12. Nikāḥ (Marriage)

١٢۔ كتاب النكاح

12.43 Regarding Hitting Women

١٢۔٤٣ باب فِي ضَرْبِ النِّسَاءِ

abudawud:2145Mūsá b. Ismāʿīl > Ḥammād > ʿAlī b. Zayd > Abū Ḥurrah al-Raqāshī > ʿAmmih

Abu Harrah Al Ruqashi reported on the authority of his uncle” The Prophet ﷺ said “If you fear the recalcitrance abandon them in their beds.” The narrator Hammad said “By abandonment he meant abandonment of intercourse.”  

أبو داود:٢١٤٥حَدَّثَنَا مُوسَى بْنُ إِسْمَاعِيلَ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادٌ عَنْ عَلِيِّ بْنِ زَيْدٍ عَنْ أَبِي حُرَّةَ الرَّقَاشِيِّ عَنْ عَمِّهِ

أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ قَالَ حَمَّادٌ يَعْنِي النِّكَاحَ  

The men who beat their wives are not the best among you

abudawud:2146Aḥmad b. Abū Khalaf And ʾAḥmad b. ʿAmr b. al-Sarḥ > Sufyān > al-Zuhrī > ʿAbdullāh b. ʿAbdullāh > Ibn al-Sarḥ ʿUbaydullāh b. ʿAbdullāh > Iyās b. ʿAbdullāh b. Abū Dhubāb

The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Do not beat the female servants of Allah.” Then Umar came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, “The women have become emboldened against their husbands,” so he granted permission to beat them.

Then many women went around to the family of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ complaining about their husbands. So the Prophet ﷺ said, “Many women have gone around to the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands; those men are not the best among you.”  

أبو داود:٢١٤٦حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ أَبِي خَلَفٍ وَأَحْمَدُ بْنُ عَمْرِو بْنِ السَّرْحِ قَالاَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنِ الزُّهْرِيِّ عَنْ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ قَالَ ابْنُ السَّرْحِ عُبَيْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ عَنْ إِيَاسِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ بْنِ أَبِي ذُبَابٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «لاَ تَضْرِبُوا إِمَاءَ اللَّهِ» فَجَاءَ عُمَرُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ: ذَئِرْنَ النِّسَاءُ عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ، فَرَخَّصَ فِي ضَرْبِهِنَّ۔

فَأَطَافَ بِآلِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: «لَقَدْ طَافَ بِآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ، لَيْسَ أُولَئِكَ بِخِيَارِكُمْ۔»  

abudawud:2147Zuhayr b. Ḥarb > ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. Mahdī > Abū ʿAwānah > Dāwud b. ʿAbdullāh al-Awdī > ʿAbd al-Raḥman al-Muslī > al-Ashʿath b. Qays > ʿUmar b. al-Khaṭṭāb

The Prophet ﷺ said: "A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife."  

أبو داود:٢١٤٧حَدَّثَنَا زُهَيْرُ بْنُ حَرْبٍ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو عَوَانَةَ عَنْ دَاوُدَ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الأَوْدِيِّ عَنْ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْمُسْلِيِّ عَنِ الأَشْعَثِ بْنِ قَيْسٍ عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ: «لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ۔»