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ahmad:6905 – Naṣr b. Bāb > Ismāʿīl > Qays > Jarīr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Bajalī

“We used to think that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food was a form of wailing.” (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1612)   

أحمد:٦٩٠٥ – حَدَّثَنَا نَصْرُ بْنُ بَابٍ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ عَنْ قَيْسٍ عَنْ جَرِيرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْبَجَلِيِّ قَالَ

كُنَّا نَعُدُّ الِاجْتِمَاعَ إِلَى أَهْلِ الْمَيِّتِ وَصَنِيعَةَ الطَّعَامِ بَعْدَ دَفْنِهِ مِنَ النِّيَاحَةِ  

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Collected by Ibn Mājah, Ṭabarānī
ibnmajah:1612 – [Chain 1] Muḥammad b. Yaḥyá > Saʿīd b. Manṣūr > Hushaym [Chain 2] Shujāʿ b. Makhlad Abū al-Faḍl > Hushaym > Ismāʿīl b. Abū Khālid > Qays b. Abū Ḥāzim > Jarīr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Bajalī

“We used to think that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food was a form of wailing.”  

ابن ماجة:١٦١٢ – حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَحْيَى قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ مَنْصُورٍ حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ ح وَحَدَّثَنَا شُجَاعُ بْنُ مَخْلَدٍ أَبُو الْفَضْلِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا هُشَيْمٌ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ بْنِ أَبِي خَالِدٍ عَنْ قَيْسِ بْنِ أَبِي حَازِمٍ عَنْ جَرِيرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْبَجَلِيِّ قَالَ

كُنَّا نَرَى الاِجْتِمَاعَ إِلَى أَهْلِ الْمَيِّتِ وَصَنْعَةَ الطَّعَامِ مِنَ النِّيَاحَةِ  

tabarani:2279 – ʿAbdān b. Aḥmad > Aḥmad b. Manīʿ > Hushaym > Ismāʿīl > Qays > Jarīr > Kānūā Yarawn

“We used to think that gathering with the family of the deceased and preparing food was a form of wailing.” (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1612)   

الطبراني:٢٢٧٩ – حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَانُ بْنُ أَحْمَدَ ثنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ مَنِيعٍ ثنا هُشَيْمٌ عَنْ إِسْمَاعِيلَ عَنْ قَيْسٍ عَنْ جَرِيرٍ قَالَ «كَانُوا يَرَوْنَ

أَنَّ اجْتِمَاعَ أَهْلِ الْمَيِّتِ وَصَنْعَةَ الطَّعَامِ مِنَ النِّيَاحَةِ»