If any Muslim who suffers some calamity says, what Allah has commanded him," We belong to Allah and to Him shall we return; O Allah, reward me for my affliction and give me something better than it in exchange for it," Allah will give him something better than it in exchange. When Abu Salama died she said: What Muslim is better than Abu Salama whose family was the first to emigrate to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ. I then said the words, and Allah gave me God's Messenger ﷺ in exchange. She said: The Messenger of Allah ﷺ sent Hatib b. Abu Balta'a to deliver me the message of marriage with him. I said to him: I have a daughter (as my dependant) and I am of jealous temperament. He (the Holy Prophet) said: So far as her daughter is concerned, we would supplicate Allah, that He may free her (of her responsibility) and I would also supplicate Allah to do away with (her) jealous (temperament).  

أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ مَا مِنْ مُسْلِمٍ تُصِيبُهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَيَقُولُ مَا أَمَرَهُ اللَّهُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللَّهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأَخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلاَّ أَخْلَفَ اللَّهُ لَهُ خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا مَاتَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُ أَىُّ الْمُسْلِمِينَ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ أَوَّلُ بَيْتٍ هَاجَرَ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ ثُمَّ إِنِّي قُلْتُهَا فَأَخْلَفَ اللَّهُ لِي رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَتْ أَرْسَلَ إِلَىَّ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ حَاطِبَ بْنَ أَبِي بَلْتَعَةَ يَخْطُبُنِي لَهُ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ لِي بِنْتًا وَأَنَا غَيُورٌ فَقَالَ أَمَّا ابْنَتُهَا فَنَدْعُو اللَّهَ أَنْ يُغْنِيَهَا عَنْهَا وَأَدْعُو اللَّهَ أَنْ يَذْهَبَ بِالْغَيْرَةِ  

[Machine] On the authority of Umm Salamah, the wife of the Prophet ﷺ, she said: I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, "Whenever a servant is afflicted with a calamity and he says, 'Verily, to Allah we belong and to Him we shall return. O Allah, reward me for my affliction and replace it for me with something better,' then Allah ﷻ rewards him for his affliction and replaces it for him with something better." Umm Salamah said, "When Abu Salamah passed away, I said, 'Who is better than Abu Salamah, the companion of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ?' Then Allah ﷻ made me firm in saying it, so I said, 'O Allah, reward me in my affliction and replace it for me with something better.' After that, I married the Messenger of Allah ﷺ."  

عَنْ أُمِّ سَلَمَةَ زَوْجِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَتْ سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ مَا مِنْ عَبْدٍ تُصِيبُهُ مُصِيبَةٌ فَيَقُولُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ أْجُرْنِي فِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلَّا أَجَرَهُ اللهُ فِي مُصِيبَتِهِ وَخَلَفَ لَهُ خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قَالَتْ فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قُلْتُ مَنْ خَيْرٌ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ صَاحِبِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَتْ ثُمَّ عَزَمَ اللهُ ﷻ لِي فَقُلْتُهَا اللهُمَّ أْجُرْنِيفِي مُصِيبَتِي وَأخْلِفْ لِي خَيْرًا مِنْهَا قَالَتْ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ  

[Machine] He heard the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , say: "No Muslim is afflicted with a calamity and says 'Indeed we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek recompense for my calamity from You. O Allah, replace it for me with something better than it,' except that Allah will replace it for him with something better." So when Abu Salamah passed away, Umm Salamah said: "Indeed, we belong to Allah, and indeed to Him we will return. O Allah, I seek recompense for my calamity in Abu Salamah from You. O Allah, replace him for me with someone better." So I kept saying to myself that someone better than Abu Salamah would come, until the Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , proposed to me. So I said: "I am afflicted and I am possessive, and I am old." The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , said: "As for being old, I am older than you. As for being possessive, I supplicate to Allah to remove it from you. And as for children, they are in the hands of Allah and His Messenger." So Umar bin Abu Salamah married me to him.  

أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ مَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ يُصَابُ بِمُصِيبَةٍ فَيَقُولُ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ إِنِّي أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي عِنْدَكَ اللهُمَّ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا إِلَّا أَبْدَلَهُ اللهُ بِهَا خَيْرًا مِنْهَا فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ أَبُو سَلَمَةَ قَالَتْ أُمُّ سَلَمَةَ إِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ اللهُمَّ إِنِّي أَحْتَسِبُ مُصِيبَتِي فِي أَبِي سَلَمَةَ عِنْدَكَ اللهُمَّ أَبْدِلْنِي بِهِ خَيْرًا مِنْهُ فَجَعَلْتُ أَقُولُ فِي نَفْسِي مِنْ خَيْرٍ مِنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَجَاءَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فَخَطَبَنِي فَقُلْتُ أَنَا مُصْبِيَةٌ وَأَنَا غَيُورٌ وَأَنَا كَبِيرَةُ السِّنِّ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «أَمَّا كِبَرُ السِّنِّ فَأَنَا أَكْبَرُ مِنْكِ وَأَمَّا الْغَيْرَةُ فَأَنَا أَدْعُو اللهَ أَنْ يُذْهِبَهَا عَنْكِ وَأَمَّا الْعِيَالُ فَإِلَى اللهِ وَرَسُولِهِ» فَأَمَرَ عُمَرُ بْنُ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ فَزَوَّجَنِي إِيَّاهُ