78. Adab (Good Manners and Form)

٧٨۔ كتاب الأدب

78.89 To respect the old ones who should start talking

٧٨۔٨٩ باب إِكْرَامِ الْكَبِيرِ وَيَبْدَأُ الأَكْبَرُ بِالْكَلاَمِ وَالسُّؤَالِ

bukhari:6142Sulaymān b. Ḥarb > Ḥammād > Ibn Zayd > Yaḥyá b. Saʿīd > Bushayr b. Yasār a freed slave of al-Anṣār > Rāfiʿ b. Khadīj And Sahl b. Abū Ḥathmah Annahumā Ḥaddathāh

ʿAbdullah bin Sahl and Muhaiyisa bin Masʿud went to Khaibar and they dispersed in the gardens of the date-palm trees. ʿAbdullah bin Sahl was murdered. Then ʿAbdur-Rahman bin Sahl, Huwaiyisa and Muhaiyisa, the two sons of Masʿud, came to the Prophet ﷺ and spoke about the case of their (murdered) friend. ʿAbdur-Rahman who was the youngest of them all, started talking. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Let the older (among you) speak first." So they spoke about the case of their (murdered) friend. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Will fifty of you take an oath whereby you will have the right to receive the blood money of your murdered man," (or said, "..your companion"). They said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! The murder was a thing we did not witness." The Prophet ﷺ said, "Then the Jews will release you from the oath, if fifty of them (the Jews) should take an oath to contradict your claim." They said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! They are disbelievers (and they will take a false oath)." Then Messenger of Allah ﷺ himself paid the blood money to them.  

البخاري:٦١٤٢حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ هُوَ ابْنُ زَيْدٍ عَنْ يَحْيَى بْنِ سَعِيدٍ عَنْ بُشَيْرِ بْنِ يَسَارٍ مَوْلَى الأَنْصَارِ عَنْ رَافِعِ بْنِ خَدِيجٍ وَسَهْلَ بْنَ أَبِي حَثْمَةَ أَنَّهُمَا حَدَّثَاهُ

أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ بْنَ سَهْلٍ وَمُحَيِّصَةَ بْنَ مَسْعُودٍ أَتَيَا خَيْبَرَ فَتَفَرَّقَا فِي النَّخْلِ فَقُتِلَ عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ سَهْلٍ فَجَاءَ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ سَهْلٍ وَحُوَيِّصَةُ وَمُحَيِّصَةُ ابْنَا مَسْعُودٍ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَتَكَلَّمُوا فِي أَمْرِ صَاحِبِهِمْ فَبَدَأَ عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ وَكَانَ أَصْغَرَ الْقَوْمِ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ كَبِّرِ الْكُبْرَ قَالَ يَحْيَى لِيَلِيَ الْكَلاَمَ الأَكْبَرُ فَتَكَلَّمُوا فِي أَمْرِ صَاحِبِهِمْ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَتَسْتَحِقُّونَ قَتِيلَكُمْ أَوْ قَالَ صَاحِبَكُمْ بِأَيْمَانِ خَمْسِينَ مِنْكُمْ قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَمْرٌ لَمْ نَرَهُ قَالَ فَتُبْرِئُكُمْ يَهُودُ فِي أَيْمَانِ خَمْسِينَ مِنْهُمْ قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَوْمٌ كُفَّارٌ فَوَدَاهُمْ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ مِنْ قِبَلِهِ قَالَ سَهْلٌ فَأَدْرَكْتُ نَاقَةً مِنْ تِلْكَ الإِبِلِ فَدَخَلَتْ مِرْبَدًا لَهُمْ فَرَكَضَتْنِي بِرِجْلِهَا قَالَ اللَّيْثُ حَدَّثَنِي يَحْيَى عَنْ بُشَيْرٍ عَنْ سَهْلٍ قَالَ يَحْيَى حَسِبْتُ أَنَّهُ قَالَ مَعَ رَافِعِ بْنِ خَدِيجٍ وَقَالَ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى عَنْ بُشَيْرٍ عَنْ سَهْلٍ وَحْدَهُ  

bukhari:6144Musaddad > Yaḥyá > ʿUbaydullāh > Nāfiʿ > Ibn ʿUmar

Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "Inform me of a tree which resembles a Muslim, giving its fruits at every season by the permission of its Lord, and the leaves of which do not fall." I thought of the date-palm tree, but I disliked to speak because Abu Bakr and ʿUmar were present there. When nobody spoke, the Prophet ﷺ said, "It is the date-palm tree" When I came out with my father, I said, "O father! It came to my mind that it was the date-palm tree." He said, "What prevented you from saying it?" Had you said it, it would have been more dearer to me than such-and-such a thing (fortune)." I said, "Nothing prevented me but the fact that neither you nor Abu Bakr spoke, so I disliked to speak (in your presence).  

البخاري:٦١٤٤حَدَّثَنَا مُسَدَّدٌ حَدَّثَنَا يَحْيَى عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ حَدَّثَنِي نَافِعٌ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ؓ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَخْبِرُونِي بِشَجَرَةٍ مَثَلُهَا مَثَلُ الْمُسْلِمِ تُؤْتِي أُكُلَهَا كُلَّ حِينٍ بِإِذْنِ رَبِّهَا وَلاَ تَحُتُّ وَرَقَهَا فَوَقَعَ فِي نَفْسِي أَنَّهَا النَّخْلَةُ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَتَكَلَّمَ وَثَمَّ أَبُو بَكْرٍ وَعُمَرُ فَلَمَّا لَمْ يَتَكَلَّمَا قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ هِيَ النَّخْلَةُ فَلَمَّا خَرَجْتُ مَعَ أَبِي قُلْتُ يَا أَبَتَاهْ وَقَعَ فِي نَفْسِي أَنَّهَا النَّخْلَةُ قَالَ مَا مَنَعَكَ أَنْ تَقُولَهَا لَوْ كُنْتَ قُلْتَهَا كَانَ أَحَبَّ إِلَىَّ مِنْ كَذَا وَكَذَا قَالَ مَا مَنَعَنِي إِلاَّ أَنِّي لَمْ أَرَكَ وَلاَ أَبَا بَكْرٍ تَكَلَّمْتُمَا فَكَرِهْتُ