Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her.

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلاَّ فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا أَعْظَمَتْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا

Mughirah bin Shubah said: “I came to the Prophet and told him of a woman to whom I had to propose marriage. He said: 'Go and look at her, for that is more likely to create love between you.' So I went to a woman among the Ansar and proposed marriage through her parents. I told them what the Prophet had said, and it was as if they did not like that. Then I heard that woman, behind her curtain, say: 'If the Messenger of Allah has told you to do that, then do it, otherwise I adjure you by Allah (not to do so)'. And it was as if she regarded that as a serious matter. So I looked at her and married her.” And he mentioned how well he got along with her. (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1866)

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَذَكَرْتُ لَهُ امْرَأَةً أَخْطُبُهَا فَقَالَ اذْهَبْ فَانْظُرْ إِلَيْهَا فَإِنَّهُ أَجْدَرُ أَنْ يُؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا قَالَ فَأَتَيْتُ امْرَأَةً مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ فَخَطَبْتُهَا إِلَى أَبَوَيْهَا وَأَخْبَرْتُهُمَا بِقَوْلِ رَسُولِ اللهِ ﷺ فَكَأَنَّهُمَا كَرِهَا ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَسَمِعَتْ ذَلِكَ الْمَرْأَةُ وَهِيَ فِي خِدْرِهَا فَقَالَتْ إِنْ كَانَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَمَرَكَ أَنْ تَنْظُرَ فَانْظُرْ وَإِلَّا فَإِنِّي أَنْشُدُكَ كَأَنَّهَا عْظَّمَتْ ذَلِكَ عَلَيْهِ قَالَ فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا فَذَكَرَ مِنْ مُوَافَقَتِهَا

[AI] I proposed marriage to a young woman from the Ansar, and I mentioned that to the Prophet ﷺ. He said to me: "Have you seen her?" I said, "No." He said: "Then look at her, for that is more likely to bring harmony between you both."

So I went to them and mentioned that to her parents. One of them looked at the other, so I got up and left. Then the young woman said, "Bring the man back to me." So I returned and stood at the side of her private chamber. She said, "If the Messenger of Allah ﷺ has commanded you to look at me, then look; otherwise, I solemnly forbid you to look." So I looked at her and married her, and I never married any woman who was more beloved to me than her, nor one whom I honored more than her (*), and I had married seventy women.

خَطَبْتُ جَارِيةً مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ، فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِلنَّبِى ﷺ، فَقَالَ لِى: «رَأَيْتَها؟» فَقُلْتُ: لَا، قَالَ: «فَانْظُرْهَا، فَإنَّهُ أَحْرَى أَنْ يَؤْدَمَ بَيْنَكُمَا».

فَأَتَيْتَهُم فَذَكَرْتُ ذَلِكَ لِوَالِديهَا، فَنَظَر أحَدُهُمَا إِلَى صَاحِبِهِ فَقُمْتُ فَخَرَجْتُ، فَقَالَتِ الْجَارِيَةُ عَلَىَّ الرَّجُل، فَرَجَعْتُ، فَوَقَفْتُ نَاحِيَةَ خِدْرِهَا، فَقَالتْ: إِنْ كَانَ رَسُول الله ﷺ أَمَركَ

أَنْ تَنْظُرَ إِلَىَّ فَانْظُرْ، وَإلَّا فَإِنى أحرجُ عَلَيْكَ أَنْ تَنْظُر، فَنَظَرْتُ إِلَيْهَا فَتَزَوَّجْتُهَا، فَمَا تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً قَطُّ كَانَتْ أَحَبَّ إِلَىَّ مِنْهَا، وَلَا أكْرَمَ عَليها مِنْهَا (*)، وَقَدْ تَزَوَّجْتُ سَبْعِين امْرَأَةً.