43. Book of Impermissible and Permissible
٤٣۔ كِتَابُ الْحَظْرِ وَالْإِبَاحَةِ
ذِكْرُ الْإِخْبَارِ عَنِ الْفَصْلِ بَيْنَ الْغِيبَةِ وَالْبُهْتَانِ
Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander. (Using translation from Muslim 2589)
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ «أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْغِيبَةُ؟ » قَالُوا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ قَالَ «أَنْ تَذْكُرَ أَخَاكَ بِمَا فِيهِ» قَالَ أَرَأَيْتَ إِنْ كَانَ فِي أَخِي مَا ذَكَرْتُ؟ قَالَ «إِنْ كَانَ فِيهِ مَا ذَكَرْتَ فَقَدِ اغْتَبْتَهُ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِيهِ مَا ذَكَرْتَ فَقَدْ بَهَتَّهُ»
ذِكْرُ الْإِخْبَارِ عَمَّا يَجِبُ عَلَى الْمَرْءِ مِنْ صِيَانَةِ أَخِيهِ الْمُسْلِمِ بِتَحَفُّظِ لِسَانِهِ عَنِ الْوَقِيعَةِ فِيهِ
Do you know what is backbiting? They (the Companions) said: Allah and His Messenger know best. Thereupon he (the Holy Prophet) said: Backbiting implies your talking about your brother in a manner which he does not like. It was said to him: What is your opinion about this that if I actually find (that failing) in my brother which I made a mention of? He said: If (that failing) is actually found (in him) what you assert, you in fact backbited him, and if that is not in him it is a slander. (Using translation from Muslim 2589)
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَ «أَتَدْرُونَ مَا الْغِيبَةُ»؟ قَالُوا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَعْلَمُ قَالَ «ذِكْرُكَ أَخَاكَ بِمَا يَكْرَهُ» قَالَ أَرَأَيْتَ إِنْ كَانَ فِي أَخِي مَا أَقُولُ؟ قَالَ «فَإِنْ كَانَ فِيهِ مَا تَقُولُ فَقَدِ اغْتَبْتَهُ وَإِنْ لَمْ يَكُنْ فِيهِ فَقَدْ بَهَتَّهُ»
Constantly pointing faults of others ruins their self-esteem
ذِكْرُ الْإِخْبَارِ عَنْ نَفْيِ جَوَازِ ذِكْرِ تَتَبُّعِ الْمَرْءِ عُيُوبَ أَخِيهِ الْمُسْلِمِ
I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, “If you follow the faults of people, you will corrupt them or risk corrupting them.”
He said that Abū Dardāʾ said, “Muʿāwiyah heard ˹this˺ statement from the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and Allah benefited him by it.”
سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «إِنَّكَ إِنِ اتَّبَعْتَ عَوْرَاتِ النَّاسِ أَفْسَدْتَهُمْ أَوْ كِدْتَ أَنْ تُفْسِدَهُمُ» قَالَ يَقُولُ أَبُو الدَّرْدَاءِ «كَلِمَةٌ سَمِعَهَا مُعَاوِيَةُ مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ نَفَعَهُ اللَّهُ بِهَا»
Before pointing fingers make sure your hands are clean
ذِكْرُ الْإِخْبَارِ عَمَّا يَجِبُ عَلَى الْمَرْءِ مِنْ تَفَقُّدِ عُيُوبِ نَفْسِهِ دُونَ طَلَبِ مَعَايِبِ النَّاسِ
the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “One of you may see a splinter in your brother's eye, but forget the log in your own.”
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «يُبْصِرُ أَحَدُكُمُ الْقَذَاةَ فِي عَيْنِ أَخِيهِ وَيَنْسَى الْجِذْعَ فِي عَيْنِهِ»
ذِكْرُ الْبَيَانِ بِأَنَّ الْمُزْدَرِي غَيْرَهُ مِنَ النَّاسِ كَانَ هُوَ الْهَالِكَ دُونَهُمْ
[Machine] The translation of "أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ «إِذَا سَمِعْتَ الرَّجُلَ يَقُولُ هَلَكَ النَّاسُ فَهُوَ أَهْلَكُهُمْ»" in English is: "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'If you hear a man saying 'people are ruined', he is the one who has ruined them.'"
أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ «إِذَا سَمِعْتَ الرَّجُلَ يَقُولُ هَلَكَ النَّاسُ فَهُوَ أَهْلَكُهُمْ»
ذِكْرُ الزَّجْرِ عَنْ طَلَبِ عَثَرَاتِ الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَتَعْيِيرِهِمْ
“The Messenger of Allah ﷺ ascended the Minbar and called out with a raised voice: ’O you who accepted Islam with his tongue, while faith has not reached his heart! Do not harm the Muslims, nor revile them, nor spy on them to expose their secrets. For indeed whoever tries to expose his Muslims brother’s secrets, Allah exposes his secrets wide open, even if he were in the depth of his house.’” He (Nafl’) said: ‘ One day Ibn ‘Umar looked at the House- or – the Ka’bah and said: ‘What is it that is more honored than you, and whose honor is more sacred than yours! And the believer’s honor is more sacred to Allah than yours.’” (Using translation from Tirmidhī 2032)
صَعِدَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ هَذَا الْمِنْبَرَ فَنَادَى بِصَوْتٍ رَفِيعٍ وَقَالَ «يَا مَعْشَرَ مَنْ أَسْلَمَ بِلِسَانِهِ وَلَمْ يَدْخُلِ الْإِيمَانُ قَلْبَهُ لَا تُؤْذُوا الْمُسْلِمِينَ وَلَا تُعَيِّرُوهُمْ وَلَا تَطْلُبُوا عَثَرَاتِهِمْ فَإِنَّهُ مَنْ يَطْلُبْ عَوْرَةَ الْمُسْلِمِ يَطْلُبِ اللَّهُ عَوْرَتَهُ وَمَنْ يَطْلُبِ اللَّهُ عَوْرَتَهُ يَفْضَحْهُ وَلَوْ فِي جَوْفِ بَيْتِهِ» وَنَظَرَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ يَوْمًا إِلَى الْبَيْتِ فَقَالَ «مَا أَعْظَمَكَ وَأَعْظَمَ حُرْمَتَكَ وَلَلْمُؤْمِنُ أَعْظَمُ عِنْدَ اللَّهِ حُرْمَةً مِنْكَ»
ذِكْرُ الْإِخْبَارِ عَمَّا يَجِبُ عَلَى الْمَرْءِ مِنْ تَرْكِ الْوَقِيعَةِ فِي الْمُسْلِمِينَ، وَإِنْ كَانَ تَشْمِيرُهُ فِي الطَّاعَاتِ كَثِيرًا
a man said: "O Messenger of Allah, there is someone who is mentioned regarding her performing a lot of Ṣalāh, ˹keeping a lot of˺ of fasts, and giving ˹a lot˺ of charity, except that she harms her neighbors with her tongue." He, ˹the Messenger of Allah ﷺ,˺ said, "She is in the Hellfire." ˹The man˺ said, "O Messenger of Allah, ˹and˺ there is someone who is mentioned regarding her not performing much Ṣalāh, ˹and not keeping many˺ of fasts, and not giving ˹much˺ of charity, however, she gives the milk curds of her oxens as charity, and she does not harm her neighbors with her tongue." He, ˹the Messenger of Allah ﷺ,˺ said, "She is in Jannah." (Using translation from Aḥmad 9675)
يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ فُلَانَةً ذَكَرَ مِنْ كَثْرَةِ صَلَاتِهَا غَيْرَ أَنَّهَا تُؤْذِي بِلِسَانِهَا قَالَ «فِي النَّارِ» قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ فُلَانَةً ذَكَرَ مِنْ قِلَّةِ صَلَاتِهَا وَصِيَامِهَا وَأَنَّهَا تَصَدَّقَتْ بِأَثْوَارِ أَقِطٍ غَيْرَ أَنَّهَا لَا تُؤْذِي جِيرَانَهَا قَالَ «هِيَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ»