1. Parents

١۔ كتاب الْوَالِدَيْنِ

1.9 Being Dutiful to Parents as long as that does not entail disobedience

١۔٩ بَابُ يَبَرُّ وَالِدَيْهِ مَا لَمْ يَكُنْ مَعْصِيَةً

Giving up what you prefer to please your parents

adab:18Muhammad b. Abd al-Aziz > Abd al-Malik b. al-Khattab b. Ubayd Allah b. Abu Bakrah al-Basri > Rashid Abu Muhammad > Shahr b. Hawshab > Umm al-Darda' > Abu al-Darda'

Abu al-Darda said, "The Messenger of Allah ﷺ recommended nine things to me: (1) Do not associate anything with Allah, even if you are cut to pieces or burned. (2) Do not abandon a prescribed prayer deliberately, for anyone who abandons it will forfeit Allah's protection. (3) Do not drink wine for it is the key to every evil. (4) Obey your parents. If they command you to abandon your worldly possessions, then leave those for them. (5) Do not contend with those in power, even if you think that you are in the right. (6) Do not run away from the army when it advances, even if you are killed while your companions run away. (7) Spend on your wife out of your means. (8) Do not lift ˹away˺ the stick against from your wife. (9) Cause your family to fear Allah, the Almighty and Exalted.'"  

الأدب المفرد:١٨حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الْعَزِيزِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ بْنِ عُبَيْدِ اللهِ بْنِ أَبِي بَكْرَةَ الْبَصْرِيُّ لَقِيتُهُ بِالرَّمْلَةِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي رَاشِدٌ أَبُو مُحَمَّدٍ عَنْ شَهْرِ بْنِ حَوْشَبٍ عَنْ أُمِّ الدَّرْدَاءِ عَنْ أَبِي الدَّرْدَاءِ قَالَ

أَوْصَانِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ بِتِسْعٍ: (١) لاَ تُشْرِكْ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا وَإِنْ قُطِّعْتَ أَوْ حُرِّقْتَ، (٢) وَلاَ تَتْرُكَنَّ الصَّلاَةَ الْمَكْتُوبَةَ مُتَعَمِّدًا وَمَنْ تَرَكَهَا مُتَعَمِّدًا بَرِئَتْ مِنْهُ الذِّمَّةُ، (٣) وَلاَ تَشْرَبَنَّ الْخَمْرَ فَإِنَّهَا مِفْتَاحُ كُلِّ شَرٍّ، (٤) وَأَطِعْ وَالِدَيْكَ وَإِنْ أَمَرَاكَ أَنْ تَخْرُجَ مِنْ دُنْيَاكَ فَاخْرُجْ لَهُمَا، (٥) وَلاَ تُنَازِعَنَّ وُلاَةَ الأَمْرِ وَإِنْ رَأَيْتَ أَنَّكَ أَنْتَ، (٦) وَلاَ تَفْرُرْ مِنَ الزَّحْفِ وَإِنْ هَلَكْتَ وَفَرَّ أَصْحَابُكَ، (٧) وَأَنْفِقْ مِنْ طَوْلِكَ عَلَى أَهْلِكَ، (٨) وَلاَ تَرْفَعْ عَصَاكَ عَنْ أَهْلِكَ، (٩) وَأَخِفْهُمْ فِي اللهِ عَزَّ وَجَلَّ۔  

adab:19Muhammad b. Kathīr > Sufyān > ʿAtaʾ b. al-Sāʾib from his father > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAmr

'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, and said, 'I have come to make you a pledge that will do hijra although I have left my parents in tears." The Prophet said, 'Go back to them and make them laugh as you made them cry.'"  

الأدب المفرد:١٩حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ كَثِيرٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ عَطَاءِ بْنِ السَّائِبِ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ

جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَقَالَ: جِئْتُ أُبَايِعُكَ عَلَى الْهِجْرَةِ وَتَرَكْتُ أَبَوَيَّ يَبْكِيَانِ۔ قَالَ: «ارْجِعْ إِلَيْهِمَا فَأَضْحِكْهُمَا كَمَا أَبْكَيْتَهُمَا۔»  

Taking care of parents is like jihad

adab:20Ali b. al-Ja‘d > Shu‘bah > Habib b. Abu Thabit > Abu al-‘Abbas al-A‘ma > ‘Abd Allah b. ‘Amr

'Abdullah ibn 'Amr said, "A man came to the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace, wanting to do jihad. The Prophet asked, 'Are your parents alive?' 'Yes,' he replied. he said, 'Then exert yourself on their behalf.'"  

الأدب المفرد:٢٠حَدَّثَنَا عَلِيُّ بْنُ الْجَعْدِ قَالَ أَخْبَرَنَا شُعْبَةُ عَنْ حَبِيبِ بْنِ أَبِي ثَابِتٍ قَالَ سَمِعْتُ أَبَا الْعَبَّاسِ الأَعْمَى عَنْ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ عَمْرٍو قَالَ

جَاءَ رَجُلٌ إِلَى النَّبِيِّ ﷺ يُرِيدُ الْجِهَادَ فَقَالَ: «أَحَيٌّ وَالِدَاكَ؟» فَقَالَ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ «فَفِيهِمَا فَجَاهِدْ»