67. Nikāḥ (Wedlock / Marriage)

٦٧۔ كتاب النكاح

67.81 The exhortation of taking care of the women

٦٧۔٨١ باب الْوَصَاةِ بِالنِّسَاءِ

bukhari:5185Isḥāq b. Naṣr

The Prophet ﷺ said, "Whoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should not hurt (trouble) his neighbor. And I advise you to take care of the women, for they are created from a rib and the most crooked portion of the rib is its upper part; if you try to straighten it, it will break, and if you leave it, it will remain crooked, so I urge you to take care of the women."  

البخاري:٥١٨٥حَدَّثَنَا إِسْحَاقُ بْنُ نَصْرٍ حَدَّثَنَا حُسَيْنٌ الْجُعْفِيُّ عَنْ زَائِدَةَ عَنْ مَيْسَرَةَ عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ مَنْ كَانَ يُؤْمِنُ بِاللَّهِ وَالْيَوْمِ الآخِرِ فَلاَ يُؤْذِي جَارَهُ وَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا فَإِنَّهُنَّ خُلِقْنَ مِنْ ضِلَعٍ وَإِنَّ أَعْوَجَ شَيْءٍ فِي الضِّلَعِ أَعْلَاهُ فَإِنْ ذَهَبْتَ تُقِيمُهُ كَسَرْتَهُ وَإِنْ تَرَكْتَهُ لَمْ يَزَلْ أَعْوَجَ فَاسْتَوْصُوا بِالنِّسَاءِ خَيْرًا  

bukhari:5187Abū Nuʿaym > Sufyān > ʿAbdullāh b. Dīnār > Ibn ʿUmar

During the lifetime of the Prophet ﷺ we used to avoid chatting leisurely and freely with our wives lest some Divine inspiration might be revealed concerning us. But when the Prophet ﷺ had died, we started chatting leisurely and freely (with them).  

البخاري:٥١٨٧حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ دِينَارٍ عَنِ ابْنِ عُمَرَ ؓ قَالَ

كُنَّا نَتَّقِي الْكَلاَمَ وَالاِنْبِسَاطَ إِلَى نِسَائِنَا عَلَى عَهْدِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ هَيْبَةَ أَنْ يُنْزَلَ فِينَا شَىْءٌ فَلَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ تَكَلَّمْنَا وَانْبَسَطْنَا