When the Prophet ﷺ got the news of the death of Ibn Haritha, Jaʿfar and Ibn Rawaha he sat down and looked sad and I was looking at him through the chink of the door. A man came and told him about the crying of the women of Jaʿfar. The Prophet ﷺ ordered him to forbid them. The man went and came back saying that he had told them but they did not listen to him. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Forbid them." So again he went and came back for the third time and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! By Allah, they did not listen to us at all." (ʿAisha added): Messenger of Allah ﷺ ordered him to go and put dust in their mouths. I said, (to that man) "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)! You could neither (persuade the women to) fulfill the order of Messenger of Allah ﷺ nor did you relieve Messenger of Allah ﷺ from fatigue. " (Using translation from Bukhārī 1299)
جَاءَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرٍ وَابْنِ رَوَاحَةَ ؓ جَلَسَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ وَهُوَ شَقُّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ وَقَالَ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ قَدْ كَثُرَ بُكَاؤُهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ وَقَالَ إِنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَقَالَ انْهَهُنَّ فَأَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ فَقَالَ وَاللهِ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللهُ أَنْفَكَ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مَا أَمَرَكَ بِهِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَلَمْ تَتْرُكْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ