when two men abuse one another, what they say is laid to the charge of the one who began it, so long as the one who is wronged does not go over the score.  

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ الْمُسْتَبَّانِ مَا قَالاَ فَعَلَى الْبَادِي مِنْهُمَا مَا لَمْ يَعْتَدِ الْمَظْلُومُ