43. Good Conduct and Manners

٤٣۔ كتاب الأدب

43.11 Regarding gentleness

٤٣۔١١ باب فِي الرِّفْقِ

abudawud:4807Mūsá b. Ismāʿīl > Ḥammād > Yūnus And Ḥumayd > al-Ḥasan > ʿAbdullāh b. Mughaffal

Allah is gentle, likes gentleness, and gives for gentleness what he does not give for harshness.  

أبو داود:٤٨٠٧حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ عَنْ يُونُسَ وَحُمَيْدٍ عَنِ الْحَسَنِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ مُغَفَّلٍ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ إِنَّ اللَّهَ رَفِيقٌ يُحِبُّ الرِّفْقَ وَيُعْطِي عَلَيْهِ مَا لاَ يُعْطِي عَلَى الْعُنْفِ  

abudawud:4808ʿUthmān And ʾAbū Bakr Āb.ā Abū Shaybah And Muḥammad b. al-Ṣabbāḥ al-Bazzāz > Sharīk > al-Miqdām b. Shurayḥ from his father > Saʾalt ʿĀʾishah > al-Badāwah

Al-Miqdam ibn Shurayh, quoting his father, said: I asked Aisha about living in the desert. She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ used to go to the desert to these rivulets. Once he intended to go to the desert and he sent to me a she-camel from the camel of sadaqah which had not been used for riding so far. He said to me: Aisha! show gentleness, for if gentleness is found in anything, it beautifies it and when it is taken out from anything it damages it. Ibn al-Sabbah said in his version: Muharramah means a mount which has not been used for riding.  

أبو داود:٤٨٠٨حَدَّثَنَا عُثْمَانُ وَأَبُو بَكْرٍ ابْنَا أَبِي شَيْبَةَ وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ الصَّبَّاحِ الْبَزَّازُ قَالُوا حَدَّثَنَا شَرِيكٌ عَنِ الْمِقْدَامِ بْنِ شُرَيْحٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ سَأَلْتُ عَائِشَةَ عَنِ الْبَدَاوَةِ فَقَالَتْ

كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَبْدُو إِلَى هَذِهِ التِّلاَعِ وَإِنَّهُ أَرَادَ الْبَدَاوَةَ مَرَّةً فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَىَّ نَاقَةً مُحَرَّمَةً مِنْ إِبِلِ الصَّدَقَةِ فَقَالَ لِي يَا عَائِشَةُ ارْفُقِي فَإِنَّ الرِّفْقَ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِي شَىْءٍ قَطُّ إِلاَّ زَانَهُ وَلاَ نُزِعَ مِنْ شَىْءٍ قَطُّ إِلاَّ شَانَهُ قَالَ ابْنُ الصَّبَّاحِ فِي حَدِيثِهِ مُحَرَّمَةٌ يَعْنِي لَمْ تُرْكَبْ  

abudawud:4809Abū Bakr b. Abū Shaybah > Abū Muʿāwiyah And Wakīʿ > al-Aʿmash > Tamīm b. Salamah > ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. Hilāl > Jarīr

The Prophet ﷺ said: He who is deprived of gentleness is deprived of good.  

أبو داود:٤٨٠٩حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُعَاوِيَةَ وَوَكِيعٌ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ تَمِيمِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ هِلاَلٍ عَنْ جَرِيرٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَنْ يُحْرَمِ الرِّفْقَ يُحْرَمِ الْخَيْرَ كُلَّهُ  

abudawud:4810al-Ḥasan b. Muḥammad b. al-Ṣabbāḥ > ʿAffān > ʿAbd al-Wāḥid > Sulaymān al-Aʿmash > Mālik b. al-Ḥārith > al-Aʿmash And Qad Samiʿtuhum Yadhkurūn > Muṣʿab b. Saʿd from his father > al-Aʿmash Walā Aʿlamuh Ilā

The Prophet ﷺ said: There is hesitation in everything except in the actions of the next world.  

أبو داود:٤٨١٠حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الصَّبَّاحِ حَدَّثَنَا عَفَّانُ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ الأَعْمَشُ عَنْ مَالِكِ بْنِ الْحَارِثِ قَالَ الأَعْمَشُ وَقَدْ سَمِعْتُهُمْ يَذْكُرُونَ عَنْ مُصْعَبِ بْنِ سَعْدٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ قَالَ الأَعْمَشُ وَلاَ أَعْلَمُهُ إِلاَّ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ التُّؤَدَةُ فِي كُلِّ شَىْءٍ إِلاَّ فِي عَمَلِ الآخِرَةِ