67. Nikāḥ (Wedlock / Marriage)

٦٧۔ كتاب النكاح

67.108 Al-Ghaira (i.e. honour, prestige or self-respect)

٦٧۔١٠٨ باب الْغَيْرَةِ

[Machine] "And Warad reported from Al-Mughira, he said: Saad Ibn Ubadah said, 'If I were to see a man with my wife, I would strike him with a sword without hesitation.' The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Are you amazed by the jealousy of Saad? By Allah, I am more jealous than him, and Allah is more jealous than me.'"

وَقَالَ وَرَّادٌ عَنِ الْمُغِيرَةِ قَالَ سَعْدُ بْنُ عُبَادَةَ لَوْ رَأَيْتُ رَجُلاً مَعَ امْرَأَتِي لَضَرَبْتُهُ بِالسَّيْفِ غَيْرَ مُصْفِحٍ، فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: «أَتَعْجَبُونَ مِنْ غَيْرَةِ سَعْدٍ، لأَنَا أَغْيَرُ مِنْهُ وَاللَّهُ أَغْيَرُ مِنِّي».

bukhari:5220ʿUmar b. Ḥafṣ from my father > al-Aʿmash > Shaqīq > ʿAbdullāh

The Prophet, said, "There is none having a greater sense of Ghira than Allah. And for that He has forbidden the doing of evil actions (illegal sexual intercourse etc.) There is none who likes to be praised more than Allah does."  

البخاري:٥٢٢٠حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ حَفْصٍ حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي حَدَّثَنَا الأَعْمَشُ عَنْ شَقِيقٍ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ مَا مِنْ أَحَدٍ أَغْيَرُ مِنَ اللَّهِ مِنْ أَجْلِ ذَلِكَ حَرَّمَ الْفَوَاحِشَ وَمَا أَحَدٌ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْهِ الْمَدْحُ مِنَ اللَّهِ  

bukhari:5221ʿAbdullāh b. Maslamah > Mālik > Hishām from his father > ʿĀʾishah

Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "O followers of Muhammad! There is none, who has a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah, so He has forbidden that His slave commits illegal sexual intercourse or His slave girl commits illegal sexual intercourse. O followers of Muhammad! If you but knew what I know, you would laugh less and weep more!"  

البخاري:٥٢٢١حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ مَسْلَمَةَ عَنْ مَالِكٍ عَنْ هِشَامٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ عَائِشَةَ ؓ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ يَا أُمَّةَ مُحَمَّدٍ مَا أَحَدٌ أَغْيَرَ مِنَ اللَّهِ أَنْ يَرَى عَبْدَهُ أَوْ أَمَتَهُ تَزْنِي يَا أُمَّةَ مُحَمَّدٍ لَوْ تَعْلَمُونَ مَا أَعْلَمُ لَضَحِكْتُمْ قَلِيلاً وَلَبَكَيْتُمْ كَثِيرًا  

bukhari:5222Mūsá b. Ismāʿīl > Hammām > Yaḥyá > Abū Salamah > ʿUrwah b. al-Zubayr > Ummih Asmāʾ

I heard Messenger of Allah ﷺ saying, "There is nothing (none) having a greater sense of Ghira (self-respect) than Allah." And narrated Abu Huraira that he heard the Prophet (saying the same).  

البخاري:٥٢٢٢حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ حَدَّثَنَا هَمَّامٌ عَنْ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ أَنَّ عُرْوَةَ بْنَ الزُّبَيْرِ حَدَّثَهُ عَنْ أُمِّهِ أَسْمَاءَ

أَنَّهَا سَمِعَتْ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ لاَ شَىْءَ أَغْيَرُ مِنَ اللَّهِ  

Prohibitions of Allah are of most importance to Him

bukhari:5223[Chain 1] Yaḥyá > Abū Salamah > Abū Hurayrah; [Chain 2] Abū Nuʿaym > Shaybān > Yaḥyá > Abū Salamah > Abū Hurayrah

The Prophet ﷺ said, "Allah has ghayrah (protective jealousy), and the ghayrah of Allah is ˹provoked˺ when a believer does something that Allah has prohibited."  

البخاري:٥٢٢٣وَعَنْ يَحْيَى أَنَّ أَبَا سَلَمَةَ حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ حَدَّثَهُ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ حَدَّثَنَا شَيْبَانُ عَنْ يَحْيَى عَنْ أَبِي سَلَمَةَ أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ أَنَّهُ قَالَ: «إِنَّ اللَّهَ يَغَارُ وَغَيْرَةُ اللَّهِ أَنْ يَأْتِيَ الْمُؤْمِنُ مَا حَرَّمَ اللَّهُ۔»  

bukhari:5224Maḥmūd > Abū Usāmah > Hishām from my father > Asmāʾ b. Abū Bakr

When Az-Zubair married me, he had no real property or any slave or anything else except a camel which drew water from the well, and his horse. I used to feed his horse with fodder and drew water and sew the bucket for drawing it, and prepare the dough, but I did not know how to bake bread. So our Ansari neighbors used to bake bread for me, and they were honorable ladies. I used to carry the date stones on my head from Zubair's land given to him by Messenger of Allah ﷺ and this land was two third Farsakh (about two miles) from my house. One day, while I was coming with the date stones on my head, I met Messenger of Allah ﷺ along with some Ansari people. He called me and then, (directing his camel to kneel down) said, "Ikh! Ikh!" so as to make me ride behind him (on his camel). I felt shy to travel with the men and remembered Az-Zubair and his sense of Ghira, as he was one of those people who had the greatest sense of Ghira. Messenger of Allah ﷺ noticed that I felt shy, so he proceeded. I came to Az-Zubair and said, "I met Messenger of Allah ﷺ while I was carrying a load of date stones on my head, and he had some companions with him. He made his camel kneel down so that I might ride, but I felt shy in his presence and remembered your sense of Ghira (See the glossary). On that Az-Zubair said, "By Allah, your carrying the date stones (and you being seen by the Prophet ﷺ in such a state) is more shameful to me than your riding with him." (I continued serving in this way) till Abu Bakr sent me a servant to look after the horse, whereupon I felt as if he had set me free.  

البخاري:٥٢٢٤حَدَّثَنَا مَحْمُودٌ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو أُسَامَةَ حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامٌ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي أَبِي

عَنْ أَسْمَاءَ بِنْتِ أَبِي بَكْرٍ ؓ قَالَتْ تَزَوَّجَنِي الزُّبَيْرُ وَمَا لَهُ فِي الأَرْضِ مِنْ مَالٍ وَلاَ مَمْلُوكٍ وَلاَ شَىْءٍ غَيْرَ نَاضِحٍ وَغَيْرَ فَرَسِهِ فَكُنْتُ أَعْلِفُ فَرَسَهُ وَأَسْتَقِي الْمَاءَ وَأَخْرِزُ غَرْبَهُ وَأَعْجِنُ وَلَمْ أَكُنْ أُحْسِنُ أَخْبِزُ وَكَانَ يَخْبِزُ جَارَاتٌ لِي مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ وَكُنَّ نِسْوَةَ صِدْقٍ وَكُنْتُ أَنْقُلُ النَّوَى مِنْ أَرْضِ الزُّبَيْرِ الَّتِي أَقْطَعَهُ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَلَى رَأْسِي وَهْىَ مِنِّي عَلَى ثُلُثَىْ فَرْسَخٍ فَجِئْتُ يَوْمًا وَالنَّوَى عَلَى رَأْسِي فَلَقِيتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَمَعَهُ نَفَرٌ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ فَدَعَانِي ثُمَّ قَالَ إِخْ إِخْ لِيَحْمِلَنِي خَلْفَهُ فَاسْتَحْيَيْتُ أَنْ أَسِيرَ مَعَ الرِّجَالِ وَذَكَرْتُ الزُّبَيْرَ وَغَيْرَتَهُ وَكَانَ أَغْيَرَ النَّاسِ فَعَرَفَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَنِّي قَدِ اسْتَحْيَيْتُ فَمَضَى فَجِئْتُ الزُّبَيْرَ فَقُلْتُ لَقِيَنِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَعَلَى رَأْسِي النَّوَى وَمَعَهُ نَفَرٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ فَأَنَاخَ لأَرْكَبَ فَاسْتَحْيَيْتُ مِنْهُ وَعَرَفْتُ غَيْرَتَكَ فَقَالَ وَاللَّهِ لَحَمْلُكِ النَّوَى كَانَ أَشَدَّ عَلَىَّ مِنْ رُكُوبِكِ مَعَهُ قَالَتْ حَتَّى أَرْسَلَ إِلَىَّ أَبُو بَكْرٍ بَعْدَ ذَلِكَ بِخَادِمٍ يَكْفِينِي سِيَاسَةَ الْفَرَسِ فَكَأَنَّمَا أَعْتَقَنِي  

bukhari:5225ʿAlī > Ibn ʿUlayyah > Ḥumayd > Anas

While the Prophet ﷺ was in the house of one of his wives, one of the mothers of the believers sent a meal in a dish. The wife at whose house the Prophet ﷺ was, struck the hand of the servant, causing the dish to fall and break. The Prophet ﷺ gathered the broken pieces of the dish and then started collecting on them the food which had been in the dish and said, "Your mother (my wife) felt jealous." Then he detained the servant till a (sound) dish was brought from the wife at whose house he was. He gave the sound dish to the wife whose dish had been broken and kept the broken one at the house where it had been broken.  

البخاري:٥٢٢٥حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيٌّ حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ عُلَيَّةَ عَنْ حُمَيْدٍ عَنْ أَنَسٍ قَالَ

كَانَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ عِنْدَ بَعْضِ نِسَائِهِ فَأَرْسَلَتْ إِحْدَى أُمَّهَاتِ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ بِصَحْفَةٍ فِيهَا طَعَامٌ فَضَرَبَتِ الَّتِي النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فِي بَيْتِهَا يَدَ الْخَادِمِ فَسَقَطَتِ الصَّحْفَةُ فَانْفَلَقَتْ فَجَمَعَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فِلَقَ الصَّحْفَةِ ثُمَّ جَعَلَ يَجْمَعُ فِيهَا الطَّعَامَ الَّذِي كَانَ فِي الصَّحْفَةِ وَيَقُولُ غَارَتْ أُمُّكُمْ ثُمَّ حَبَسَ الْخَادِمَ حَتَّى أُتِيَ بِصَحْفَةٍ مِنْ عِنْدِ الَّتِي هُوَ فِي بَيْتِهَا فَدَفَعَ الصَّحْفَةَ الصَّحِيحَةَ إِلَى الَّتِي كُسِرَتْ صَحْفَتُهَا وَأَمْسَكَ الْمَكْسُورَةَ فِي بَيْتِ الَّتِي كَسَرَتْ فِيه  

bukhari:5226Muḥammad b. Abū Bakr al-Muqaddamī > Muʿtamir > ʿUbaydullāh > Muḥammad b. al-Munkadir > Jābir b. ʿAbdullāh

The Prophet, said, "I entered Paradise and saw a palace and asked whose palace is this? They (the Angels) said, "This palace belongs to ʿUmar bin Al-Khattab.' I intended to enter it, and nothing stopped me except my knowledge about your sense of Ghira (self-respect (O ʿUmar)." ʿUmar said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! Let my father and mother be sacrificed for you! O Allah's Prophet! How dare I think of my Ghira (self-respect) being offended by you?"  

البخاري:٥٢٢٦حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ أَبِي بَكْرٍ الْمُقَدَّمِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا مُعْتَمِرٌ عَنْ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ ؓ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ دَخَلْتُ الْجَنَّةَ أَوْ أَتَيْتُ الْجَنَّةَ فَأَبْصَرْتُ قَصْرًا فَقُلْتُ لِمَنْ هَذَا قَالُوا لِعُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَدْخُلَهُ فَلَمْ يَمْنَعْنِي إِلاَّ عِلْمِي بِغَيْرَتِكَ قَالَ عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ بِأَبِي أَنْتَ وَأُمِّي يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ أَوَعَلَيْكَ أَغَارُ  

bukhari:5227ʿAbdān > ʿAbdullāh > Yūnus > al-Zuhrī > Ibn al-Musayyab > Abū Hurayrah

While we were sitting with Messenger of Allah ﷺ, (he) Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "While I was sleeping, I saw a woman performing ablution beside a palace. I asked, "Whose palace is this?' It was said, 'This palace belongs to ʿUmar.' Then I remembered his sense of Ghira and returned." On that ʿUmar started weeping in that gathering and said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! How dare I think of my self-respect being offended by you?"  

البخاري:٥٢٢٧حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدَانُ أَخْبَرَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ عَنْ يُونُسَ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي ابْنُ الْمُسَيَّبِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ قَالَ

بَيْنَمَا نَحْنُ عِنْدَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ جُلُوسٌ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ بَيْنَمَا أَنَا نَائِمٌ رَأَيْتُنِي فِي الْجَنَّةِ فَإِذَا امْرَأَةٌ تَتَوَضَّأُ إِلَى جَانِبِ قَصْرٍ فَقُلْتُ لِمَنْ هَذَا قَالَ هَذَا لِعُمَرَ فَذَكَرْتُ غَيْرَتَهُ فَوَلَّيْتُ مُدْبِرًا فَبَكَى عُمَرُ وَهْوَ فِي الْمَجْلِسِ ثُمَّ قَالَ أَوَعَلَيْكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ أَغَارُ