Asma (daughter of Shakal) asked the Messenger of Allah ﷺ about washing after menstruation. He said: Everyone amongst you should use water (mixed with the leaves of) the lote-tree and cleanse herself well, and then pour water on her head and rub it vigorously till it reaches the roots of the hair. Then she should pour water on it. Afterwards she should take a piece of cotton smeared with musk and cleanse herself with it. Asma' said: How should she cleanse herself with the help of that? Upon this he (the Messenger of Allah) observed: Praise be to Allah, she should cleanse herself. 'A'isha said in a subdued tone that she should apply it to the trace of blood. She (Asma) then further asked about bathing after sexual intercourse. He (the Holy Prophet) said: She should take water and cleanse herself well or complete the ablution and then (pour water) on her head and rub it till it reaches the roots of the hair (of her) head and then pour water on her. 'A'isha said: How good are the women of Ansar (helpers) that their shyness does not prevent them from learning religion. (Using translation from Muslim 332c)
أَنَّ أَسْمَاءَ سَأَلَتِ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ عَنْ غُسْلِ الْمَحِيضِ؟ قَالَ تَأْخُذُ إِحْدَاكُنَّ مَاءَهَا وَسِدْرَتَهَا فَتَطَهَّرُ فَتُحْسِنُ الطُّهُورَ ثُمَّ تَصُبُّ عَلَى رَأْسِهَا فَتُدَلِّكُهُ دَلْكًا شَدِيدًا حَتَّى يَبْلُغَ شُؤُونَ رَأْسِهَا ثُمَّ تَصُبُّ عَلَيْهَا الْمَاءَ ثُمَّ تَأْخُذُ فِرْصَةً مُمَسَّكَةً فَتَطَهَّرُ بِهَا قَالَتْ أَسْمَاءُ وَكَيْفَ تَطَهَّرُ بِهَا؟ قَالَ سُبْحَانَ اللهِ تَطَهَّرِي بِهَا فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ كَأَنَّهَا تُخْفِي ذَلِكَ تَتَبَّعِي أَثَرَ الدَّمِ وَسَأَلَتْهُ عَنْ غُسْلِ الْجَنَابَةِ؟ قَالَ تَأْخُذِينَ مَاءً فَتَطَهَّرِينَ فَتُحْسِنِينَ الطُّهُورَ أَوْ أَبْلِغِي الطُّهُورَ ثُمَّ تَصُبُّ عَلَى رَأْسِهَا فَتُدَلِّكُهُ حَتَّى تَبْلُغَ شُؤُونَ رَأْسِهَا ثُمَّ تُفِيضُ عَلَيْهَا الْمَاءَ فَقَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ نِعْمَ النِّسَاءُ نِسَاءُ الْأَنْصَارِ لَمْ يَكُنْ يَمْنَعُهُنَّ الْحَيَاءُ أَنْ يَتَفَقَّهْنَ فِي الدِّينِ