45. Enjoining Good Conduct and the Ties of Kinship

٤٥۔ كتاب البر والصلة والآداب

45.22 Being Kind To Protect Oneself From Another's Vile Behavior

٤٥۔٢٢ باب مُدَارَاةِ مَنْ يُتَّقَى فُحْشُهُ

muslim:2591aQutaybah b. Saʿīd And ʾAbū Bakr b. Abū Shaybah Waʿamrw al-Nāqid Wazuhayr b. Ḥarb And Ibn Numayr > Ibn ʿUyaynah Wa-al-Lafẓ Lizuhayr > Sufyān Wahū Ibn ʿUyaynah > Ibn al-Munkadir > ʿUrwah b. al-Zubayr > ʿĀʾishah

Grant him permission. (and also added: ) He is a bad son of his tribe or he is a bad person of his tribe. When he came in he used kind words for him. 'A'isha reported that she said: Messenger of Allah, you said about him what you had to say and then you treated him with kindness. He said: A'isha, verily in the eye of Allah, worst amongst the person in rank on the Day of Resurrection is one whom the people abandon or desert out of the fear of indecency.  

مسلم:٢٥٩١aحَدَّثَنَا قُتَيْبَةُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ وَأَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ وَعَمْرٌو النَّاقِدُ وَزُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ وَابْنُ نُمَيْرٍ كُلُّهُمْ عَنِ ابْنِ عُيَيْنَةَ وَاللَّفْظُ لِزُهَيْرٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ وَهُوَ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ عَنِ ابْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ سَمِعَ عُرْوَةَ بْنَ الزُّبَيْرِ يَقُولُ حَدَّثَتْنِي عَائِشَةُ

أَنَّ رَجُلاً اسْتَأْذَنَ عَلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ ائْذَنُوا لَهُ فَلَبِئْسَ ابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ أَوْ بِئْسَ رَجُلُ الْعَشِيرَةِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلَ عَلَيْهِ أَلاَنَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ قَالَتْ عَائِشَةُ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قُلْتَ لَهُ الَّذِي قُلْتَ ثُمَّ أَلَنْتَ لَهُ الْقَوْلَ قَالَ يَا عَائِشَةُ إِنَّ شَرَّ النَّاسِ مَنْزِلَةً عِنْدَ اللَّهِ يَوْمَ الْقِيَامَةِ مَنْ وَدَعَهُ أَوْ تَرَكَهُ النَّاسُ اتِّقَاءَ فُحْشِهِ  

muslim:2591bMuḥammad b. Rāfiʿ And ʿAbd b. Ḥumayd > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar

This hadith has been reported on the authority of Ibn Munkadir with the same chain of transmitters but with a slight variation of wording.  

مسلم:٢٥٩١bحَدَّثَنِي مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ رَافِعٍ وَعَبْدُ بْنُ حُمَيْدٍ كِلاَهُمَا عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ أَخْبَرَنَا مَعْمَرٌ عَنِ ابْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ فِي هَذَا الإِسْنَادِ مِثْلَ مَعْنَاهُ غَيْرَ

أَنَّهُ قَالَ بِئْسَ أَخُو الْقَوْمِ وَابْنُ الْعَشِيرَةِ