"Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Have you got married O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked "What, a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "Not a virgin but a matron." He said, "Why did you not marry a young girl who would have fondled with you?" I replied, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! My father was martyred on the day of Uhud and left nine (orphan) daughters who are my nine sisters; so I disliked to have another young girl of their age, but (I sought) an (elderly) woman who could comb their hair and look after them." The Prophet ﷺ said, "You have done the right thing."  

لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ هَلْ نَكَحْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ مَاذَا أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ لاَ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُكَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ أَبِي قُتِلَ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ كُنَّ لِي تِسْعَ أَخَوَاتٍ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجْمَعَ إِلَيْهِنَّ جَارِيَةً خَرْقَاءَ مِثْلَهُنَّ وَلَكِنِ امْرَأَةً تَمْشُطُهُنَّ وَتَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَصَبْتَ  

[Machine] To the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, I said: "Did you marry?" He said: "Yes." I said: "A virgin or a divorced woman?" I said: "A divorced woman." He said: "Why not a virgin, with whom you could play and who could play with you?" I said: "O Messenger of Allah, my father was killed on the day of Uhud, leaving behind nine daughters. I disliked that I would gather a mother for them who was like them (in age)." But a woman who would comb their hair and take care of them." He said: "You have made the right choice."  

لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ هَلْ نَكَحْتَ؟ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا؟ قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلَّا بِكْرًا تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ قُتِلَ أَبِي يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَتَرَكَ تسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجْمَعَ إِلَيْهِنَّ خَرْقَاءَ مِثْلَهُنَّ وَلَكِنْ امْرَأَةً تُمَشِّطُهُنَّ وَتَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَصَبْتَ  

[Machine] I went with the Messenger of Allah ﷺ on a military expedition. He asked, "Have you gotten married?" I replied, "Yes." He asked, "Did you marry a virgin or a widow?" I said, "No, I married a widow." He asked, "Don't you desire to have a wife who can play with you and you can play with her?" I said, "I have sisters, so I preferred to marry a woman who can bring them together, comb their hair, and take care of them." He said, "Since you are coming, then be as wise as possible."  

خَرَجْتُ مَعَ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فِي غَزَاةٍ فَقَالَ «تَزَوَّجْتَ؟ » قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ «بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا؟ » قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ «فَهَلَّا جَارِيَةً تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ؟ » قُلْتُ إِنَّ لِي أَخَوَاتٍ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أَتَزَوَّجَ امْرَأَةً تَجْمَعُهُنَّ وَتُمَشِّطُهُنَّ وَتَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ «أَمَا إِنَّكَ قَادِمٌ فَإِذَا قَدِمْتَ فَالْكَيْسَ الْكَيْسَ»