[AI] Ali ibn Abi Talib asked al-Miqdad to ask the Messenger of Allah about a man who plays with his wife and talks to her until he ejaculates. If it were not for the fact that I feel shy towards him and that his daughter is under me, I would have asked him myself. al-Miqdad asked him, and the Messenger of Allah said, "He should wash his private part, then perform ablution, and then sprinkle his genitals."

عَلِيُّ بْنُ أَبِي طَالِبٍ لِلْمِقْدَادِ سَلْ لِي رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ عَنْ رَجُلٍ يُلَاعِبُ امْرَأَتَهُ ويُكَلِّمُهَا فَيُمْذِي فَلَوْلَا أَنِّي أَسْتَحِيِي مِنْهُ وَأَنَّ ابْنَتَهُ تَحْتِي لَسَأَلْتُهُ فَسَأَلَهُ الْمِقْدَادُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «لِيَغْسِلْ ذَكَرَهُ ثُمَّ لِيَتَوَضَّأْ ثُمَّ لِيَنْضَحْ فَرْجَهُ»

[AI] I asked Al-Miqdad to inquire about the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, for if it were not for his daughter under me, I would have asked him about one of us if he approaches his wife and harms her without possessing her. So Al-Miqdad asked the Prophet ﷺ and the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "If one of you harms [his wife] without having intercourse with her, then let him wash his private parts and both of them [male and female]."

قُلْتُ لِلْمِقْدَادِ سَلْ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فَإِنِّي لَوْلَا أَنَّ تَحْتِيَ ابْنَتَهُ لَسَأَلْتُهُ عَنْ أَحَدِنَا إِذَا مَا اقْتَرَبَ مِنِ امْرَأَتِهِ فَأَمْذَى وَلَمْ يَمْلِكْ ذَلِكَ وَلَمْ يَمَسَّهَا؟ فَسَأَلَ الْمِقْدَادُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «إِذَا أَمْذَى أَحَدُكُمْ وَلَمْ يَمَسَّهَا فَلْيَغْسِلْ ذَكَرَهُ وَأُنْثَيَيْهِ»

"عَنْ عَلِىٍّ أَنَّهُ قَالَ للمِقْدَادِ: سَلْ لِى رَسُولَ الله ﷺ عَنِ الرَّجُلِ يُلاَعِبُ امْرَأَتَهُ وَيُكلّمُهَا فَيَكُونُ مِنْهُ المَذىُ؛ فَإِنَّهُ لَوْلاَ أَنَّ ابْنَتَهُ تَحْتِى لَسَأَلتهُ، فَسَأَلَهُ المِقْدَادُ فَقَالَ: يَغْسِلُ ذَكَرَهُ وَأنثيَيْهِ ثُمَّ ليَنْضَحْ فِى فَرْجِهِ".