When the Prophet ﷺ was informed of anything of a certain man, he would not say: What is the matter with so and so that he says? But he would say: What is the matter with the people that they say such and such?  

كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِذَا بَلَغَهُ عَنِ الرَّجُلِ الشَّىْءُ لَمْ يَقُلْ مَا بَالُ فُلاَنٍ يَقُولُ وَلَكِنْ يَقُولُ مَا بَالُ أَقْوَامٍ يَقُولُونَ كَذَا وَكَذَا  

A man who had the mark of yellowness on him came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. The apostle of Allah ﷺ rarely mentioned anything of a man which he disliked before him. When he went out, he said: Would that you asked him to wash it from him. Abu Dawud said: Salam is not 'Alawi (from the descendants of 'Ali). He used to foretell events by stars. He bore witness before 'Abi b. Arafat to the visibility of moon, but he did not accept his witness.  

أَنَّ رَجُلاً دَخَلَ عَلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَعَلَيْهِ أَثَرُ صُفْرَةٍ وَكَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَلَّمَا يُوَاجِهُ رَجُلاً فِي وَجْهِهِ بِشَىْءٍ يَكْرَهُهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قَالَ لَوْ أَمَرْتُمْ هَذَا أَنْ يَغْسِلَ ذَا عَنْهُ  

The Prophet ﷺ said: The believer is simple and generous, but the profligate is deceitful and ignoble.  

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ الْمُؤْمِنُ غِرٌّ كَرِيمٌ وَالْفَاجِرُ خِبٌّ لَئِيمٌ  

A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and he said: He is a bad son of the tribe, or: He is a bad member of the tribe. He then said : Give him permission. Then when he entered, he spoke to him leniently. ʿA’isha asked : Apostle of Allah! You spoke to him leniently while you said about him what you said! He replied: The one who will have the worst position in Allah’s estimation on the Day of Resurrection will be the one whom people left alone for fear of his ribaldry.  

قَالَتِ اسْتَأْذَنَ رَجُلٌ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ بِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ ثُمَّ قَالَ ائْذَنُوا لَهُ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ أَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ وَقَدْ قُلْتَ لَهُ مَا قُلْتَ قَالَ إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ مَنْزِلَةً يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ أَوْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ لاِتِّقَاءِ فُحْشِهِ  

A man asked permission to see the Prophet ﷺ, and the Prophet ﷺ said: He is a bad member of the tribe. When he entered, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ treated in a frank and friendly way and spoke to him. When he departed , I said: Messenger of Allah! When he asked permission, you said: He is a bad member of the tribe, but when he entered, you treated him in a frank and friendly way. The Messenger of Allah replied: Aisha! Allah does not like the one who is unseemly and lewd in his language.  

أَنَّ رَجُلاً اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطَ إِلَيْهِ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَكَلَّمَهُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ لَمَّا اسْتَأْذَنَ قُلْتَ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ انْبَسَطْتَ إِلَيْهِ فَقَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ اللَّهَ لاَ يُحِبُّ الْفَاحِشَ الْمُتَفَحِّشَ  

the Prophet ﷺ said: ʿA’isha! There are some bad people who are respected for fear of their tongues.  

تَعْنِي النَّبِيَّ ﷺ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ مِنْ شِرَارِ النَّاسِ الَّذِينَ يُكْرَمُونَ اتِّقَاءَ أَلْسِنَتِهِمْ  

I never said that when any man brought his mouth to the ear of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he withdrew his head until the man himself withdrew his head, and I never saw that when any man took him by his hand and he withdrew his hand, until the man himself withdrew his hand.  

مَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً الْتَقَمَ أُذُنَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَيُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يُنَحِّي رَأْسَهُ وَمَا رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً أَخَذَ بِيَدِهِ فَتَرَكَ يَدَهُ حَتَّى يَكُونَ الرَّجُلُ هُوَ الَّذِي يَدَعُ يَدَهُ