43. Good Conduct and Manners

٤٣۔ كتاب الأدب

43.58 Reconciliation

٤٣۔٥٨ باب فِي إِصْلاَحِ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ

abudawud:4919Muḥammad b. al-ʿAlāʾ > Abū Muʿāwiyah > al-Aʿmash > ʿAmr b. Murrah > Sālim > Um al-Dardāʾ > Abū al-Dardāʾ

The Prophet ﷺ said: Shall I not inform you of something more excellent in degree than fasting, prayer and almsgiving (sadaqah)? The people replied: Yes, Prophet of Allah! He said: It is putting things right between people, spoiling them is the shaver (destructive).  

أبو داود:٤٩١٩حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الْعَلاَءِ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ مُرَّةَ عَنْ سَالِمٍ عَنْ أُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَلاَ أُخْبِرُكُمْ بِأَفْضَلَ مِنْ دَرَجَةِ الصِّيَامِ وَالصَّلاَةِ وَالصَّدَقَةِ قَالُوا بَلَى قَالَ إِصْلاَحُ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ وَفَسَادُ ذَاتِ الْبَيْنِ الْحَالِقَةُ  

abudawud:4920[Chain 1] Naṣr b. ʿAlī > Sufyān > al-Zuhrī [Chain 2] Musaddad > Ismāʿīl [Chain 3] Aḥmad b. Muḥammad b. Shabbūyah al-Marwazī > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > al-Zuhrī > Ḥumayd b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman from his mother

The Prophet ﷺ said: He who forged in order to put things right between two persons did not lie. The version by Ahmad ibn Muhammad and Musaddad has: The liar is not the one who puts things right between people, saying what is good and increasing good.  

أبو داود:٤٩٢٠حَدَّثَنَا نَصْرُ بْنُ عَلِيٍّ أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ ح وَحَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ ح وَحَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ شَبُّويَةَ الْمَرْوَزِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ أَخْبَرَنَا مَعْمَرٌ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَنْ أُمِّهِ

أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَ لَمْ يَكْذِبْ مَنْ نَمَى بَيْنَ اثْنَيْنِ لِيُصْلِحَ وَقَالَ أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدٍ وَمُسَدَّدٌ لَيْسَ بِالْكَاذِبِ مَنْ أَصْلَحَ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ فَقَالَ خَيْرًا أَوْ نَمَى خَيْرًا  

abudawud:4921al-Rabīʿ b. Sulaymān al-Jīzī > Abū al-Aswad > Nāfiʿ / Ibn Yazīd > Ibn al-Hād > ʿAbd al-Wahhāb b. Abū Bakr > Ibn Shihāb > Ḥumayd b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Ummih Um Kulthūm b. ʿUqbah > Mā

I did not hear the Messenger of Allah ﷺ making a concession for anything people say falsely except in three matters. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ would say: I do not count as a liar a man who puts things right between people, saying a word by which he intends only putting things right, and a man who says something in war, and a man who says something to his wife, or a wife who says something to her husband.  

أبو داود:٤٩٢١حَدَّثَنَا الرَّبِيعُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ الْجِيزِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو الأَسْوَدِ عَنْ نَافِعٍ يَعْنِي ابْنَ يَزِيدَ عَنِ ابْنِ الْهَادِ أَنَّ عَبْدَ الْوَهَّابِ بْنَ أَبِي بَكْرٍ حَدَّثَهُ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ عَنْ حُمَيْدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَنْ أُمِّهِ أُمِّ كُلْثُومٍ بِنْتِ عُقْبَةَ قَالَتْ مَا

سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُرَخِّصُ فِي شَىْءٍ مِنَ الْكَذِبِ إِلاَّ فِي ثَلاَثٍ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ لاَ أَعُدُّهُ كَاذِبًا الرَّجُلُ يُصْلِحُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ يَقُولُ الْقَوْلَ وَلاَ يُرِيدُ بِهِ إِلاَّ الإِصْلاَحَ وَالرَّجُلُ يَقُولُ فِي الْحَرْبِ وَالرَّجُلُ يُحَدِّثُ امْرَأَتَهُ وَالْمَرْأَةُ تُحَدِّثُ زَوْجَهَا