12. Nikāḥ (Marriage)
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Abu Harrah Al Ruqashi reported on the authority of his uncle” The Prophet ﷺ said “If you fear the recalcitrance abandon them in their beds.” The narrator Hammad said “By abandonment he meant abandonment of intercourse.”
أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ قَالَ فَإِنْ خِفْتُمْ نُشُوزَهُنَّ فَاهْجُرُوهُنَّ فِي الْمَضَاجِعِ قَالَ حَمَّادٌ يَعْنِي النِّكَاحَ
The men who beat their wives are not the best among you
The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, “Do not beat the female servants of Allah.” Then Umar came to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and said, “The women have become emboldened against their husbands,” so he granted permission to beat them.
Then many women went around to the family of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ complaining about their husbands. So the Prophet ﷺ said, “Many women have gone around to the family of Muhammad complaining about their husbands; those men are not the best among you.”
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «لاَ تَضْرِبُوا إِمَاءَ اللَّهِ» فَجَاءَ عُمَرُ إِلَى رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ: ذَئِرْنَ النِّسَاءُ عَلَى أَزْوَاجِهِنَّ، فَرَخَّصَ فِي ضَرْبِهِنَّ۔
فَأَطَافَ بِآلِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ: «لَقَدْ طَافَ بِآلِ مُحَمَّدٍ نِسَاءٌ كَثِيرٌ يَشْكُونَ أَزْوَاجَهُنَّ، لَيْسَ أُولَئِكَ بِخِيَارِكُمْ۔»
The Prophet ﷺ said: "A man will not be asked as to why he beat his wife."
عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ: «لاَ يُسْأَلُ الرَّجُلُ فِيمَا ضَرَبَ امْرَأَتَهُ۔»