It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that the Prophet ﷺ was attending a funeral. ‘Umar saw a woman and shouted at her, but the Prophet ﷺ said, “Leave her alone, O ‘Umar, for the eye weeps and the heart is afflicted, and the bereavement is recent.”  

أَنَّ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ كَانَ فِي جِنَازَةٍ فَرَأَى عُمَرُ امْرَأَةً فَصَاحَ بِهَا فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ دَعْهَا يَا عُمَرُ فَإِنَّ الْعَيْنَ دَامِعَةٌ وَالنَّفْسَ مُصَابَةٌ وَالْعَهْدَ قَرِيبٌ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو بَكْرِ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حَدَّثَنَا عَفَّانُ عَنْ حَمَّادِ بْنِ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ وَهْبِ بْنِ كَيْسَانَ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ عَمْرِو بْنِ عَطَاءٍ عَنْ سَلَمَةَ بْنِ الأَزْرَقِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ بِنَحْوِهِ  

“The son of one of the daughters of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ was dying. She sent for him, asking him to come to her, and he sent word to her, saying: ‘To Allah belongs what He has taken and to Him belongs what He has given. Everything has an appointed time with Him, so be patient and seek reward.’ But she sent for him again, adjuring him to come. So the Messenger of Allah ﷺ got up, and I got up with him, as did Mu’adh bin Jabal, Ubayy bin Ka’b and ‘Ubadah bin Samit. When we entered they handed the child to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, and his soul was rattling in his chest.” I think he was that it was like a water skin. “The Messenger of Allah ﷺ wept, and ‘Ubadah bin Samit said to him: ‘What is this, O Messenger of Allah?’ He said: ‘It is compassion which Allah has created in the son of Adam. Allah only shows mercy to those of His slaves who are compassionate.’”  

كَانَ ابْنٌ لِبَعْضِ بَنَاتِ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَقْضِي فَأَرْسَلَتْ إِلَيْهِ أَنْ يَأْتِيَهَا فَأَرْسَلَ إِلَيْهَا أَنَّ لِلَّهِ مَا أَخَذَ وَلَهُ مَا أَعْطَى وَكُلُّ شَىْءٍ عِنْدَهُ إِلَى أَجَلٍ مُسَمًّى فَلْتَصْبِرْ وَلْتَحْتَسِبْ فَأَرْسَلَتْ إِلَيْهِ فَأَقْسَمَتْ عَلَيْهِ فَقَامَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَقُمْتُ مَعَهُ وَمَعَهُ مُعَاذُ بْنُ جَبَلٍ وَأُبَىُّ بْنُ كَعْبٍ وَعُبَادَةُ بْنُ الصَّامِتِ فَلَمَّا دَخَلْنَا نَاوَلُوا الصَّبِيَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ وَرُوحُهُ تَقَلْقَلُ فِي صَدْرِهِ قَالَ حَسِبْتُهُ قَالَ كَأَنَّهُ شَنَّةٌ قَالَ فَبَكَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَهُ عُبَادَةُ بْنُ الصَّامِتِ مَا هَذَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ؟ قَالَ الرَّحْمَةُ الَّتِي جَعَلَهَا اللَّهُ فِي بَنِي آدَمَ وَإِنَّمَا يَرْحَمُ اللَّهُ مِنْ عِبَادِهِ الرُّحَمَاءَ  

“When Ibrahim, the son of the Messenger of Allah ﷺ, died, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ wept. The one who was consoling him, either Abu Bakr or ‘Umar, said to him: ‘You are indeed the best of those who glorify Allah with what is due to him.’ The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: ‘The eye weeps and the heart grieves, but we do not say anything that angers the Lord. Were it not that death is something that inevitably comes to all, and that the latter will surely join the former, then we would have been more than we are, verily we grieve for you.’”  

لَمَّا تُوُفِّيَ ابْنُ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِبْرَاهِيمُ بَكَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ لَهُ الْمُعَزِّي إِمَّا أَبُو بَكْرٍ وَإِمَّا عُمَرُ أَنْتَ أَحَقُّ مَنْ عَظَّمَ اللَّهَ حَقَّهُ قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ: «تَدْمَعُ الْعَيْنُ وَيَحْزَنُ الْقَلْبُ، وَلاَ نَقُولُ مَا يُسْخِطُ الرَّبَّ۔ لَوْلاَ أَنَّهُ وَعْدٌ صَادِقٌ وَمَوْعُودٌ جَامِعٌ، وَأَنَّ الآخِرَ تَابِعٌ لِلأَوَّلِ لَوَجَدْنَا عَلَيْكَ يَا إِبْرَاهِيمُ أَفْضَلَ مِمَّا وَجَدْنَا وَإِنَّا بِكَ لَمَحْزُونُونَ  

“Your brother has been killed.” She said: “May Allah have mercy on him. Inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji’un (Truly, to Allah we belong and truly, to Him we shall return).” They said: “Your husband has been killed.” She said: “O grief!” The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “The woman has a strong love for her husband, which she does not have for anything else.”  

رَحِمَهُ اللَّهُ وَإِنَّا لِلَّهِ وَإِنَّا إِلَيْهِ رَاجِعُونَ قَالُوا قُتِلَ زَوْجُكِ قَالَتْ وَاحُزْنَاهُ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنَّ لِلزَّوْجِ مِنَ الْمَرْأَةِ لَشُعْبَةً مَا هِيَ لِشَىْءٍ  

“But there is no one to weep for Hamzah.” So the women of Ansar started to weep for Hamzah. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ woke up and said, ‘Woe to them, have they not gone home yet? Tell them to go home and not to weep for anyone who dies after this day.’”  

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ مَرَّ بِنِسَاءِ عَبْدِ الأَشْهَلِ يَبْكِينَ هَلْكَاهُنَّ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ لَكِنَّ حَمْزَةَ لاَ بَوَاكِيَ لَهُ فَجَاءَ نِسَاءُ الأَنْصَارِ يَبْكِينَ حَمْزَةَ فَاسْتَيْقَظَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ وَيْحَهُنَّ مَا انْقَلَبْنَ بَعْدُ؟ مُرُوهُنَّ فَلْيَنْقَلِبْنَ وَلاَ يَبْكِينَ عَلَى هَالِكٍ بَعْدَ الْيَوْمِ  

“The Messenger of Allah ﷺ forbade eulogies.”  

نَهَى رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ عَنِ الْمَرَاثِي