[Machine] The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said: When any one of you is afflicted with a calamity, let him say: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." When Abu Salamah was in his death throes, he said: "O Allah, compensate me for my loss with something better." When he died, I said: "Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji'un. O Allah, I seek reward with You for my calamity, and replace it with something better." She added: "I wanted to say: Replace it for me with something better than him, but I could not say that. When her waiting period was over, Abu Bakr proposed marriage to her, then 'Umar proposed marriage to her, but the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said to her: "Do not be hasty, O 'Umar. I will not withhold her from you, but I have not conferred a blessing upon her yet. Her children will be given to you." She said: "O Messenger of Allah, I have no need for children; rather I want to uphold the ties of kinship." 'Umar said: "I knitted together two garments for her, and stuffed them with a kind of grass, then the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came and took her, and put her in her cradle in his room, and the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , was a modest and honorable man, and he would shy away from her, but he used to do that repeatedly." Then 'Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother through her mother, came and entered upon her, and he moved her cradle from his room and said: "Take away this tainted woman who was the cause of the harm caused to the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ ." The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , came in and put his hand on his forehead, and said: "Where is Zainab? What has Zainab done?" She said: "Ammar came and took her away." He said: "Then he married her to his own cousin and kin."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِذَا أَصَابَ أَحَدَكُمْ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِيمَا هُوَ خَيْرٌ مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا احْتُضِرَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قَالَ اللهُمَّ اخْلُفْنِي فِي أَهْلِي بِخَيْرٍ فَلَمَّا قُبِضَ قُلْتُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا قَالَتْ وَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَقُولَ وَأَبْدِلْنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَقُلْتُ وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَمَا زِلْتُ حَتَّى قُلْتُهَا فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا خَطَبَهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ فَرَدَّتْهُ ثُمَّ خَطَبَهَا عُمَرُ فَرَدَّتْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ مَرْحَبًا بِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ وَبِرَسُولِهِ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ وَأَنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي مُصْبِيَةٌ فَإِنَّ اللهَ سَيَكْفِيكِ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي غَيْرَى فَسَأَدْعُو اللهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا الْأَوْلِيَاءُ فَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْهُمْ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ إِلَّا سَيَرْضَانِي قُلْتُ يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَا إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ شَيْئًا مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ أُخْتَكِ فُلَانَةَ رَحَيَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَوِسَادَةً مِنْ أَدَمٍ حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ قَالَ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا فَإِذَا جَاءَ أَخَذَتْ زَيْنَبَ فَوَضَعَتْهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا لِتُرْضِعَهَا وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ حَيِيًّا كَرِيمًا يَسْتَحْيِي فَيَرْجِعُ فَفَعَلَ ذَلِكَ مِرَارًا فَفَطِنَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ لِمَا تَصْنَعُ فَأَقْبَلَ ذَاتَ يَوْمٍ وَجَاءَ عَمَّارٌ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا لِأُمِّهَا فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَافَانْتَشَطَهَا مِنْ حِجْرِهَا وَقَالَ دَعِي هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةَ الْمَشْقُوحَةَ الَّتِي آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ وَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ فَجَعَلَ يُقَلِّبُ بَصَرَهُ فِي الْبَيْتِ وَيَقُولُ أَيْنَ زَنَابُ؟ مَا فَعَلَتْ زَنَابُ؟ قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَذَهَبَ بِهَا قَالَ فَبَنَى بِأَهْلِهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِنْ شِئْتِ أَنْ أُسَبِّعَ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِلنِّسَاءِ  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) said, "Whoever is afflicted with a calamity should say, 'Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek reward from You for my affliction and replace it with something better.' "

When Abu Salamah died, I said this supplication and every time I said it, I saw that Allah replaced my calamity with something better. I said to myself, "Who is better than Abu Salamah?"

When her waiting period ended, Abu Bakr proposed to her, but she did not marry him. Then Umar proposed to her, but she did not marry him either. Then the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) sent Umar ibn Al-Khattab to propose to her on his behalf. She said, "Inform the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) that I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying, and I am a woman who is already afflicted. And there is no witness among my guardians." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) went to her and mentioned this to her. He said, "Tell her that when you say, 'I am a woman who is not interested in remarrying,' I ask Allah to remove your unwillingness. And when you say, 'I am a woman who is already afflicted,' may your children be sufficient for you. And when you say, 'There is no witness among my guardians,' no one among your guardians will be a witness, nor will anyone who is absent like that."

She said to her son, "O Umar, go and marry me to the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)." So Umar married her to him. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) used to visit her in her room to be intimate with her. But when she saw him, she would take her daughter Zainab and put her in her place. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) noticed this, so Ammar ibn Yasir, who was her foster brother, came to her and said, "Where is that wickedness with which you have harmed the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him)?" He took her and went with her. The Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) came to her and entered her room, and he began to strike his forehead against the sides of the house, saying, "What did Zainab do?" She said, "Ammar came and took her away." So the Messenger of Allah (Peace be upon him) rebuilt the house for her and said, "I will not decrease your status from what I have given to other women, two Rahas (sheep) and two Dirhams, and a bone filled with stuffing as a headrest." And he said, "If I have seven wives, I will have the same for all of them."  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَنْ أَصَابَتْهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَأَنَا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ عِنْدَكَ أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فَأْجُرْنِي فِيهَا وَأَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا» فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُهَا فَجَعَلْتُ كُلَّمَا بَلَغْتُ أَبْدَلَنِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قُلْتُ فِي نَفْسِي وَمَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ؟ فَلَمَّا انْقَضَتْ عِدَّتُهَا بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا أَبُو بَكْرٍ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ ثُمَّ بَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا عُمَرُ يَخْطُبُهَا فَلَمْ تَزَوَّجْهُ فَبَعَثَ إِلَيْهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عُمَرَ بْنَ الْخَطَّابِ يَخْطُبُهَا عَلَيْهِ قَالَتْ أَخْبِرْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى وَأَنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ وَلَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِي شَاهِدًا فَأَتَى رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَذَكَرَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهَا فَقُلْ لَهَا أَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ غَيْرَى فَأُسْأَلُ اللَّهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَ غَيْرَتَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنِّي امْرَأَةٌ مُصْبِيَةٌ فَتُكْفَينَ صِبْيَانَكِ وَأَمَّا قَوْلُكِ إِنَّهُ لَيْسَ أَحَدٌ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدًا فَلَيْسَ مِنْ أَوْلِيَائِكِ شَاهِدٌ وَلَا غَائِبٌ يَكْرَهُ ذَلِكَ» فَقَالَتْ لِابْنِهَا يَا عُمَرُ قُمْ فَزَوِّجْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَزَوَّجَهُ فَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَأْتِيهَا لِيَدْخُلَ بِهَا فَإِذَا رَأَتْهُ أَخَذَتِ ابْنَتَهَا زَيْنَبَ فَجَعَلْتُهَا فِي حِجْرِهَا فَيَنْقَلِبُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَعَلِمَ بِذَلِكَ عَمَّارُ بْنُ يَاسِرٍ وَكَانَ أَخَاهَا مِنَ الرَّضَاعَةِ فَجَاءَ إِلَيْهَا فَقَالَ يْنَ هَذِهِ الْمَقْبُوحَةُ الَّتِي قَدْ آذَيْتِ بِهَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَدَخَلَ عَلَيْهَا فَجَعَلَ يَضْرِبُ بِبَصَرِهِ فِي جَوَانِبِ الْبَيْتِ وَقَالَ «مَا فَعَلَتْ زَيْنَبُ؟ » قَالَتْ جَاءَ عَمَّارٌ فَأَخَذَهَا فَذَهَبَ بِهَا فَبَنَى بِهَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أَنْقُصُكِ مِمَّا أَعْطَيْتُ فُلَانَةَ رَحَاءَيْنِ وَجَرَّتَيْنِ وَمِرْفَقَةً حَشْوُهَا لِيفٌ» وَقَالَ «إِنْ سَبَّعْتُ لَكِ سَبَّعْتُ لِنِسَائِي»