43. Good Conduct and Manners (1/11)
٤٣۔ كتاب الأدب ص ١
the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was one of the best of men in character. One day he sent me to do something, and I said: I swore by Allah that I would not go. But in my heart I felt that I should go to do what the Prophet of Allah ﷺ had commanded me; so I went out and came upon some boys who were playing in the street. All of a sudden the Messenger of Allah ﷺ who had come up behind caught me by the back of the neck, and when I looked at him he was laughing. He said: Go where I ordered you, little Anas. I replied: Yes, I am going, Apostle of Allah! Anas said: I swear by Allah, I served him for seven or nine years, and he never said to me about a thing which I had done: Why did you do such and such? Nor about a thing which I left: why did not do such and such?
أَنَسٌ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنْ أَحْسَنِ النَّاسِ خُلُقًا فَأَرْسَلَنِي يَوْمًا لِحَاجَةٍ فَقُلْتُ وَاللَّهِ لاَ أَذْهَبُ وَفِي نَفْسِي أَنْ أَذْهَبَ لِمَا أَمَرَنِي بِهِ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَخَرَجْتُ حَتَّى أَمُرَّ عَلَى صِبْيَانٍ وَهُمْ يَلْعَبُونَ فِي السُّوقِ فَإِذَا رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَابِضٌ بِقَفَاىَ مِنْ وَرَائِي فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهِ وَهُوَ يَضْحَكُ فَقَالَ يَا أُنَيْسُ اذْهَبْ حَيْثُ أَمَرْتُكَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ أَنَا أَذْهَبُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ أَنَسٌ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ خَدَمْتُهُ سَبْعَ سِنِينَ أَوْ تِسْعَ سِنِينَ مَا عَلِمْتُ قَالَ لِشَىْءٍ صَنَعْتُ لِمَ فَعَلْتَ كَذَا وَكَذَا وَلاَ لِشَىْءٍ تَرَكْتُ هَلاَّ فَعَلْتَ كَذَا وَكَذَا
I served the Prophet ﷺ at Medina for ten years. I was a boy. Every work that I did was not according to the desire of my master, but he never said to me: Fie, nor did he say to me: Why did you do this? or Why did you not do this?
خَدَمْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ عَشْرَ سِنِينَ بِالْمَدِينَةِ وَأَنَا غُلاَمٌ لَيْسَ كُلُّ أَمْرِي كَمَا يَشْتَهِي صَاحِبِي أَنْ أَكُونَ عَلَيْهِ مَا قَالَ لِي فِيهَا أُفٍّ قَطُّ وَمَا قَالَ لِي لِمَ فَعَلْتَ هَذَا أَوْ أَلاَ فَعَلْتَ هَذَا
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to sit with us in meetings and talk to us. When he stood up we also used to stand up and see him entering the house of one of his wives. One day he talked to us and we stood up as he stood up and we saw that an Arabi (a nomadic Arab) caught hold of him and gave his cloak a violent tug making his neck red. AbuHurayrah said: The cloak was coarse. He turned to him and the Arabi said to him: Load these two camels of mine, for you do not give me anything from your property or from your father's property. The Prophet ﷺ said to him: No, I ask Allah's forgiveness; no, I ask Allah's forgiveness; no, I ask Allah's forgiveness. I shall not give you the camel-load until you make amends for the way in which you tugged at me. Each time the Arabi said to him: I swear by Allah, I shall not do so. He then mentioned the rest of the tradition. He (the Prophet), then called a man and said to him: Load these two camels of his: one camel with barley and the other with dates. He then turned to us and said: Go on your way with the blessing of Allah.
يُحَدِّثُنَا كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يَجْلِسُ مَعَنَا فِي الْمَجْلِسِ يُحَدِّثُنَا فَإِذَا قَامَ قُمْنَا قِيَامًا حَتَّى نَرَاهُ قَدْ دَخَلَ بَعْضَ بُيُوتِ أَزْوَاجِهِ فَحَدَّثَنَا يَوْمًا فَقُمْنَا حِينَ قَامَ فَنَظَرْنَا إِلَى أَعْرَابِيٍّ قَدْ أَدْرَكَهُ فَجَبَذَهُ بِرِدَائِهِ فَحَمَّرَ رَقَبَتَهُ قَالَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ وَكَانَ رِدَاءً خَشِنًا فَالْتَفَتَ فَقَالَ لَهُ الأَعْرَابِيُّ احْمِلْ لِي عَلَى بَعِيرَىَّ هَذَيْنِ فَإِنَّكَ لاَ تَحْمِلُ لِي مِنْ مَالِكَ وَلاَ مِنْ مَالِ أَبِيكَ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ لاَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ لاَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ لاَ وَأَسْتَغْفِرُ اللَّهَ لاَ أَحْمِلُ لَكَ حَتَّى تُقِيدَنِي مِنْ جَبْذَتِكَ الَّتِي جَبَذْتَنِي فَكُلُّ ذَلِكَ يَقُولُ لَهُ الأَعْرَابِيُّ وَاللَّهِ لاَ أَقِيدُكَهَا فَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ قَالَ ثُمَّ دَعَا رَجُلاً فَقَالَ لَهُ احْمِلْ لَهُ عَلَى بَعِيرَيْهِ هَذَيْنِ عَلَى بَعِيرٍ شَعِيرًا وَعَلَى الآخَرِ تَمْرًا ثُمَّ الْتَفَتَ إِلَيْنَا فَقَالَ انْصَرِفُوا عَلَى بَرَكَةِ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى
43.2 Regarding dignity
٤٣۔٢ باب فِي الْوَقَارِ
The Prophet ﷺ said: Good way, dignified good bearing and moderation are the twenty-fifth part of Prophecy.
أَنَّ نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ الْهَدْىَ الصَّالِحَ وَالسَّمْتَ الصَّالِحَ وَالاِقْتِصَادَ جُزْءٌ مِنْ خَمْسَةٍ وَعِشْرِينَ جُزْءًا مِنَ النُّبُوَّةِ
43.3 Regarding suppressing anger
٤٣۔٣ باب مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا
On Judgement Day, superiority will be granted to the one who suppresses his anger
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: If anyone suppresses anger when he is in a position to give vent to it, Allah, the Exalted, will call him on the Day of Resurrection over the heads of all creatures, and ask him to choose any of the bright and large-eyed maidens he wishes.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ: «مَنْ كَظَمَ غَيْظًا وَهُوَ قَادِرٌ عَلَى أَنْ يُنْفِذَهُ، دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ ﷻ عَلَى رُءُوسِ الْخَلاَئِقِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ حَتَّى يُخَيِّرَهُ اللَّهُ مِنَ الْحُورِ مَا شَاءَ۔»
He then mentioned a similar tradition described above. This version has: Allah will fill his heart with security and faith. He did not mention the words "Allah will call him". This version further adds: He who gives up wearing beautiful garments when he is able to do so (out of humility, as Bishr's version has) will be clothed by Allah with the robe of honour, and he who marries for Allah's sake will be crowned by Allah with the crown of Kingdom.
عَنْ رَجُلٍ مِنْ أَبْنَاءِ أَصْحَابِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ نَحْوَهُ قَالَ مَلأَهُ اللَّهُ أَمْنًا وَإِيمَانًا لَمْ يَذْكُرْ قِصَّةَ دَعَاهُ اللَّهُ زَادَ وَمَنْ تَرَكَ لُبْسَ ثَوْبِ جَمَالٍ وَهُوَ يَقْدِرُ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ بِشْرٌ أَحْسِبُهُ قَالَ تَوَاضُعًا كَسَاهُ اللَّهُ حُلَّةَ الْكَرَامَةِ وَمَنْ زَوَّجَ لِلَّهِ تَعَالَى تَوَّجَهُ اللَّهُ تَاجَ الْمُلْكِ
Whom do you consider a wrestler among you? The people replied: (the man) whom the men cannot defeat in wrestling. He said: No, it is he who controls himself when he is angry.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَا تَعُدُّونَ الصُّرَعَةَ فِيكُمْ قَالُوا الَّذِي لاَ يَصْرَعُهُ الرِّجَالُ قَالَ لاَ وَلَكِنَّهُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ
43.4 What should be said at the time of anger
٤٣۔٤ باب مَا يُقَالُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ
Two men reviled each other in the presence of the Prophet ﷺ and one of them became excessively angry so much so that I thought that his nose will break up on account of excess of anger. The Prophet ﷺ said: I know a phrase which, if he repeated, he could get rid of this angry feeling. They asked: What is it, Messenger of Allah? He replied: He should say: I seek refuge in Thee from the accursed devil. Mu'adh then began to ask him to do so, but he refused and persisted in quarrelling, and began to enhance his anger.
اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَغَضِبَ أَحَدُهُمَا غَضَبًا شَدِيدًا حَتَّى خُيِّلَ إِلَىَّ أَنَّ أَنْفَهُ يَتَمَزَّعُ مِنْ شِدَّةِ غَضَبِهِ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ مَا يَجِدُهُ مِنَ الْغَضَبِ فَقَالَ مَا هِيَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ يَقُولُ اللَّهُمَّ إِنِّي أَعُوذُ بِكَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ قَالَ فَجَعَلَ مُعَاذٌ يَأْمُرُهُ فَأَبَى وَمَحِكَ وَجَعَلَ يَزْدَادُ غَضَبًا
Two men reviled each other in the presence of the Prophet ﷺ. Then the eyes of one of them became red and his jugular veins swelled. The Apostle of Allah ﷺ said: I know a phrase by repeating which the man could get rid of the angry feelings: I seek refuge in Allah from the accursed devil. The man said: Do you see insanity in me.
اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَجَعَلَ أَحَدُهُمَا تَحْمَرُّ عَيْنَاهُ وَتَنْتَفِخُ أَوْدَاجُهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنِّي لأَعْرِفُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا هَذَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الَّذِي يَجِدُ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ فَقَالَ الرَّجُلُ هَلْ تَرَى بِي مِنْ جُنُونٍ
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to us: When one of you becomes angry while standing, he should sit down. If the anger leaves him, well and good; otherwise he should lie down.
إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ لَنَا إِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ وَهُوَ قَائِمٌ فَلْيَجْلِسْ فَإِنْ ذَهَبَ عَنْهُ الْغَضَبُ وَإِلاَّ فَلْيَضْطَجِعْ
The Prophet ﷺ sent Muʿadh for some of his work. He then transmitted the rest of the tradition mentioned above. Abu Dawud said: This tradition is sounder of the two traditions.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ بَعَثَ أَبَا ذَرٍّ بِهَذَا الْحَدِيثِ
AbuWa'il al-Qass said: We entered upon Urwah ibn Muhammad ibn as-Sa'di. A man spoke to him and made him angry. So he stood and performed ablution; he then returned and performed ablution, and said: My father told me on the authority of my grandfather Atiyyah who reported the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as saying: Anger comes from the devil, the devil was created of fire, and fire is extinguished only with water; so when one of you becomes angry, he should perform ablution.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ الْغَضَبَ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ وَإِنَّ الشَّيْطَانَ خُلِقَ مِنَ النَّارِ وَإِنَّمَا تُطْفَأُ النَّارُ بِالْمَاءِ فَإِذَا غَضِبَ أَحَدُكُمْ فَلْيَتَوَضَّأْ
43.5 Being tolerant
٤٣۔٥ باب فِي الْعَفْوِ وَالتَّجَاوُزِ فِي الأَمْرِ
the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was never given his choice between two things without taking the easier(or lesser) of them provided it involved no sin, for if it did, no one kept farther away from it than he. And the Messenger of Allah ﷺ never took revenge on his own behalf for anything unless something Allah had forbidden has been transgressed, in which event he took revenge for it for Allah’s sake.
أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ مَا خُيِّرَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي أَمْرَيْنِ إِلاَّ اخْتَارَ أَيْسَرَهُمَا مَا لَمْ يَكُنْ إِثْمًا فَإِنْ كَانَ إِثْمًا كَانَ أَبْعَدَ النَّاسِ مِنْهُ وَمَا انْتَقَمَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لِنَفْسِهِ إِلاَّ أَنْ تُنْتَهَكَ حُرْمَةُ اللَّهِ تَعَالَى فَيَنْتَقِمَ لِلَّهِ بِهَا
the Messenger of Allah (saws ) never struck a servant or a woman.
مَا ضَرَبَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ خَادِمًا وَلاَ امْرَأَةً قَطُّ
The Prophet of Allah ﷺ was commanded to hold to forgiveness from the conduct of the people.
قَوْلِهِ { خُذِ الْعَفْوَ } قَالَ أُمِرَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَأْخُذَ الْعَفْوَ مِنْ أَخْلاَقِ النَّاسِ
43.6 Regarding good interactions with people
٤٣۔٦ باب فِي حُسْنِ الْعِشْرَةِ
When the Prophet ﷺ was informed of anything of a certain man, he would not say: What is the matter with so and so that he says? But he would say: What is the matter with the people that they say such and such?
كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِذَا بَلَغَهُ عَنِ الرَّجُلِ الشَّىْءُ لَمْ يَقُلْ مَا بَالُ فُلاَنٍ يَقُولُ وَلَكِنْ يَقُولُ مَا بَالُ أَقْوَامٍ يَقُولُونَ كَذَا وَكَذَا
A man who had the mark of yellowness on him came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. The apostle of Allah ﷺ rarely mentioned anything of a man which he disliked before him. When he went out, he said: Would that you asked him to wash it from him. Abu Dawud said: Salam is not 'Alawi (from the descendants of 'Ali). He used to foretell events by stars. He bore witness before 'Abi b. Arafat to the visibility of moon, but he did not accept his witness.
أَنَّ رَجُلاً دَخَلَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَعَلَيْهِ أَثَرُ صُفْرَةٍ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَلَّمَا يُوَاجِهُ رَجُلاً فِي وَجْهِهِ بِشَىْءٍ يَكْرَهُهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قَالَ لَوْ أَمَرْتُمْ هَذَا أَنْ يَغْسِلَ ذَا عَنْهُ
The Prophet ﷺ said: The believer is simple and generous, but the profligate is deceitful and ignoble.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ الْمُؤْمِنُ غِرٌّ كَرِيمٌ وَالْفَاجِرُ خِبٌّ لَئِيمٌ
A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and he said: He is a bad son of the tribe, or: He is a bad member of the tribe. He then said : Give him permission. Then when he entered, he spoke to him leniently. ʿA’isha asked : Apostle of Allah! You spoke to him leniently while you said about him what you said! He replied: The one who will have the worst position in Allah’s estimation on the Day of Resurrection will be the one whom people left alone for fear of his ribaldry.
قَالَتِ اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ ثُمَّ قَالَ ائْذَنُوا لَهُ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ أَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ وَقَدْ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ قَالَ إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ أَوْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ لاِتِّقَاءِ فُحْشِهِ
A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and the Prophet ﷺ said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed , I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aisha! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.
أَنَّ رَجُلاً اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَكَلَّمَهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَمَّا اسْتَأْذَنَ قُلْتَ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْفَاحِشَ الْمُتَفَحِّشَ
the Prophet ﷺ said: ʿA’isha! There are some bad people who are respected for fear of their tongues.
تَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ مِنْ شِرَارِ النَّاسِ الَّذِينَ يُكْرَمُونَ اتِّقَاءَ أَلْسِنَتِهِمْ
I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.
مَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً الْتَقَمَ أُذُنَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَيُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ وَمَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً أَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ فَتَرَكَ يَدَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يَدَعُ يَدَهُ
43.7 Modesty (Al-haya)
٤٣۔٧ باب فِي الْحَيَاءِ
The Prophet ﷺ passed by a man of the Ansar when he was giving his brother a warning against modesty. The Apostle of Allah ﷺ said : Leave him alone, for modesty is a part of faith.
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ مَرَّ عَلَى رَجُلٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ وَهُوَ يَعِظُ أَخَاهُ فِي الْحَيَاءِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ دَعْهُ فَإِنَّ الْحَيَاءَ مِنَ الإِيمَانِ
We were sitting with ʿImran b. Hussain and Bushair b. Kaʿb was also there. ʿImran b. Hussain reported the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as saying: Modesty is good altogether, or he said: Modesty is altogether good. Bushair b. Kaʿb said : We find in some books that there is a modesty which produces peace and dignified bearing, and there is a modesty which produces weakness. ʿImran b. Hussain repeated the same words. So ʿImran became angry so much so that his eyes became red, and he said : Don’t you see that I am transmitting a tradition from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and you are mentioning something from your books? He (Qatadah) said : We said : Abu Nujaid, it is sufficient.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ الْحَيَاءُ خَيْرٌ كُلُّهُ أَوْ قَالَ الْحَيَاءُ كُلُّهُ خَيْرٌ فَقَالَ بُشَيْرُ بْنُ كَعْبٍ إِنَّا نَجِدُ فِي بَعْضِ الْكُتُبِ أَنَّ مِنْهُ سَكِينَةً وَوَقَارًا وَمِنْهُ ضَعْفًا فَأَعَادَ عِمْرَانُ الْحَدِيثَ وَأَعَادَ بُشَيْرٌ الْكَلاَمَ قَالَ فَغَضِبَ عِمْرَانُ حَتَّى احْمَرَّتْ عَيْنَاهُ وَقَالَ أَلاَ أَرَانِي أُحَدِّثُكَ عَنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَتُحَدِّثُنِي عَنْ كُتُبِكَ قَالَ قُلْنَا يَا أَبَا نُجَيْدٍ إِيهٍ إِيهٍ
One of the things people have learnt from the words of the earliest prophecy is : If you have no shame, do what you like.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ مِمَّا أَدْرَكَ النَّاسُ مِنْ كَلاَمِ النُّبُوَّةِ الأُولَى إِذَا لَمْ تَسْتَحِ فَافْعَلْ مَا شِئْتَ
43.8 Regarding good character
٤٣۔٨ باب فِي حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: By his good character a believer will attain the degree of one who prays during the night and fasts during the day.
سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ إِنَّ الْمُؤْمِنَ لَيُدْرِكُ بِحُسْنِ خُلُقِهِ دَرَجَةَ الصَّائِمِ الْقَائِمِ
The Prophet ﷺ said: There is nothing heavier than good character put in the scale of a believer on the Day of Resurrection. Abu al-Walid said: I heard 'Ata al-Kaikharani say: Abu Dawud said: His name is 'Ata b. Ya'qub. He is the maternal uncle of Ibrahim b. Nafi'. He is called Kaikharani or Kukharani.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ مَا مِنْ شَىْءٍ أَثْقَلُ فِي الْمِيزَانِ مِنْ حُسْنِ الْخُلُقِ قَالَ أَبُو الْوَلِيدِ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ عَطَاءً الْكَيْخَارَانِيَّ
Stations in Jannah for those who avoid quarrels and tease people and show good character
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: "I guarantee a house in the surroundings of Paradise for a man who avoids quarreling even if he were in the right, a house in the middle of Paradise for a man who avoids lying even if he were joking, and a house in the highest part of Paradise for a man who made his character good."
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «أَنَا زَعِيمٌ بِبَيْتٍ فِي رَبَضِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْمِرَاءَ وَإِنْ كَانَ مُحِقًّا، وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي وَسَطِ الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ تَرَكَ الْكَذِبَ، وَإِنْ كَانَ مَازِحًا وَبِبَيْتٍ فِي أَعْلَى الْجَنَّةِ لِمَنْ حَسَّنَ خُلُقَهُ۔»
neither the Jawwaz nor the Jazari will enter paradise. He said that the Jawwaz is the one who is coarse and uncivil.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لاَ يَدْخُلُ الْجَنَّةَ الْجَوَّاظُ وَلاَ الْجَعْظَرِيُّ قَالَ وَالْجَوَّاظُ الْغَلِيظُ الْفَظُّ
43.9 Regarding exaltation being disliked in (worldly) matters
٤٣۔٩ باب فِي كَرَاهِيَةِ الرِّفْعَةِ فِي الأُمُورِ
The she-camel of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ called al-Adba’ had not been outstripped by another, but an Aʿrabi (a nomadic Arab) came on a young riding camel of his and it outstripped it. That distressed the companions of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, but he said: It is Allah’s right that nothing should become exalted in the world but he lowers it.
كَانَتِ الْعَضْبَاءُ لاَ تُسْبَقُ فَجَاءَ أَعْرَابِيٌّ عَلَى قَعُودٍ لَهُ فَسَابَقَهَا فَسَبَقَهَا الأَعْرَابِيُّ فَكَأَنَّ ذَلِكَ شَقَّ عَلَى أَصْحَابِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ حَقٌّ عَلَى اللَّهِ ﷻ أَنْ لاَ يَرْفَعَ شَيْئًا مِنَ الدُّنْيَا إِلاَّ وَضَعَهُ
It is Allah’s right that nothing should become exalted in the world but he lowers it.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ حَقًّا عَلَى اللَّهِ ﷻ أَنْ لاَ يَرْتَفِعَ شَىْءٌ مِنَ الدُّنْيَا إِلاَّ وَضَعَهُ
43.10 Regarding it being disliked to praise (people)
٤٣۔١٠ باب فِي كَرَاهِيَةِ التَّمَادُحِ
A man came and praised ‘Uthman in his face, al-Miqdad b. Al-Aswad took dust and threw it on his face, saying : The Apostle of Allah ﷺ said : When you see those who are given to praising people, throw dust in their faces.
وَقَالَ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا لَقِيتُمُ الْمَدَّاحِينَ فَاحْثُوا فِي وُجُوهِهِمُ التُّرَابَ
You have beheaded your friend (saying it three times). He then said : One who cannot help expressing praise of his companion, should say : I consider him such and such (as he intends to say), but I do not declare him pure with Allah.
أَنَّ رَجُلاً أَثْنَى عَلَى رَجُلٍ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَهُ قَطَعْتَ عُنُقَ صَاحِبِكَ ثَلاَثَ مَرَّاتٍ ثُمَّ قَالَ إِذَا مَدَحَ أَحَدُكُمْ صَاحِبَهُ لاَ مَحَالَةَ فَلْيَقُلْ إِنِّي أَحْسِبُهُ كَمَا يُرِيدُ أَنْ يَقُولَ وَلاَ أُزَكِّيهِ عَلَى اللَّهِ
I went with a deputation of Banu Amir to the apostle of Allah ﷺ, and we said: You are our lord (sayyid). To this he replied: The lord is Allah, the Blessed and Exalted. Then we said: And the one of us most endowed with excellence and superiority. To this he replied: Say what you have to say, or part of what you have to say, and do not let the devil make you his agents.
أَبِي انْطَلَقْتُ فِي وَفْدِ بَنِي عَامِرٍ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقُلْنَا أَنْتَ سَيِّدُنَا فَقَالَ السَّيِّدُ اللَّهُ تَبَارَكَ وَتَعَالَى قُلْنَا وَأَفْضَلُنَا فَضْلاً وَأَعْظَمُنَا طَوْلاً فَقَالَ قُولُوا بِقَوْلِكُمْ أَوْ بَعْضِ قَوْلِكُمْ وَلاَ يَسْتَجْرِيَنَّكُمُ الشَّيْطَانُ
43.11 Regarding gentleness
٤٣۔١١ باب فِي الرِّفْقِ
Allah is gentle, likes gentleness, and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَيْهِ مَا لاَ يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ
Al-Miqdam ibn Shurayh, quoting his father, said: I asked Aisha about living in the desert. She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to go to the desert to these rivulets. Once he intended to go to the desert and he sent to me a she-camel from the camel of sadaqah which had not been used for riding so far. He said to me: Aisha! show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it. Ibn al-Sabbah said in his version: Muharramah means a mount which has not been used for riding.
كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَبْدُو إِلَى هَذِهِ التِّلاَعِ وَإِنَّهُ أَرَادَ الْبَدَاوَةَ مَرَّةً فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَىَّ نَاقَةً مُحَرَّمَةً مِنْ إِبِلِ الصَّدَقَةِ فَقَالَ لِي يَا عَائِشَةُ ارْفُقِي فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِي شَىْءٍ قَطُّ إِلاَّ زَانَهُ وَلاَ نُزِعَ مِنْ شَىْءٍ قَطُّ إِلاَّ شَانَهُ قَالَ ابْنُ الصَّبَّاحِ فِي حَدِيثِهِ مُحَرَّمَةٌ يَعْنِي لَمْ تُرْكَبْ
The Prophet ﷺ said: He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ يُحْرَمِ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمِ الْخَيْرَ كُلَّهُ
The Prophet ﷺ said: There is hesitation in everything except in the actions of the next world.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ التُّؤَدَةُ فِي كُلِّ شَىْءٍ إِلاَّ فِي عَمَلِ الآخِرَةِ
43.12 Regarding gratitude for acts of kindness
٤٣۔١٢ باب فِي شُكْرِ الْمَعْرُوفِ
The Prophet ﷺ said: He who does not thank the people is not thankful to Allah.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ لاَ يَشْكُرُ اللَّهَ مَنْ لاَ يَشْكُرُ النَّاسَ
The Immigrants (Muhajirun) said: Messenger of Allah! the Helpers (Ansar) got the entire reward. He said: no, so long as you pray to Allah for them and praise them.
أَنَّ الْمُهَاجِرِينَ قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ذَهَبَتِ الأَنْصَارُ بِالأَجْرِ كُلِّهِ قَالَ لاَ مَا دَعَوْتُمُ اللَّهَ لَهُمْ وَأَثْنَيْتُمْ عَلَيْهِمْ
The Prophet ﷺ said: If someone is given something, he should give a return for it provided he can afford; if he cannot afford, he should praise him. He who praises him for it, thanks him, and he who conceals it is ungrateful to him. Abu Dawud said: It has been transmitted by Yahya b. Ayyub, from ʿUmarah b. Ghaziyyah, from Sharahbil on the authority of Jabir. Abu Dawud said: In the chain of this tradition ʿUmarah b. Ghaziyyah said: A man from my tribe said. The man referred by him is Sharahbil. It is likely that they disliked him and, therefore, they did not name him.
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ أُعْطِيَ عَطَاءً فَوَجَدَ فَلْيَجْزِ بِهِ فَإِنْ لَمْ يَجِدْ فَلْيُثْنِ بِهِ فَمَنْ أَثْنَى بِهِ فَقَدْ شَكَرَهُ وَمَنْ كَتَمَهُ فَقَدْ كَفَرَهُ
The Prophet ﷺ said: If someone is donated something, and he mentions it, he thanks for it, and if he conceals it, he is ungrateful for it.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ مَنْ أَبْلَى بَلاَءً فَذَكَرَهُ فَقَدْ شَكَرَهُ وَإِنْ كَتَمَهُ فَقَدْ كَفَرَهُ
43.13 Regarding sitting in the streets
٤٣۔١٣ باب فِي الْجُلُوسِ فِي الطُّرُقَاتِ
Avoid sitting in the roads. The people said: Apostle of Allah! We must have meeting places in which to converse. The apostle of Allah ﷺ said: If you insist on meeting, give the road its due. They asked: What is the due of roads, Apostle of Allah? He replied: Lowering the eyes, removing anything offensive, returning salutation, commanding what is reputable and forbidding what is disreputable.
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِيَّاكُمْ وَالْجُلُوسَ بِالطُّرُقَاتِ فَقَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ مَا بُدٌّ لَنَا مِنْ مَجَالِسِنَا نَتَحَدَّثُ فِيهَا فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنْ أَبَيْتُمْ فَأَعْطُوا الطَّرِيقَ حَقَّهُ قَالُوا وَمَا حَقُّ الطَّرِيقِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ غَضُّ الْبَصَرِ وَكَفُّ الأَذَى وَرَدُّ السَّلاَمِ وَالأَمْرُ بِالْمَعْرُوفِ وَالنَّهْىُ عَنِ الْمُنْكَرِ
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فِي هَذِهِ الْقِصَّةِ قَالَ وَإِرْشَادُ السَّبِيلِ
The Prophet ﷺ said: the same occasion: Help the oppressed (sorrowful) and guide those who have lost their way.
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فِي هَذِهِ الْقِصَّةِ قَالَ وَتُغِيثُوا الْمَلْهُوفَ وَتَهْدُوا الضَّالَّ
A woman came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said: Messenger of Allah: I have some need with you. He said to her: Mother of so and so, sit in the corner of any street you wish and I shall sit with you. So she sat and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ also sat with her till she fulfilled her need. The narrator Ibn 'Isa did not mention "till she fulfilled her need." And Kathir said: from Humaid on the authority of Anas.
جَاءَتِ امْرَأَةٌ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَتْ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي إِلَيْكَ حَاجَةً فَقَالَ لَهَا يَا أُمَّ فُلاَنٍ اجْلِسِي فِي أَىِّ نَوَاحِي السِّكَكِ شِئْتِ حَتَّى أَجْلِسَ إِلَيْكِ قَالَ فَجَلَسَتْ فَجَلَسَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِلَيْهَا حَتَّى قَضَتْ حَاجَتَهَا وَلَمْ يَذْكُرِ ابْنُ عِيسَى حَتَّى قَضَتْ حَاجَتَهَا وَقَالَ كَثِيرٌ عَنْ حُمَيْدٍ عَنْ أَنَسٍ
أَنَّ امْرَأَةً كَانَ فِي عَقْلِهَا شَىْءٌ بِمَعْنَاهُ
43.14 Regarding spaciousness in gatherings
٤٣۔١٤ باب فِي سَعَةِ الْمَجْلِسِ
I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ as saying: The best places to sit are those which provide most room. Abu Dawud said: The name of 'Abd al-Rahman b. Abi 'Amr is 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Amr b. Abi 'Umrat al-Ansari.
سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ خَيْرُ الْمَجَالِسِ أَوْسَعُهَا
43.15 Regarding sitting party in the sun and party in the shade
٤٣۔١٥ باب فِي الْجُلُوسِ بَيْنَ الظِّلِّ وَالشَّمْسِ
AbulQasim ﷺ said: When one of you is in the sun (Shams)--Makhlad's version has "fay'"--and the shadow withdraws from him so that he is partly in sun and partly in shade, he should get up.
أَبُو الْقَاسِمِ ﷺ إِذَا كَانَ أَحَدُكُمْ فِي الشَّمْسِ وَقَالَ مَخْلَدٌ فِي الْفَىْءِ فَقَلَصَ عَنْهُ الظِّلُّ وَصَارَ بَعْضُهُ فِي الشَّمْسِ وَبَعْضُهُ فِي الظِّلِّ فَلْيَقُمْ
Qais quoted his father as saying that he (his father) came when the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was addressing. He stood in the sun. He ordered him (to shift) and he shifted to the shade.
أَنَّهُ جَاءَ وَرَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَخْطُبُ فَقَامَ فِي الشَّمْسِ فَأَمَرَ بِهِ فَحُوِّلَ إِلَى الظِّلِّ