"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage.  

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ لَكِ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ أَنْ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلاَ غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَتْ لاِبْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ مُخْتَصَرٌ  

"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3254)   

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ لَهُ ذَلِكَفَقَالَ ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ ﷻ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدًا فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) said, "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity should say, 'Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek reward from You for my affliction and replace it with something better.' "

When Abu Salamah died, I said this supplication and every time I said it, I saw that Allah replaced my calamity with something better. I said to myself, "Who is better than Abu Salamah?"

When her waiting period ended, Abu Bakr proposed to her, but she did not marry him. Then Umar proposed to her, but she did not marry him either. Then the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) sent Umar ibn Al-Khattab to propose to her on his behalf. She said, "Inform the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) that I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying, and I am a woman who is already afflicted. And there is no witness among my guardians." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) went to her and mentioned this to her. He said, "Tell her that when you say, 'I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying,' I ask Allah to remove your unwillingness. And when you say, 'I am a woman who is already afflicted,' may your children be sufficient for you. And when you say, 'There is no witness among my guardians,' no one among your guardians will be a witness, nor will anyone who is absent like that."

She said to her son, "O Umar, go and marry me to the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)." So Umar married her to him. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) used to visit her in her room to be intimate with her. But when she saw him, she would take her daughter Zainab and put her in her place. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) noticed this, so Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother, came to her and said, "Where is that wickedness with which you have harmed the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)?" He took her and went with her. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) came to her and entered her room, and he began to strike his forehead against the sides of the house, saying, "What did Zainab do?" She said, "Ammar came and took her away." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) rebuilt the house for her and said, "I will not decrease your status from what I have given to other women, two Rahas (sheep) and two Dirhams, and a bone filled with stuffing as a headrest." And he said, "If I have seven wives, I will have the same for all of them."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَأَنَا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا» فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ أَبْدَلَنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ ثُمَّ بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ قَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَأُسْأَلُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَتُكْفَينَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدًا فَلَيْسَ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتِ ابْنَتَهَا زَيْنَبَ فَجَعَلْتُهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْقَلِبُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَجَاءَ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ يْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَجَعَلَ يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي جَوَانِبِ الْبَيْتِ وَقَالَ «مَا فَعَلَتْ زَيْنَبُ؟ » قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى بِهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ فُلَانَةَ رَحَاءَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَمِرْفَقَةً حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ» وَقَالَ «إِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»