21. Marriage

٢١۔ كِتَابُ النِّكَاحِ

21.19 [Machine] If a woman consults a man about whom she should marry, should he inform her about what he knows?

٢١۔١٩ إِذَا اسْتَشَارَتِ الْمَرْأَةُ رَجُلًا فِيمَنْ يَخْطُبُهَا هَلْ يُخْبِرُهَا بِمَا يَعْلَمُ؟

nasai-kubra:5332Ḥājib b. Sulaymān al-Manbijī > Ḥajjāj / Ibn Muḥammad al-Aʿwar > Ibn Abū Dhiʾb > al-Zuhrī And Yazīd b. ʿAbdullāh b. Qusayṭ > Abū Salamah / Ibn ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. ʿAwf > al-Ḥārith b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Muḥammad b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. Thawbān > Umā Saʾalā Fāṭimah b. Qays > Amrihā > Ṭallaqanī Zawjī Thalāth > al-Wakīl Lays Lak Sukná Walā Nafaqah

[Machine] "So I went to the Prophet ﷺ and mentioned it to him. He said, 'You have no house or provision, go and be with Ibn Umm Maktum until I give you permission.' She said, 'So when I went to Ibn Umm Maktum, I gave him permission.' Then the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'And who proposed to you?' I said, 'Muawiyah and another man from the Quraysh.' The Prophet ﷺ said, 'As for Muawiyah, he is a young servant from the servants of Quraysh. He has nothing. As for the other man, he is a companion of evil and has no good in him. But marry Usama ibn Zaid.' So I disliked it. He repeated it three times, so I married him."  

الكبرى للنسائي:٥٣٣٢أَخْبَرَنَا حَاجِبُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ الْمَنْبِجِيُّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا حَجَّاجٌ يَعْنِي ابْنَ مُحَمَّدٍ الْأَعْوَرَ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ أَبِي ذِئْبٍ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ وَيَزِيدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ قُسَيْطٍ عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ يَعْنِي ابْنَ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ عَوْفٍ وَعَنِ الْحَارِثِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنِ ثَوْبَانَ أَنَّهُمَا سَأَلَا فَاطِمَةَ بِنْتَ قَيْسٍ عَنْ أَمْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ طَلَّقَنِي زَوْجِي ثَلَاثًا فَقَالَ الْوَكِيلُ لَيْسَ لَكِ سُكْنَى وَلَا نَفَقَةٌ قَالَتْ

فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لَهُ فَقَالَ «لَيْسَ لَكِ سُكْنَى وَلَا نَفَقَةٌ اعْتَدِّي عِنْدَ ابْنِ أُمِّ مَكْتُومٍ فَإِذَا حَلَلْتِ فَآذِنِينِي» قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا حَلَلْتُ آذَنْتُهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «وَمَنْ خَطَبَكِ؟» فَقُلْتُ مُعَاوِيَةُ وَرَجُلٌ آخَرُ مِنْ قُرَيْشٍ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ «أَمَّا مُعَاوِيَةُ فَإِنَّهُ غُلَامٌ مِنْ غِلْمَانِ قُرَيْشٍ لَا شَيْءَ لَهُ وَأَمَّا الْآخَرُ فَإِنَّهُ صَاحِبُ شَرٍّ لَا خَيْرَ فِيهِ وَلَكِنِ انْكِحِي أُسَامَةَ بْنَ زَيْدٍ» فَكَرِهْتُهُ فَقَالَ ذَلِكَ ثَلَاثَ مَرَّاتٍ فَنَكَحْتُهُ