"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage.  

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ لَكِ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ أَنْ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلاَ غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ فَقَالَتْ لاِبْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ مُخْتَصَرٌ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said: When any one of you is afflicted with a calamity, let him say: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." When Abu Salamah was in his death throes, he said: "O Allah, compensate me for my loss with something better." When he died, I said: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." She added: "I wanted to say: Replace it for me with something better than him, but I could not say that. When her waiting period was over, Abu Bakr proposed marriage to her, then 'Umar proposed marriage to her, but the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said to her: "Do not be hasty, O 'Umar. I will not withhold her from you, but I have not conferred a blessing upon her yet. Her children will be given to you." She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have no need for children; rather I want to uphold the ties of kinship." 'Umar said: "I knitted together two garments for her, and stuffed them with a kind of grass, then the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came and took her, and put her in her cradle in his room, and the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , was a modest and honorable man, and he would shy away from her, but he used to do that repeatedly." Then 'Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother through her mother, came and entered upon her, and he moved her cradle from his room and said: "Take away this tainted woman who was the cause of the harm caused to the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ ." The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came in and put his hand on his forehead, and said: "Where is Zainab? What has Zainab done?" She said: "Ammar came and took her away." He said: "Then he married her to his own cousin and kin."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا أَصَابَ أَحَدَكُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِيمَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا احْتُضِرَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قَالَ اللهُمَّ اخْلُفْنِي فِي أَهْلِي بِخَيْرٍ فَلَمَّا قُبِضَ قُلْتُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا قَالَتْ وَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَقُولَ وَأَبْدِلْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَقُلْتُ وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَمَا زِلْتُ حَتَّى قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا خَطَبَهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَرَدَّتْهُ ثُمَّ خَطَبَهَا عُمَرُ فَرَدَّتْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ مَرْحَبًا بِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ وَبِرَسُولِهِ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ وَأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ فَإِنَّ اللهَ سَيَكْفِيكِ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَانِي قُلْتُ يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَا إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ شَيْئًا مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أُخْتَكِ فُلَانَةَ رَحَيَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَوِسَادَةً مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ قَالَ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا فَإِذَا جَاءَ أَخَذَتْ زَيْنَبَ فَوَضَعَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا لِتُرْضِعَهَا وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ حَيِيًّا كَرِيمًا يَسْتَحْيِي فَيَرْجِعُ فَفَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِرَارًا فَفَطِنَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ لِمَا تَصْنَعُ فَأَقْبَلَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ وَجَاءَ عَمَّارٌ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا لِأُمِّهَا فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَافَانْتَشَطَهَا مِنْ حِجْرِهَا وَقَالَ دَعِي هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةَ الْمَشْقُوحَةَ الَّتِي آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ وَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ فَجَعَلَ يُقَلِّبُ بَصَرَهُ فِي الْبَيْتِ وَيَقُولُ أَيْنَ زَنَابُ؟ مَا فَعَلَتْ زَنَابُ؟ قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَذَهَبَ بِهَا قَالَ فَبَنَى بِأَهْلِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ أُسَبِّعَ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِلنِّسَاءِ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "When any of you experience a calamity, say 'Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un.' O Allah, I seek reward from You for my calamity and ask You to replace it with something better.' I used to say this when I had any difficulty. When my waiting period after the death of my husband ended, Abu Bakr proposed to me and I turned him down. Then, Umar proposed to me and I turned him down. The Prophet ﷺ sent someone to propose to me on his behalf, and I said, 'Welcome to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and his messenger! Please convey to him that I am a widow and I have no guardian except Allah. As for your saying that I am a widow, Allah will take care of my children. And as for considering yourself as a replacement, I will pray to Allah to replace you with someone better. As for the guardians, there is no one among them who can testify and there is no one absent whose permission is needed. So, the Prophet ﷺ sent me a message saying, 'As for your saying that you are a widow, Allah will take care of your children. And as for your saying that there is no one except me, I will supplicate to Allah to remove your difficulty. As for the guardians, there is no one among them who can testify and there is no one absent whose permission is needed.' So, she said to her son, 'Stand up, O Umar, and let the Messenger of Allah ﷺ marry you to her.' The Prophet ﷺ then married them. He said to her, 'I will not deprive you of what I have given your sister, Fulanah, including two garments and a cushion filled with palm fibers.' The Prophet ﷺ used to visit her while Zainab was breastfeeding her child. Whenever the Prophet ﷺ came, she would give the child to him and he would place her (the child) in her (Zainab's) chamber to breastfeed her. So, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was generous and honorable. One day, Ammar ibn Yasir visited her when the Prophet ﷺ intended to visit her. Zainab hid in her chamber and said, 'Leave this disgraced and wretched woman (referring to herself) who has caused trouble for the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' So, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ came and looked around the house, saying, 'Where is Zunab? Why can't I see Zunab?' Zainab said, 'Ammar came and took her away.' The Prophet ﷺ then left. He was planning to visit her one day when Ammar came and took her away."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا أَصَابَتْ أَحَدَكُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَكُنْتُ إِذَا أَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَقُولَ وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَلَمْ أَزَلْ حَتَّى قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا خَطَبَهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَرَدَّتْهُ وَخَطَبَهَا عُمَرُ فَرَدَّتْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ لِيَخْطُبَهَا فَقَالَتْ مَرْحَبًا بِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَبِرَسُولِهِ أَقْرئْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ السَّلَامَ وَأَخْبِرْهُ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ فَإِنَّ اللَّهَ سَيَكْفِيكِ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَانِي فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا قُمْ يَا عُمَرُ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهَا إِيَّاهُ وَقَالَ لَهَا لَا أُنْقِصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أُخْتَكِ فُلَانَةَ جَرَّتَيْنِ وَرَحَاتَيْنِ وَوِسَادَةٍ مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا وَهِيَ تُرْضِعُ زَيْنَبَ فَكَانَتْ إِذَا جَاءَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَخَذَتْهَا فَوَضَعَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا تُرْضِعُهَا قَالَتْ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَيِيًّا كَرِيمًا فَيَرْجِعُ فَفَطِنَ لَهَا عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخًا لَهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَأَرَادَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَأْتِيَهَا ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ فَجَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَانْتَشَطَ زَيْنَبَ مِنْ حِجْرِهَا وَقَالَ دَعِي هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةَ الْمَشْقُوحَةَ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ يُقَلِّبُ بَصَرَهُ فِي الْبَيْتِ وَيَقُولُ «أَيْنَ زُنَابُ مَا لِي لَا أَرَى زُنَابَ؟» فَقَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بِأَهْلِهِ وَقَالَ «إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ أُسَبِّعَ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِلنِّسَاءِ»  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity, let him say: 'Indeed, we belong to Allah, and indeed, to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek reward and compensation from You for my calamity. Replace it with something better for me.' When Abu Salamah died, I said these words and kept saying them every time I experienced a calamity, saying to myself, 'Who is better than Abu Salamah?' I continued to say them until the prescribed period of mourning was completed. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ then sent 'Umar ibn al-Khattab to propose to me on his behalf. I said to my son, 'O 'Umar, go and marry me to the Messenger of Allah.' He did, and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ would often come to visit me and be intimate with me. Whenever he came, I would give my daughter Zainab to him, and she would sleep in my bed. 'Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother, discovered this and came to me, saying, 'Where is that cursed woman who has annoyed the Messenger of Allah?' He took her and left. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ came and entered, striking his thigh with the side of his hand, and said, 'What has Zainab done?' I said, 'Ammar came and took her away.' The Messenger of Allah ﷺ replied, 'Indeed, I have built a structure using her (i.e., metaphorical language meaning marital relationships) and have not taken anything away from you that you have given me, except for two young camels and a stuffed cushion that I will return to you.' He also said, 'Indeed, if I have married seven wives, I have married them for the sake of my wives.'"  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي مَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتِ ابْنَتَهَا زَيْنَبَ فَجَعَلَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْقَلِبُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةَ فَجَاءَ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ أَيْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الْمَنْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ؟ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي جَوَانِبِ الْبَيْتِ فَقَالَ «مَا فَعَلَتْ زُنَابُ؟» قَالَ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى بِهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ شَيْئًا مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ فُلَانَةً رَحَاتَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَمِرْفَقَةً حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ» وَقَالَ «إِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكَ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) said, "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity should say, 'Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek reward from You for my affliction and replace it with something better.' "

When Abu Salamah died, I said this supplication and every time I said it, I saw that Allah replaced my calamity with something better. I said to myself, "Who is better than Abu Salamah?"

When her waiting period ended, Abu Bakr proposed to her, but she did not marry him. Then Umar proposed to her, but she did not marry him either. Then the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) sent Umar ibn Al-Khattab to propose to her on his behalf. She said, "Inform the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) that I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying, and I am a woman who is already afflicted. And there is no witness among my guardians." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) went to her and mentioned this to her. He said, "Tell her that when you say, 'I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying,' I ask Allah to remove your unwillingness. And when you say, 'I am a woman who is already afflicted,' may your children be sufficient for you. And when you say, 'There is no witness among my guardians,' no one among your guardians will be a witness, nor will anyone who is absent like that."

She said to her son, "O Umar, go and marry me to the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)." So Umar married her to him. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) used to visit her in her room to be intimate with her. But when she saw him, she would take her daughter Zainab and put her in her place. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) noticed this, so Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother, came to her and said, "Where is that wickedness with which you have harmed the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)?" He took her and went with her. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) came to her and entered her room, and he began to strike his forehead against the sides of the house, saying, "What did Zainab do?" She said, "Ammar came and took her away." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) rebuilt the house for her and said, "I will not decrease your status from what I have given to other women, two Rahas (sheep) and two Dirhams, and a bone filled with stuffing as a headrest." And he said, "If I have seven wives, I will have the same for all of them."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَأَنَا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا» فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ أَبْدَلَنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ ثُمَّ بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ قَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَأُسْأَلُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَتُكْفَينَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدًا فَلَيْسَ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتِ ابْنَتَهَا زَيْنَبَ فَجَعَلْتُهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْقَلِبُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَجَاءَ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ يْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَجَعَلَ يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي جَوَانِبِ الْبَيْتِ وَقَالَ «مَا فَعَلَتْ زَيْنَبُ؟ » قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى بِهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ فُلَانَةَ رَحَاءَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَمِرْفَقَةً حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ» وَقَالَ «إِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»  

[Machine] He heard the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , say: "No Muslim is afflicted with a calamity and says 'Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek recompense for my calamity from You. O Allah, replace it for me with something better than it,' except that Allah will replace it for him with something better." So when Abu Salamah passed away, Umm Salamah said: "Indeed, we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek recompense for my calamity in Abu Salamah from You. O Allah, replace him for me with someone better." So I kept saying to myself that someone better than Abu Salamah would come, until the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , proposed to me. So I said: "I am afflicted and I am possessive, and I am old." The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said: "As for being old, I am older than you. As for being possessive, I supplicate to Allah to remove it from you. And as for children, they are in the hands of Allah and His Messenger." So Umar bin Abu Salamah married me to him.  

أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ مَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ يُصَابُ بِمُصِيبَةٍ فَيَقُولُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ إِنِّي أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي عِنْدَكَ اللهُمَّ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلَّا أَبْدَلَهُ اللهُ بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قَالَتْ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ إِنِّي أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فِي أَبِي سَلَمَةَ عِنْدَكَ اللهُمَّ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهِ خَيْرًا مِنْهُ فَجَعَلْتُ أَقُولُ فِي نَفْسِي مِنْ خَيْرٍ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَخَطَبَنِي فَقُلْتُ أَنَا مُصْبِيَةٌ وَأَنَا غَيُورٌ وَأَنَا كَبِيرَةُ السِّنِّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «أَمَّا كِبَرُ السِّنِّ فَأَنَا أَكْبَرُ مِنْكِ وَأَمَّا الْغَيْرَةُ فَأَنَا أَدْعُو اللهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَهَا عَنْكِ وَأَمَّا الْعِيَالُ فَإِلَى اللهِ وَرَسُولِهِ» فَأَمَرَ عُمَرُ بْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَزَوَّجَنِي إِيَّاهُ  

"Tell the Messenger of Allah that I am a jealous woman and that I have sons, and none of my guardians are present." He went to the Messenger of Allah and told him that. He said: "Go back to her and tell her: As for your saying that you are a jealous woman, I will pray to Allah for you to take away your jealousy. As for your saying that you have sons, your sons will be taken care of. And as for your saying that none of your guardians are present, none of your guardians, present or absent, would object to that." She said to her son: "O 'Umar, get up and perform the marriage to the Messenger of Allah," so he performed the marriage. (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3254)  

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ لَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَلَمْ تَزَوِّجْهُ ثُمَّ بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوِّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ فَيُذْهِبُ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصِيبَةٌ فَسَتُكْفَيْنَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ مُخْتَصَرٌ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity, let him say, 'Indeed, to Allah we belong and to Him we shall return. O Allah, I seek reward in my affliction and substitute me with something better than it.' When Abu Salamah died, I said these words, and whenever I sought a replacement for him, I would say, 'Replace me with something better than him.' I said to myself, who could be better than Abu Salamah? Then I said it again. When her waiting period was over, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent Umar ibn Al-Khattab to propose to her. She said to her son, 'O Umar, get up and marry the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' She mentioned the narration of Abu Abdullah but there is no mention of Umar ibn Al-Khattab or the waiting period. Rather, she said, 'The Messenger of Allah ﷺ proposed to me and I said, there is no witness from among my guardians who would refuse him. He replied, 'There is no one among them, either present or absent, who would not be pleased with it.' So I said, 'O Umar, get up and marry the Messenger of Allah ﷺ .' The scholar (May Allah have mercy on him) mentioned that Umar ibn Abi Salamah was a relative of hers. This is because Umm Salamah is Hind bint Abi Umayyah ibn Al-Mughirah ibn Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Makhzum. And Umar is the son of Abu Salamah, whose name is Abdullah ibn Abdil-Asad ibn Hilal ibn Abdullah ibn Umar ibn Makhzum."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا طَلَبْتُ أَبْدَلَنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ ثُمَّ قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ لَفْظُ حَدِيثِ أَبِي عَبْدِ اللهِ وَلَيْسَ فِي رِوَايَةِ الْأَصْبَهَانِيِّ ذِكْرُ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ ؓ وَلَا ذِكْرُ الْعِدَّةِ وَلَكِنْ قَالَ قَالَتْ فَخَطَبَنِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدٌ قَالَ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَى بِهِ فَقُلْتُ يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ الشَّيْخُ رَحِمَهُ اللهُ وَعُمَرُ بْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ كَانَ عَصَبَةً لَهَا وَذَاكَ لِأَنَّ أُمَّ سَلَمَةَ هِيَ هِنْدُ بِنْتُ أَبِي أُمَيَّةَ بْنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَخْزُومٍ وَعُمَرُ هُوَ ابْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ وَأَبُو سَلَمَةَ اسْمُهُ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْأَسَدِ بْنِ هِلَالِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عُمَرَ بْنِ مَخْزُومٍ