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nasai-kubra:5317Ismāʿīl b. Masʿūd al-Jaḥdarī > Khālid > ʿAbd al-Malik > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir

It was narrated from Jabir that he married a woman at the time of the Messenger of Allah, and the Prophet met him and said: "Have you got married, O Jabir?" He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously-married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin who would play with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have sisters, and I did not want her to come between them and I.' He said: 'That's better then. A woman may be married for her religious commitment, her wealth or her beauty. You should choose the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (may you prosper).'" (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3226)  

الكبرى للنسائي:٥٣١٧أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ مَسْعُودٍ الْجَحْدَرِيُّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدٌ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ

أَنَّهُ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَقَالَ «أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ؟» قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ «بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا؟» قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ «فَهَلَّا بِكْرًا تُلَاعِبُكَ؟» قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ كُنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٌ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ إِذًا إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُنْكَحُ عَلَى دِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ  


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muslim:715dMuḥammad b. ʿAbdullāh b. Numayr from my father > ʿAbd al-Malik b. Abū Sulaymān > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir b. ʿAbdullāh

I married a woman during the lifetime of Messenger of Allah (may peace be. upon him). I met the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, whereupon he said: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or one previously marrried? I said: With due previously married, whereupon he said: Why did you not marry a virgin with whom you could sport? I said: Messenger of Allah, I have sisters; I was afraid that she might intervene between me and them, whereupon he said: Well and good, if it is so. A woman is married for four reasons, for her religion, her property, her status, her beauty, so you should choose one with religion. May your hands cleave to dust.  

مسلم:٧١٥dوَحَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ نُمَيْرٍ حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ أَبِي سُلَيْمَانَ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ أَخْبَرَنِي جَابِرُ بْنُ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ

تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فِي عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا جَابِرُ تَزَوَّجْتَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرٌ أَمْ ثَيِّبٌ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبٌ قَالَ فَهَلاَّ بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُهَا قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٍ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ إِذًا إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُنْكَحُ عَلَى دِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ  

nasai:3226Ismāʿīl b. Masʿūd > Khālid > ʿAbd al-Malik > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir

It was narrated from Jabir that he married a woman at the time of the Messenger of Allah, and the Prophet met him and said: "Have you got married, O Jabir?" He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously-married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin who would play with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have sisters, and I did not want her to come between them and I.' He said: 'That's better then. A woman may be married for her religious commitment, her wealth or her beauty. You should choose the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (may you prosper).'"  

النسائي:٣٢٢٦أَخْبَرَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ مَسْعُودٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا خَالِدٌ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ

أَنَّهُ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَقَالَ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُكَ قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ كُنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٌ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ إِذًا إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُنْكَحُ عَلَى دِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ  

ibnmajah:1860Hannād b. al-Sarī > ʿAbdah b. Sulaymān > ʿAbd al-Malik > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir b. ʿAbdullāh

Jabir bin Abdullah said: “I married a woman during the time of the Prophet and he said: 'Have you got married, O Jabir?' I said: 'Yes'. He said: 'To a virgin or to a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin so you could play with her?' I said: 'I have sisters and did not want her to create trouble between them and me.' He said: 'That is better then.' ”  

ابن ماجة:١٨٦٠حَدَّثَنَا هَنَّادُ بْنُ السَّرِيِّ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَةُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ

تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ أَبِكْرًا أَوْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ بِكْرًا تُلاَعِبُهَا قُلْتُ كُنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٌ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ إِذًا  

ahmad:14237[Chain 1] Yaḥyá b. Saʿīd > ʿAbd al-Malik [Chain 2] ʿAbd al-Malik > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir

It was narrated from Jabir that he married a woman at the time of the Messenger of Allah, and the Prophet met him and said: "Have you got married, O Jabir?" He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously-married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin who would play with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have sisters, and I did not want her to come between them and I.' He said: 'That's better then. A woman may be married for her religious commitment, her wealth or her beauty. You should choose the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (may you prosper).'" (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3226)   

أحمد:١٤٢٣٧حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى بْنُ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ ح وَإِسْحَاقُ بْنُ يُوسُفَ الْأَزْرَقُ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ

تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا جَابِرُ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ؟ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَوْثَيِّبًا؟ قَالَ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ أَلَا بِكْرًا تُلَاعِبُهَا قَالَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ كُنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٌ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ فَقَالَ إِنَّ الْمَرْأَةَ تُنْكَحُ لَدِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ  

bayhaqi:13467ʿAbdullāh b. Yūsuf al-Aṣbahānī > Abū Saʿīd b. al-Aʿrābī > Saʿdān b. Naṣr > Isḥāq al-Azraq > ʿAbd al-Malik > ʿAṭāʾ > Jābir

It was narrated from Jabir that he married a woman at the time of the Messenger of Allah, and the Prophet met him and said: "Have you got married, O Jabir?" He said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a previously-married woman?' I said: 'A previously-married woman.' He said: 'Why not a virgin who would play with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah, I have sisters, and I did not want her to come between them and I.' He said: 'That's better then. A woman may be married for her religious commitment, her wealth or her beauty. You should choose the one who is religiously committed, may your hands be rubbed with dust (may you prosper).'" (Using translation from Nasāʾī 3226)   

البيهقي:١٣٤٦٧أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ الْأَصْبَهَانِيُّ أنبأ أَبُو سَعِيدِ بْنُ الْأَعْرَابِيِّ ثنا سَعْدَانُ بْنُ نَصْرٍ ثنا إِسْحَاقُ الْأَزْرَقُ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ عَنْ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ جَابِرٍ ؓ

أَنَّهُ تَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً عَلَى عَهْدِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَلَقِيَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَهُ يَا جَابِرُ تَزَوَّجْتَ؟ قَالَ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا؟ قَالَ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ أَفَلَا بِكْرًا تُلَاعِبُهَا؟ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ كَانَ لِي أَخَوَاتٌ فَخَشِيتُ أَنْ تَدْخُلَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَهُنَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ أَمَا إِنَّ امْرَأَةً تُنْكَحُ عَلَى دِينِهَا وَمَالِهَا وَجَمَالِهَا فَعَلَيْكَ بِذَاتِ الدِّينِ تَرِبَتْ يَدَاكَ  

أَخْرَجَهُ مُسْلِمٌ فِي الصَّحِيحِ مِنْ وَجْهٍ آخَرَ عَنْ عَبْدِ الْمَلِكِ بْنِ أَبِي سُلَيْمَانَ