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السيوطي:٥٧٨-٢٢b

"عَنِ الْمُغِيرة بن شُعْبَة، قَالَ: خَطَبْتُ جَارِيةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِلنَّبِى ﷺ ، فَقَالَ لِى: رَأَيْتَها؟ فَقُلْتُ لَا، قَالَ: فَانْظُرْهَا، فَإنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يَؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا، فَأَتَيْتَهُم فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِوَالِديهَا، فَنَظَر أحَدُهُمَا إِلَى صَاحِبِهِ فَقُمْتُ فَخَرَجْتُ، فَقَالَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ عَلَىَّ الرَّجُل، فَرَجَعْتُ، فَوَقَفْتُ نَاحِيَةَ خِدْرِهَا، فَقَالتْ: إِنْ كَانَ رَسُول الله ﷺ أَمَركَ

أَنْ تَنْظُرَ إِلَىَّ فَانْظُرْ، وَإلَّا فَإِنى أحرجُ عَلَيْكَ أَنْ تَنْظُر، فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا، فَمَا تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً قَطُّ كَانَتْ أَحَبَّ إِلَىَّ مِنْهَا، وَلَا أكْرَمَ عَليها مِنْهَا (*)، وَقَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ سَبْعِين امْرَأَةً".  

[ض] ضياء المقدسي في مختاره (* *)، وابن النجار

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Collected by Ibn Mājah, Aḥmad, Ṭabarānī, Bayhaqī
ibnmajah:1866al-Ḥasan b. Abū al-Rabīʿ > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > Thābit al-Bunānī > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her.  

ابن ماجة:١٨٦٦حَدَّثَنَا الْحَسَنُ بْنُ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ أَنْبَأَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ عَنْ مَعْمَرٍ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلاَّ فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا  

ahmad:18137ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Sufyān > ʿĀṣim al-Aḥwal > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her. (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1866)  

أحمد:١٨١٣٧حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ أَخْبَرَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ عَاصِمٍ الْأَحْوَلِ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا قَالَ فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا عْظَّمَتْ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا  

tabarani:18250a[Chain 1] Isḥāq b. Ibrāhīm al-Dabarī > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > al-Thawrī > ʿĀṣim al-Aḥwal > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī [Chain 2] ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > Thābit al-Bunānī > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her. (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1866)  

الطبراني:١٨٢٥٠aحَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الدَّبَرِيُّ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ عَنْ عَاصِمٍ الْأَحْوَلِ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ ح قَالَ عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ وَأَنَا مَعْمَرٌ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ أَنَّ الْمُغِيرَةَ بْنَ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ «اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا» فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَِا ذَلِكَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِي فِيَ خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

tabarani:18250b[Chain 1] Isḥāq b. Ibrāhīm al-Dabarī > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > al-Thawrī > ʿĀṣim al-Aḥwal > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī [Chain 2] ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > Thābit al-Bunānī > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

[Machine] I went to the Prophet ﷺ and mentioned a woman that I wanted to marry. He said, "Go and look at her because it is more fitting for you to be pleased with her." So, I went to a woman from the Ansar, proposed to her, and informed her parents about the Prophet's ﷺ statement. It seemed as though they disapproved of it. The woman overheard this conversation while she was in her room and said, "If the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has ordered you to look at me, then look, otherwise, I advise you to reconsider because it seems like this issue is causing problems." I looked at her and then married her.  

الطبراني:١٨٢٥٠bحَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الدَّبَرِيُّ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ عَنْ عَاصِمٍ الْأَحْوَلِ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ ح قَالَ عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ وَأَنَا مَعْمَرٌ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ أَنَّ الْمُغِيرَةَ بْنَ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ «اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا» فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَِا ذَلِكَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِي فِيَ خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

tabarani:18250c[Chain 1] Isḥāq b. Ibrāhīm al-Dabarī > ʿAbd al-Razzāq > al-Thawrī > ʿĀṣim al-Aḥwal > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī [Chain 2] ʿAbd al-Razzāq > Maʿmar > Thābit al-Bunānī > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

[Machine] I came to the Prophet ﷺ and mentioned a woman to him whom I intended to marry. He said, "Go and look at her, for it is more fitting that love and compatibility is established between you." So, I went to a woman from the Ansar and proposed to her through her parents, informing them of the Prophet's ﷺ advice. However, both her parents seemed displeased with this idea. The woman overheard their conversation while she was in her tent and said, "If the Messenger of Allah ﷺ commanded you to look, then look. Otherwise, I implore you to witness that I consider this matter to be of the greatest importance." Upon hearing this, I turned and looked at her, and then I married her.  

الطبراني:١٨٢٥٠cحَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الدَّبَرِيُّ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّزَّاقِ عَنِ الثَّوْرِيِّ عَنْ عَاصِمٍ الْأَحْوَلِ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ ح قَالَ عَبْدُ الرَّزَّاقِ وَأَنَا مَعْمَرٌ عَنْ ثَابِتٍ الْبُنَانِيِّ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ أَنَّ الْمُغِيرَةَ بْنَ شُعْبَةَ قَالَ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ «اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا» فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَِا ذَلِكَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِي فِيَ خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا  

bayhaqi:13490Abū ʿAbdullāh al-Ḥāfiẓ And ʾAbū Saʿīd b. Abū ʿAmr > Abū al-ʿAbbās Muḥammad b. Yaʿqūb > al-Rabīʿ b. Sulaymān > Yaḥyá b. Ḥassān > Abū Shihāb > ʿĀṣim al-Aḥwal > Bakr b. ʿAbdullāh al-Muzanī > al-Mughīrah b. Shuʿbah

[Machine] I proposed to a woman, and I mentioned her to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ . He asked me, "Have you looked at her?" I said, "No." He said, "Then look at her, for it is more likely to foster love and compatibility between you." So, I went to her, and her parents were with her while she was wearing a veil. I said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ has commanded me to look at you." Both she and her parents fell silent. Then, the girl lifted a corner of her veil and said, "If the Messenger of Allah ﷺ commanded you to look at me, then look. But if he did not command you, then do not look." I looked at her, and then I married her. I have never been with a woman who surpassed her in status. I have married seventy or seventy-one women.  

البيهقي:١٣٤٩٠أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو عَبْدِ اللهِ الْحَافِظُ وَأَبُو سَعِيدِ بْنُ أَبِي عَمْرٍو قَالَا ثنا أَبُو الْعَبَّاسِ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ يَعْقُوبَ ثنا الرَّبِيعُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ ثنا يَحْيَى بْنُ حَسَّانَ ثنا أَبُو شِهَابٍ عَنْ عَاصِمٍ الْأَحْوَلِ عَنْ بَكْرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ الْمُزَنِيِّ عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ بْنِ شُعْبَةَ ؓ قَالَ

خَطَبْتُ امْرَأَةً فَذَكَرْتُهَا لِرَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ قَالَ فَقَالَ لِي هَلْ نَظَرْتَ إِلَيْهَا؟ قُلْتُ لَا قَالَ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا فَأَتَيْتُهَا وَعِنْدَهَا أَبَوَاهَا وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا قَالَ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَنِي أَنْ أَنْظُرَ إِلَيْهَا قَالَ فَسَكَتَا قَالَ فَرَفَعَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ جَانِبَ الْخِدْرِ فَقَالَتْ أُحَرِّجُ عَلَيْكَ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ إِلِيَّ لَمَا نَظَرْتَ وَإِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ لَمْ يَأْمُرْكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ إِلِيَّ فَلَا تَنْظُرْ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا ثُمَّ تَزَوَّجْتُهَا قَالَ فَمَا وَقَعَتْ عِنْدِي امْرَأَةٌ بِمَنْزِلَتِهَا وَلَقَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ سَبْعِينَ أَوْ بِضْعًا وَسَبْعِينَ امْرَأَةً