ذِكْرُ الزَّجْرِ عَنِ الْبُكَاءِ لِلنِّسَاءِ عِنْدَ الْمَصَائِبِ إِذَا امْتُحِنَّ بِهَا

When the Prophet ﷺ got the news of the death of Ibn Haritha, Jaʿfar and Ibn Rawaha he sat down and looked sad and I was looking at him through the chink of the door. A man came and told him about the crying of the women of Jaʿfar. The Prophet ﷺ ordered him to forbid them. The man went and came back saying that he had told them but they did not listen to him. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Forbid them." So again he went and came back for the third time and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! By Allah, they did not listen to us at all." (ʿAisha added): Messenger of Allah ﷺ ordered him to go and put dust in their mouths. I said, (to that man) "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)! You could neither (persuade the women to) fulfill the order of Messenger of Allah ﷺ nor did you relieve Messenger of Allah ﷺ from fatigue. "  

لَمَّا جَاءَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرٍ وَابْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَقَالَ انْهَهُنَّ فَأَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ قَالَ وَاللَّهِ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مَا أَمَرَكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَلَمْ تَتْرُكْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ  

When the news of the martyrdom of Zaid bin Haritha, Jaʿfar and ʿAbdullah bin Rawaha came, the Prophet sat down looking sad, and I was looking through the chink of the door. A man came and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! The women of Jaʿfar," and then he mentioned their crying . The Prophet ﷺ ordered him to stop them from crying. The man went and came back and said, "I tried to stop them but they disobeyed." The Prophet ﷺ ordered him for the second time to forbid them. He went again and came back and said, "They did not listen to me, (or "us": the sub-narrator Muhammad bin Haushab is in doubt as to which is right). " (ʿAisha added: The Prophet ﷺ said, "Put dust in their mouths." I said (to that man), "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)." By Allah, you could not (stop the women from crying) to fulfill the order, besides you did not relieve Allah's Apostle from fatigue."  

سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ ؓ تَقُولُ لَمَّا جَاءَ قَتْلُ زَيْدِ بْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَطَّلِعُ مِنْ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ بِأَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ الرَّجُلُ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ وَذَكَرَ أَنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَأَمَرَهُ الثَّانِيَةَ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنِي أَوْ غَلَبْنَنَا الشَّكُّ مِنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا أَنْتَ بِفَاعِلٍ وَمَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ  

I heard ʿAisha saying, "When the news of the martyrdom of Ibn Haritha, Jaʿfar bin Abi Talib and ʿAbdullah bin Rawaka reached, Messenger of Allah ﷺ sat with sorrow explicit on his face." ʿAisha added, "I was then peeping through a chink in the door. A man came to him and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! The women of Jaʿfar are crying.' Thereupon the Prophet ﷺ told him to forbid them to do so. So the man went away and returned saying, "I forbade them but they did not listen to me." The Prophet ﷺ ordered him again to go (and forbid them). He went again and came saying, 'By Allah, they overpowered me (i.e. did not listen to me)." ʿAisha said that Messenger of Allah ﷺ said (to him), "Go and throw dust into their mouths." Aisha added, "I said, May Allah put your nose in the dust! By Allah, neither have you done what you have been ordered, nor have you relieved Messenger of Allah ﷺ from trouble."  

سَمِعْتُ عَائِشَةَ ؓ تَقُولُ لَمَّا جَاءَ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ ؓ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ وَأَنَا أَطَّلِعُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ تَعْنِي مِنْ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ أَىْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ قَالَ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَهَبَ الرَّجُلُ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ وَذَكَرَ أَنَّهُ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ قَالَ فَأَمَرَ أَيْضًا فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَى فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنَا فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ مِنَ التُّرَابِ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ فَوَاللَّهِ مَا أَنْتَ تَفْعَلُ وَمَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ  

I was looking (at him) through the crevice of the door. A man came to him and mentioned that Ja'far's women were lamenting. He (the Holy Prophet) commanded him to go and forbid them (to do so). So he went away but came back and told (him) that they did not obey (him). He commanded him a second time to go and forbid them (to do so). He again went but came back to him and said: I swear by God, Messenger of Allah, that they have overpowered us. She ('A'isha) said that she thought the Messenger of Allah ﷺ had told (her) to throw dust in their mouths. Thereupon 'A'isha said: May Allah humble you! You did not do what Messenger of Allah ﷺ ordered you, nor did you stop annoying Messenger of Allah ﷺ.  

أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ عَائِشَةَ تَقُولُ لَمَّا جَاءَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ قَالَتْ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ وَذَكَرَ بُكَاءَهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ فَيَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ فَأَتَاهُ فَذَكَرَ أَنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَأَمَرَهُ الثَّانِيَةَ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ فَيَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَقَدْ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَتْ فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ اذْهَبْ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ مِنَ التُّرَابِ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَكَ وَاللَّهِ مَا تَفْعَلُ مَا أَمَرَكَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَمَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ  

'When news of the death of Zaid bin Harithah, Ja'far bin Abi Talib and 'Abdullah bin Rawahah was announced, the Messenger of Allah sat down and it could be seen that he was grieving. I was looking through a crack in the door, and a man came and said: 'Ja'far's womenfolk are weeping.' The Messenger of Allah said: 'Go and prevent them.' He went away, then he came back, and said: I told them not to do that, but they refused to stop; He said: Go and prevent them; He went away then he came back, and said: I told them not to do that, but they refused to stop. He said: 'Throw dust in their mouths.'" Aishah said: "I said: 'May Allah rub his nose in the dust, the one who is over there! You did not leave the Messenger of Allah alone but you were not going to do (what he told you to do).""  

لَمَّا أَتَى نَعْىُ زَيْدِ بْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَعَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صِئْرِ الْبَابِ فَجَاءَهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ يَبْكِينَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ انْطَلِقْ فَانْهَهُنَّ فَانْطَلَقَ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ فَأَبَيْنَ أَنْ يَنْتَهِينَ فَقَالَ انْطَلِقْ فَانْهَهُنَّ فَانْطَلَقَ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ فَأَبَيْنَ أَنْ يَنْتَهِينَ قَالَ فَانْطَلِقْ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللَّهُ أَنْفَ الأَبْعَدِ إِنَّكَ وَاللَّهِ مَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَمَا أَنْتَ بِفَاعِلٍ  

[Machine] When the news of the martyrdom of Ja'far ibn Abi Talib, Zaid ibn Harithah, and Abdullah ibn Rawahah arrived, the Messenger of Allah, may ﷺ , sat with a sorrowful expression on his face. Aisha said that as I looked out from the crack of the door, a man came and said, "O Messenger of Allah, the women of Ja'far are mourning and remembering him in their crying." The Messenger of Allah, may ﷺ , ordered him to forbid them from doing so. The man went away and then came back saying, "I have forbidden them, but they did not obey until it was the third day." I assumed that the Messenger of Allah, may ﷺ , said to him, "Tell them to put dust in their mouths." Aisha said, "I said, 'May Allah make you sneeze forcefully, for you are not doing what you have been told.' And if only you had left the Messenger of Allah, may ﷺ ."  

لَمَّا جَاءَ نَعْيُ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَزَيْدِ بْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَعَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ يُعْرَفُ فِي وَجْهِهِ الْحُزْنُ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ وَأَنَا أَطَّلِعُ مِنْ شَقِّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ فَذَكَرَ مِنْ بُكَائِهِنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ الرَّجُلُ ثُمَّ جَاءَ فَقَالَ قَدْ نَهَيْتُهُنَّ وَإِنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ حَتَّى كَانَ فِي الثَّالِثَةِ فَزَعَمْتُ أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ احْثُوا فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ قُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللهُ بِأَنْفِكَ وَاللهِ مَا أَنْتَ بِفَاعِلٍ مَا قَالَ لَكَوَلَا تَرَكْتَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ  

When the Prophet ﷺ got the news of the death of Ibn Haritha, Jaʿfar and Ibn Rawaha he sat down and looked sad and I was looking at him through the chink of the door. A man came and told him about the crying of the women of Jaʿfar. The Prophet ﷺ ordered him to forbid them. The man went and came back saying that he had told them but they did not listen to him. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Forbid them." So again he went and came back for the third time and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! By Allah, they did not listen to us at all." (ʿAisha added): Messenger of Allah ﷺ ordered him to go and put dust in their mouths. I said, (to that man) "May Allah stick your nose in the dust (i.e. humiliate you)! You could neither (persuade the women to) fulfill the order of Messenger of Allah ﷺ nor did you relieve Messenger of Allah ﷺ from fatigue. " (Using translation from Bukhārī 1299)   

جَاءَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَتْلُ ابْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَجَعْفَرٍ وَابْنِ رَوَاحَةَ ؓ جَلَسَ يُعْرَفُ فِيهِ الْحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَنْظُرُ مِنْ صَائِرِ الْبَابِ وَهُوَ شَقُّ الْبَابِ فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ وَقَالَ إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ قَدْ كَثُرَ بُكَاؤُهُنَّ فَأَمَرَهُ أَنْ يَنْهَاهُنَّ فَذَهَبَ ثُمَّ أَتَاهُ الثَّانِيَةَ وَقَالَ إِنَّهُنَّ لَمْ يُطِعْنَهُ فَقَالَ انْهَهُنَّ فَأَتَاهُ الثَّالِثَةَ فَقَالَ وَاللهِ غَلَبْنَنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ فَزَعَمَتْ أَنَّهُ قَالَ فَاحْثُ فِي أَفْوَاهِهِنَّ التُّرَابَ فَقُلْتُ أَرْغَمَ اللهُ أَنْفَكَ لَمْ تَفْعَلْ مَا أَمَرَكَ بِهِ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ وَلَمْ تَتْرُكْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ مِنَ الْعَنَاءِ  

"عَنْ عَائِشَةَ قَالَتْ: لَمَّا جَاءَ نَعْيُ جَعْفَرِ بْنِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ وَزَيْد بْنِ حَارِثَةَ وَعَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ رَوَاحَةَ جَلَسَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَعُرِفَ فِي وَجْهِهِ الحُزْنُ وَأَنَا أَتَطَلَّعُ مِنْ شَقِّ البَابِ، فَأَتَاهُ رَجُلٌ فَقَالَ: يَا رَسُولَ الله! إِنَّ نِسَاءَ جَعْفَرٍ ... فَذَكَرَ مِنْ بُكَائِهِنَّ، قَالَ: فَارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِنَّ فَأَسْكِتْهُنَّ، فَإِنْ أَبَيْنَ فَاحْثُ فِي وجُوهِهِنَّ الترَابَ".