So, the Prophet ﷺ sent me a message saying, 'As for your saying that you are a widow, Allah will take care of your children. And as for your saying that there is no one except me, I will supplicate to Allah to remove your difficulty. As for the guardians, there is no one among them who can testify and there is no one absent whose permission is needed.' So, she said to her son, 'Stand up, O Umar, and let the Messenger of Allah ﷺ marry you to her.' The Prophet ﷺ then married them. He said to her, 'I will not deprive you of what I have given your sister, Fulanah, including two garments and a cushion filled with palm fibers.' The Prophet ﷺ used to visit her while Zainab was breastfeeding her child. Whenever the Prophet ﷺ came, she would give the child to him and he would place her (the child) in her (Zainab's) chamber to breastfeed her. So, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was generous and honorable. One day, Ammar ibn Yasir visited her when the Prophet ﷺ intended to visit her. Zainab hid in her chamber and said, 'Leave this disgraced and wretched woman (referring to herself) who has caused trouble for the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' So, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came and looked around the house, saying, 'Where is Zunab? Why can't I see Zunab?' Zainab said, 'Ammar came and took her away.' The Prophet ﷺ then left. He was planning to visit her one day when Ammar came and took her away."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا أَصَابَتْ أَحَدَكُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَكُنْتُ إِذَا أَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَقُولَ وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَلَمْ أَزَلْ حَتَّى قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا خَطَبَهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَرَدَّتْهُ وَخَطَبَهَا عُمَرُ فَرَدَّتْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ لِيَخْطُبَهَا فَقَالَتْ مَرْحَبًا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَبِرَسُولِهِ أَقْرئْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ السَّلَامَ وَأَخْبِرْهُ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ سَيَكْفِيكِ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَانِي فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا قُمْ يَا عُمَرُ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ وَقَالَ لَهَا لَا أُنْقِصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أُخْتَكِ فُلَانَةَ جَرَّتَيْنِ وَرَحَاتَيْنِ وَوِسَادَةٍ مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا وَهِيَ تُرْضِعُ زَيْنَبَ فَكَانَتْ إِذَا جَاءَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَخَذَتْهَا فَوَضَعَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا تُرْضِعُهَا قَالَتْ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَيِيًّا كَرِيمًا فَيَرْجِعُ فَفَطِنَ لَهَا عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخًا لَهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَأَرَادَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَأْتِيَهَا ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ فَجَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَانْتَشَطَ زَيْنَبَ مِنْ حِجْرِهَا وَقَالَ دَعِي هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةَ الْمَشْقُوحَةَ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ يُقَلِّبُ بَصَرَهُ فِي الْبَيْتِ وَيَقُولُ «أَيْنَ زُنَابُ مَا لِي لَا أَرَى زُنَابَ؟» فَقَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِأَهْلِهِ وَقَالَ «إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ أُسَبِّعَ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِلنِّسَاءِ»  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity, let him say: 'Indeed, we belong to Allah, and indeed, to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek reward and compensation from You for my calamity. Replace it with something better for me.' When Abu Salamah died, I said these words and kept saying them every time I experienced a calamity, saying to myself, 'Who is better than Abu Salamah?' I continued to say them until the prescribed period of mourning was completed. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then sent 'Umar ibn al-Khattab to propose to me on his behalf. I said to my son, 'O 'Umar, go and marry me to the Messenger of Allah.' He did, and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would often come to visit me and be intimate with me. Whenever he came, I would give my daughter Zainab to him, and she would sleep in my bed. 'Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother, discovered this and came to me, saying, 'Where is that cursed woman who has annoyed the Messenger of Allah?' He took her and left. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came and entered, striking his thigh with the side of his hand, and said, 'What has Zainab done?' I said, 'Ammar came and took her away.' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ replied, 'Indeed, I have built a structure using her (i.e., metaphorical language meaning marital relationships) and have not taken anything away from you that you have given me, except for two young camels and a stuffed cushion that I will return to you.' He also said, 'Indeed, if I have married seven wives, I have married them for the sake of my wives.'"  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي مَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتِ ابْنَتَهَا زَيْنَبَ فَجَعَلَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْقَلِبُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةَ فَجَاءَ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ أَيْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الْمَنْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ؟ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي جَوَانِبِ الْبَيْتِ فَقَالَ «مَا فَعَلَتْ زُنَابُ؟» قَالَ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى بِهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ شَيْئًا مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ فُلَانَةً رَحَاتَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَمِرْفَقَةً حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ» وَقَالَ «إِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكَ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»  

[Machine] Jalibib was a man from the Ansar who used to visit women and talk to them. Abu Barzah said, "I told my wife, 'Jalibib should not enter upon you.'" The companions of the Prophet ﷺ used to not marry off their daughters until they knew whether the Messenger ﷺ wanted them or not. One day, the Prophet ﷺ said to a man from the Ansar, 'O so-and-so, marry your daughter to me.' He said, 'Yes, and may our eyes find rest.' The man asked, 'Is it for myself or someone else?' He replied, 'For Jalibib.' The man said, 'O Messenger of Allah, should I consult her mother?' He then went to her mother and said, 'Indeed, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ is proposing to marry your daughter.' She replied, 'Yes, and may our eyes find rest.' He asked, 'Is it for himself or someone else?' She said, 'For Jalibib.' He questioned, 'For Jalibib?' She responded, 'By Allah, I will not marry Jalibib.' When her father stood up to go to the Prophet ﷺ , the girl asked her mother, 'Who proposed to you?' She said, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' The girl then said, 'Will you reject the proposal of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ or me? Accompany me to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as he will not disappoint me.' So her father went to the Prophet ﷺ and said, 'What is your opinion regarding her?' The Prophet ﷺ replied, 'Marry her to Jalibib.' Hammaad said, 'And do you know what he supplicated for her?' Ishaq ibn Abdullah ibn Abi Talhah narrated, 'What did he supplicate?' He said, 'O Allah, pour blessings on them abundantly and do not make their lives difficult.' Thabit said, 'So he married her to him.' While the Prophet ﷺ was in a battle, he asked, 'Is anyone missing?' They said, 'No.' He inquired, 'But I am missing Jalibib. Look for him among the martyrs.' They found him lying beside seven fallen enemies. Then they killed him. The Prophet ﷺ said, 'So he killed seven and they killed him? This act was from me, and I am pleased with him.' He mentioned this seven times, and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ placed him on his arm. There was no bed that did not have the Messenger of Allah's ﷺ arm except for Jalibib's, until he was placed in his grave.' Thabit said, 'He was one of the Ansar who spent in charity whatever he possessed.'  

أَنَّ جُلَيْبِيبًا كَانَ امْرَأً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ وَكَانَ يَدْخُلُ عَلَى النِّسَاءِ وَيَتَحَدَّثُ إِلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَبُو بَرْزَةَ فَقُلْتُ لِامْرَأَتِي لَا يَدْخُلَنَّ عَلَيْكُمْ جُلَيْبِيبٌ قَالَ فَكَانَ أَصْحَابُ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ لِأَحَدِهِمْ أَيِّمٌ لَمْ يُزَوِّجْهَا حَتَّى يَعْلَمَ أَلِرَسُولِ ﷺ فِيهَا حَاجَةٌ أَمْ لَا؟ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ لِرَجُلٍ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ «يَا فُلَانُ زَوِّجْنِي ابْنَتَكَ» قَالَ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ «إِنِّي لَسْتُ لِنَفْسِي أُرِيدُهَا» قَالَ فَلِمَنْ؟ قَالَ «لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ» قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ حَتَّى أَسْتَأْمِرَ أُمَّهَا فَأَتَاهَا فَقَالَ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَخْطُبُ ابْنَتَكِ قَالَتْ نَعَمْ وَنُعْمَى عَيْنٍ قَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَتْ لِنَفْسِهِ يُرِيدُهَا قَالَتْ فَلِمَنْ يُرِيدُهَا؟ قَالَ لِجُلَيْبِيبٍ قَالَتْ حَلْقَى أَلِجُلَيْبِيبٍ؟ قَالَتْ لَا لَعَمْرُ اللَّهِ لَا أُزَوِّجُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَلَمَّا قَامَ أَبُوهَا لَيَأْتِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَتِ الْفَتَاةُ مِنْ خِدْرِهَا لِأُمِّهَا مَنْ خَطَبَنِي إِلَيْكُمَا قَالَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَتْ أَتَرُدُّونَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمْرَهُ ادْفَعُونِي إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَإِنَّهُ لَنْ يُضَيِّعَنِي فَذَهَبَ أَبُوهَا إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ شَأْنُكَ بِهَا فَزَوَّجَهَا جُلَيْبِيبًا قَالَ حَمَّادٌ قَالَ إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي طَلْحَةَ هَلْ تَدْرِي مَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ قَالَ وَمَا دَعَا لَهَا بِهِ؟ قَالَ «اللَّهُمَّ صُبَّ الْخَيْرَ عَلَيْهِمَا صَبًّا وَلَا تَجْعَلْ عَيْشَهُمَا كَدًّا» قَالَ ثَابِتٌ فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ فَبَيْنَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي غَزَاةٍ قَالَ «تَفْقِدُونَ مِنْ أَحَدٍ؟ » قَالُوا لَا قَالَ «لَكِنِّي أَفْقِدُ جُلَيْبِيبًا فَاطْلُبُوهُ فِي الْقَتْلَى» فَوَجَدُوهُ إِلَى جَنْبِ سَبْعَةٍ قَدْ قَتَلَهُمْ ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَقَتَلَ سَبْعَةً ثُمَّ قَتَلُوهُ ? هَذَا مِنِّي وَأَنَا مِنْهُ» يَقُولُهَا سَبْعًا فَوَضَعَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى سَاعِدَيْهِ مَا لَهُ سَرِيرٌ إِلَّا سَاعِدَيْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَتَّى وَضَعَهُ فِي قَبْرِهِ قَالَ ثَابِتٌ وَمَا كَانَ فِي الْأَنْصَارِ أَيِّمٌ أَنْفَقُ مِنْهَا  

[Machine] The horses of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ or the messengers of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came with a scorpion, so they took my aunt and some people. When they came to him (the Prophet) ﷺ , they made way for him. She said, "O Messenger of Allah, the one who has come has left, the child has been severed, and I am an old woman and I have no one to serve me. So may Allah bless whoever helps me." He said, "Who is your guest?" She said, "Adi ibn Hatim." He said, "Which one fled from Allah and His Messenger?" She said, "So may Allah bless whoever helps me." So when Adi returned, there was a man with him who seemed to be Ali. He said, "Salih, carry her loads." She said, "So I asked him and he ordered a donkey. I said, 'You have done what your father used to do.'" She said, "Go to him as a person in need or as a monk, for so and so came to him and he was affected by him, and so and so came to him and he was affected by him. So I went to him, and there was a woman and children or a child with him. He mentioned their relation to the Prophet ﷺ , so I knew that he was not a king like Khosrau and Caesar. He said, "O Adi, what prevents you from saying 'La ilaha illallah' (there is no god but Allah)? Is there any god other than Allah?" He said, "What prevents you from saying 'Allahu Akbar' (Allah is the greatest)? Is there anything greater than Allah?" So I embraced Islam, and I saw his face light up and he said, "Indeed, the Jews are those who are cursed, and indeed, the Christians are those who are astray." Then some people came to him and praised Allah, and he praised Him. Then he said, "Now, O people, it is for you to be humble before His grace, as a person humbles himself before a measure of food with a measured handful." Shu'bah said, "And most of what I know is that he said with a date, splitting a date. Indeed, one of you will meet Allah and He will say, 'Did I not make you hearing and seeing? Did I not grant you wealth and children? So what have you brought?' So he will look to his right, left, front, and behind him, but he will not find anything. So he will not fear the Fire except by Allah's face. So fear the Fire, even if it is with half a date. And if you do not find that, then with a good word. Indeed, I do not fear poverty for you, for Allah will help you and give you victory, or He will open up for you until the she-camel enters between two mountains, the fear of which is greater, that Thamud feared."  

جَاءَتْ خَيْلُ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ أَو رُسُلُ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ بِعَقْرَبٍ فَأَخَذُوا عَمَّتِي وَنَاسًا فَلَمَّا أَتَوْا بِهِمُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ صَفُّوا لَهُ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ نَأَى الْوَافِدُ وَانْقَطَعَ الْوَلَدُ وَأَنَا عَجُوزٌ كَبِيرٌ وَمَا بِي مِنْ خِدْمَةٍ فَمُنَّ عَلَيَّ مَنَّ اللهُ ﷻ عَلَيْكَ قَالَ وَمَنْ وَافِدُكِ؟ قَالَتْ عَدِيُّ بْنُ حَاتِمٍ قَالَ أَيِ الَّذِي فَرَّ مِنَ اللهِ وَرَسُولِهِ قَالَتْ فَمُنَّ عَلَيَّ فَلَمَّا رَجَعَ وَرَجُلٌ إِلَى جَنْبِهِ تَرَى أَنَّهُ عَلِيٌّ فَقَالَ سَلِيهِ حِمْلَانًا قَالَتْ فَسَأَلْتُهُ فَأَمَرَ بِأَتَانٍ فَقُلْتُ لَقَدْ فَعَلْتَ فَعْلَةً مَا كَانَ أَبُوكَ يَفْعَلُهَا فَقَالَتْ ائْتِهِ رَاغِبًا أَو رَاهِبًا فَقَدْ أَتَاهُ فُلَانٌ فَأَصَابَ مِنْهُ وَأَتَاهُ فُلَانٌ فَأَصَابَ مِنْهُ فَأَتَيْتُهُ فَإِذَا عِنْدَهُ امْرَأَةٌ وَصِبْيَانٌ أَو صَبِيٌّ فَذَكَرَ قُرْبَهُمْ مِنَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَعَرَفْتُ أَنَّهُ لَيْسَ مَلِكَ كِسْرَى وَقَيْصَرَ فَقَالَ يَا عَدِيُّ مَا أَفَرَّكَ أَنْ يُقَالَ لَا إِلَهَ إلَّا اللهُ فَهَلْ مِنْ إِلَهٍ إلَّا اللهُ؟ مَا أَفَرَّكَ أَنْ يُقَالَ اللهُ أَكْبَرُ فَهَلْ مِنْ شَيْءٍ أَكْبَرُ مِنَ اللهِ؟ فَأَسْلَمْتُ فَرَأَيْتُ وَجْهَهُ اسْتَبْشَرَ وَقَالَ «إِنَّ الْمَغْضُوبَ عَلَيْهِمْ الْيَهُودُ وإنَّ الضَّالِّينَ النَّصَارَى» ثُمَّ جَاءَهُ نَاسٌ فَسَأَلُوهُ فَحَمِدَ اللهَ وَأَثْنَى عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ «أَمَّا بَعْدُ فَلَكُمْ أَيُّهَا النَّاسُ أَنْ تَرْضَخُوا مِنَ الْفَضْلِ ارْتَضَخَ امْرُؤٌ بِصَاعٍ بِبَعْضِ صَاعٍ بِقَبْضَةٍ» قَالَ شُعْبَةُ وَأَكْثَرُ عِلْمِي أَنَّهُ قَالَ بِتَمْرَةٍ بِشِقِّ تَمْرَةٍ إِنَّ أَحَدَكُمْ لَاقِي اللهَ فَقَائِلٌ أَلَمْ أَجْعَلْكَ سَمِيعًا بَصِيرًا أَلَمْ أَجْعَلْ لَكَ مَالًا وَوَلَدًا فَمَاذَا قَدَّمْتَ؟ فَيَنْظُرُ مِنْ بَيْنِ يَدَيْهِ وَمِنْ خَلْفِهِ وَعَنْ يَمِينِهِ وَعَنْ شِمَالِهِ فَلَا يَجِدُ شَيْئًا فَلَا يَتَّقِي النَّارَ إلَّا بِوَجْهِهِ فَاتَّقُوا النَّارَ وَلَوْ بِشِقِّ تَمْرَةٍ فَإِنْ لَمْ تَجِدُوا فَبِكَلِمَةٍ طَيِّبَةٍ إِنِّي لَا أَخْشَى عَلَيْكُمُ الْفَاقَةَ لَيَنْصُرَنَّكُمُ اللهُ وَلَيُعْطِيَنَّكُمْ أَوْ لَيَفْتَحَنَّ لَكُمْ حَتَّى تَسِيرَ الظَّعِينَةُ بَيْنَ الْحِيرَةِ ويَثْرِبَ أَخْوَفُ مَا تَخَافُ عَلَى ظَعِينَتِهَا السَّرَقَ  

"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3254)  

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوِّجْهُ ثُمَّ بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوِّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصِيبَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ مُخْتَصَرٌ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity, let him say, 'Indeed, to Allah we belong and to Him we shall return. O Allah, I seek reward in my affliction and substitute me with something better than it.' When Abu Salamah died, I said these words, and whenever I sought a replacement for him, I would say, 'Replace me with something better than him.' I said to myself, who could be better than Abu Salamah? Then I said it again. When her waiting period was over, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent Umar ibn Al-Khattab to propose to her. She said to her son, 'O Umar, get up and marry the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' She mentioned the narration of Abu Abdullah but there is no mention of Umar ibn Al-Khattab or the waiting period. Rather, she said, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ proposed to me and I said, there is no witness from among my guardians who would refuse him. He replied, 'There is no one among them, either present or absent, who would not be pleased with it.' So I said, 'O Umar, get up and marry the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' The scholar (May Allah have mercy on him) mentioned that Umar ibn Abi Salamah was a relative of hers. This is because Umm Salamah is Hind bint Abi Umayyah ibn Al-Mughirah ibn Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Makhzum. And Umar is the son of Abu Salamah, whose name is Abdullah ibn Abdil-Asad ibn Hilal ibn Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Makhzum."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا طَلَبْتُ أَبْدَلَنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ لَفْظُ حَدِيثِ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ وَلَيْسَ فِي رِوَايَةِ الْأَصْبَهَانِيِّ ذِكْرُ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ وَلَا ذِكْرُ الْعِدَّةِ وَلَكِنْ قَالَ قَالَتْ فَخَطَبَنِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ قَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَى بِهِ فَقُلْتُ يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ الشَّيْخُ رَحِمَهُ اللهُ وَعُمَرُ بْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ كَانَ عَصَبَةً لَهَا وَذَاكَ لِأَنَّ أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ هِيَ هِنْدُ بِنْتُ أَبِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَخْزُومٍ وَعُمَرُ هُوَ ابْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ وَأَبُو سَلَمَةَ اسْمُهُ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْأَسَدِ بْنِ هِلَالِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَخْزُومٍ