I married a woman during the lifetime of Messenger of Allah (may peace be. upon him). I met the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, whereupon he said: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or one previously marrried? I said: With due previously married, whereupon he said: Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could sport? I said: Messenger of Allah, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them, whereupon he said: Well and good, if it is so. A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust.
تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا جَابِرُ تَزَوَّجْتَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرٌ أَمْ ثَيِّبٌ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبٌ قَالَ فَهَلاَّ بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُهَا قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٍ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ إِذًا إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُنْكَحُ عَلَى دِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ