1. Parents

١۔ كتاب الْوَالِدَيْنِ

1.6 Repaying Parents

١۔٦ بَابُ جَزَاءِ الْوَالِدَيْنِ

Favor from parents can never be repaid

adab:10Qabīṣah > Sufyān > Suhayl b. Abū Ṣalih > Abū Ṣāliḥ Dhakwān al-Sammān > Abū Hurayrah

from the Prophet ﷺ who said, "A child cannot repay his parent unless he finds them as a slave and then buys them and ˹thereby˺ sets them free."

الأدب المفرد:١٠حَدَّثَنَا قَبِيصَةُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ سُهَيْلِ بْنِ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِيهِ [أَبِي صَالِحٍ ذَكْوَانَ السَّمَّانِ] عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ: «لاَ يَجْزِي وَلَدٌ وَالِدَهُ إِلاَّ أَنْ يَجِدَهُ مَمْلُوكًا فَيَشْتَرِيَهُ فَيُعْتِقَهُ».

One can never repay their mother

adab:11Ādam > Shuʿbah > Saʿīd b. Abū Burdah ˹al-Ashʿarī˺ > Abū Burdah b. Abū Mūsá al-Ashʿarī

He witnessed Ibn Umar and a Yemeni man doing the Tawaf of the House (the Kābah). The man was carrying his mother on his back and saying, "I am her humble camel. If her ride is frightened, I will not be frightened." Then he said, "O Ibn Umar, do you think I have repaid her?" Ibn Umar replied, "No, not even for a single groan ˹of labor pain˺ of hers."

Ibn Umar then continued the Tawaf and came to the Maqam ˹Ibrahim˺, where he prayed two units of prayer. Then he said, "O son of Abu Musa, indeed, every two units of prayer expiate what comes ahead of them."

الأدب المفرد:١١حَدَّثَنَا آدَمُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا شُعْبَةُ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدُ بْنُ أَبِي بُرْدَةَ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبِي [أبي بردة بن أبي موسى الأشعري] يُحَدِّثُ

أَنَّهُ شَهِدَ ابْنَ عُمَرَ وَرَجُلٌ يَمَانِيٌّ يَطُوفُ بِالْبَيْتِ حَمَلَ أُمَّهُ وَرَاءَ ظَهْرِهِ يَقُولُ: 

إِنِّي لَهَا بَعِيرُهَا الْمُذَلَّلُ .. إِنْ أُذْعِرَتْ رِكَابُهَا لَمْ أُذْعَرِ 

ثُمَّ قَالَ: يَا ابْنَ عُمَرَ أَتُرَانِي جَزَيْتُهَا؟ قَالَ: لاَ وَلاَ بِزَفْرَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ

ثُمَّ طَافَ ابْنُ عُمَرَ فَأَتَى الْمَقَامَ فَصَلَّى رَكْعَتَيْنِ ثُمَّ قَالَ: يَا ابْنَ أَبِي مُوسَى إِنَّ كُلَّ رَكْعَتَيْنِ تُكَفِّرَانِ مَا أَمَامَهُمَا

Abu Hurayrah’s kindness toward her mother

adab:12ʿAbd Allah b. Salih > al-Layth > Khalid b. Yazid > Saʿid b. Abu Hilal > Abu Hazim > Abu Murrah

Marwan ˹b. al-Hakam˺ used to appoint Abu Hurayrah as his deputy, and he would be at Dhu al-Hulayfah. His mother would be in one house and he in another.

He said: When he wanted to go out, he would stand at her door and say, “Peace be upon you, my mother, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.” She would say, “And upon you be peace, my son, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings.” Then he would say, “May Allah have mercy on you as you raised me when I was small.” And she would say, “May Allah have mercy on you as you have been dutiful to me when I am old.” Then when he wanted to enter, he would do the same.

الأدب المفرد:١٢حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي اللَّيْثُ [بْنُ سَعْدٍ] قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي خَالِدُ بْنُ يَزِيدَ عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ أَبِي هِلاَلٍ عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ عَنْ أَبِي مُرَّةَ مَوْلَى عَقِيلٍ [بْنِ أبِي طالِبٍ]

أَنَّ أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ كَانَ يَسْتَخْلِفُهُ مَرْوَانُ [بْنُ الْحَكَمِ]، وَكَانَ يَكُونُ بِذِي الْحُلَيْفَةِ، فَكَانَتْ أُمُّهُ فِي بَيْتٍ، وَهُوَ فِي آخَرَ. 

قَالَ: فَإِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَخْرُجَ، وَقَفَ عَلَى بَابِهَا، فَقَالَ: السَّلَامُ عَلَيْكِ يَا أُمَّتَاهُ، وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ. فَتَقُولُ: وَعَلَيْكَ السَّلَامُ يَا بُنَيَّ، وَرَحْمَةُ اللَّهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ. فَيَقُولُ: رَحِمَكِ اللَّهُ كَمَا رَبَّيْتِنِي صَغِيرًا. فَتَقُولُ: رَحِمَكَ اللَّهُ كَمَا بَرَرْتَنِي كَبِيرًا. ثُمَّ إِذَا أَرَادَ أَنْ يَدْخُلَ، صَنَعَ مِثْلَهُ.

Ensuring that parents are pleased with you

adab:13Abū Nuʿaym > Sufyān > ʿAṭāʾ b. al-Sāʾib from his father > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAmr

A man came to the Prophet ﷺ to pledge allegiance to him for emigration, and he had left his parents weeping. He said: "Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them weep."

الأدب المفرد:١٣حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو نُعَيْمٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ

جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ يُبَايِعُهُ عَلَى الْهِجْرَةِ، وَتَرَكَ أَبَوَيْهِ يَبْكِيَانِ، فَقَالَ: «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِمَا وَأَضْحِكْهُمَا كَمَا أَبْكَيْتَهُمَا»

Greeting parents affectionately and making dua for them

adab:14ʿAbd al-Raḥmān b. Shaybah > Ibn Abī al-Fudayk > Mūsā > Abū Ḥāzim > Abū Murrah, mawlā Umm Hāniʾ bt. Abī Ṭālib

[AI] That he rode with Abu Hurayrah to his land in al-Aqiq. When he entered his land, he called out at the top of his voice: Peace be upon you, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings, my dear mother. She would say: And upon you be peace, and the mercy of Allah and His blessings. He would say: May Allah have mercy on you; you raised me when I was small. She would say: My dear son, and you—may Allah reward you with good, and may He be pleased with you, as you were dutiful to me when I was old.

[AI] Musa said: Abu Hurayrah’s name was Abdullah ibn Amr.

الأدب المفرد:١٤حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ شَيْبَةَ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنِي ابْنُ أَبِي الْفُدَيْكِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي مُوسَى عَنْ أَبِي حَازِمٍ أَنَّ أَبَا مُرَّةَ مَوْلَى أُمِّ هَانِئِ ابْنَةِ أَبِي طَالِبٍ أَخْبَرَهُ

أَنَّهُ رَكِبَ مَعَ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ إِلَى أَرْضِهِ بِالْعَقِيقِ، فَإِذَا دَخَلَ أَرْضَهُ صَاحَ بِأَعْلَى صَوْتِهِ: عَلَيْكِ السَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ يَا أُمَّتَاهُ. تَقُولُ: وَعَلَيْكَ السَّلاَمُ وَرَحْمَةُ اللهِ وَبَرَكَاتُهُ. يَقُولُ: رَحِمَكِ اللَّهُ، رَبَّيْتِنِي صَغِيرًا. فَتَقُولُ: يَا بُنَيَّ، وَأَنْتَ فَجَزَاكَ اللَّهُ خَيْرًا، وَرَضِيَ عَنْكَ كَمَا بَرَرْتَنِي كَبِيرًا.

قَالَ مُوسَى كَانَ اسْمُ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَبْدَ اللهِ بْنَ عَمْرٍو