I heard ʿAisha saying, "When the news of the martyrdom of Ibn Haritha, Jaʿfar bin Abi Talib and ʿAbdullah bin Rawaka reached, Messenger of Allah ﷺ sat with sorrow explicit on his face." ʿAisha added, "I was then peeping through a chink in the door. A man came to him and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! The women of Jaʿfar are crying.' Thereupon the Prophet ﷺ told him to forbid them to do so. So the man went away and returned saying, "I forbade them but they did not listen to me." The Prophet ﷺ ordered him again to go (and forbid them). He went again and came saying, 'By Allah, they overpowered me (i.e. did not listen to me)." ʿAisha said that Messenger of Allah ﷺ said (to him), "Go and throw dust into their mouths." Aisha added, "I said, May Allah put your nose in the dust! By Allah, neither have you done what you have been ordered, nor have you relieved Messenger of Allah ﷺ from trouble."
سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ ؓ تَقُولُ لَمَّا جَاءَ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ ؓ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ وَأَنَا أَطَّلِعُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ تَعْنِي مِنْ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ أَىْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ قَالَ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَهَبَ الرَّجُلُ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ وَذَكَرَ أَنَّهُ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ قَالَ فَأَمَرَ أَيْضًا فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنَا فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ مِنَ التُّرَابِ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا أَنْتَ تَفْعَلُ وَمَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ