[Machine] There was something between me and my wife that doesn't usually exist between people. She said, "If what is in your hands is under my control, then you would know what to do." He responded, "Indeed, what is in my hands is in your hands as well." She said, "Then you are divorced three times." He said, "I view it as one and you have more right to return." So, he sought the guidance of Caliph Umar and informed him of the situation. Umar then narrated the story to him and said, "Allah has dealt with men and as men they intend to do what Allah has allowed them to do, but they delegate it to women. By doing so, they mix it with soil. What do you say?" He replied, "I view it as one and he is more entitled to it." Umar said, "And I see it that way too. If you saw it differently, I would have concluded that you made a mistake." Mansoor said, "So, I said to Ibrahim, Ibn Abbas used to say, 'Allah made her statement a mistake if she said, 'I have divorced myself.' Ibrahim said, 'They are equal.'"  

كَانَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِي مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ فَقَالَتْ لَوْ أَنَّ الَّذِي بِيَدِكَ مِنْ أَمْرِي بِيَدِي لَعَلِمْتَ كَيْفَ أَصْنَعُ فَقَالَ فَإِنَّ الَّذِي بِيَدِي مِنْ أَمْرِكِ بِيَدِكِ قَالَتْ فَأَنْتَ طَالِقٌ ثَلَاثًا قَالَ «أُرَاهَا وَاحِدَةً وَأَنْتَ أَحَقُّ بِالرَّجْعَةِ» وَسَأَلْقَى أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ عُمَرَ فَلَقِيَهُ فَقَصَّ عَلَيْهِ الْقِصَّةَ فَقَالَ «فَعَلَ اللهُ بِالرِّجَالِ وَفَعَلَ اللهُ بِالرِّجَالِ يَعْمِدُونَ إِلَى مَا جَعَلَهُ اللهُ بِأَيْدِيهِمْ فَيَجْعَلُونَهُ بِأَيْدِي النِّسَاءِ بِفِيهَا التُّرَابُ مَاذَا قُلْتَ؟» قَالَ قُلْتُ «أُرَاهَا وَاحِدَةً وَهُوَ أَحَقُّ بِهَا» قَالَ «وَأَنَا أَرَى ذَلِكَ وَلَوْ رَأَيْتَ غَيْرَ ذَلِكَ رَأَيْتُ أَنَّكَ لَمْ تُصِبْ» قَالَ مَنْصُورٌ فَقُلْتُ لِإِبْرَاهِيمَ فَإِنَّ ابْنَ عَبَّاسٍ كَانَ يَقُولُ خَطَّأَ اللهُ نَوْءَهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ قَالَتْ قَدْ طَلَّقْتُ نَفْسِي قَالَ إِبْرَاهِيمُ هُمَا سَوَاءٌ  

[Machine] "And he said, there were some matters between me and my wife that are shared with people. So she said, if what is in your hand concerning my matter was in my hand, I would know what to do. He said, I said, what is in my hand concerning your matter is in your hand. She said, I have divorced you three times. Abdullah said, I saw her as one divorce and you have more right to her. So I went to Amir al-Mu'minin Umar and asked him about that. He met him and asked him, so he narrated the story to him. Umar said, Allah has made men have control over what He has put in their hands, and they make the decision. They put it in the hands of women and judge it with their opinions. So what did you say? He said, I said I saw it as one divorce and he has more right to her. He said, I see that, and if you had said otherwise, I would have seen that you were mistaken."  

وَقَالَ كَانَ بَيْنِي وَبَيْنَ امْرَأَتِي بَعْضُ مَا يَكُونُ بَيْنَ النَّاسِ فَقَالَتْ لَوْ أَنَّ الَّذِيَ بِيَدِكَ مِنْ أَمْرِي بِيَدِي لَعَلِمْتُ كَيْفَ أَصْنَعُ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ الَّذِيَ بِيَدِي مِنْ أَمْرِكِ بِيَدِكِ قَالَتْ فَإِنِّي قَدْ طَلَّقْتُكَ ثَلَاثًا قَالَ عَبْدُ اللهِ أَرَاهَا وَاحِدَةً وَأَنْتَ أَحَقُّ بِهَا وَسَأَلْقَى أَمِيرَ الْمُؤْمِنِينَ عُمَرَ فَأَسْأَلَهُ عَنْ ذَلِكَ قَالَ فَلَقِيَهُ فَسَأَلَهُ فَقَصَّ عَلَيْهِ الْقِصَّةَ فَقَالَ عُمَرُ ؓ فَعَلَ اللهُ بِالرِّجَالِ يَعْمِدُونَ إِلَى مَا جَعَلَ اللهُ بِأَيْدِيهِمْ فَيَجْعَلُونَهُ بِأَيْدِي النِّسَاءِ بِفِيهَا التُّرَابَ بِفِيهَا التُّرَابَ فَمَا قُلْتَ قَالَ قُلْتُ أَرَاهَا وَاحِدَةً وَهُوَ أَحَقُّ بِهَا قَالَ وَأَنَا أَرَى ذَلِكَ وَلَوْ قُلْتَ غَيْرَ ذَلِكَ لَرَأَيْتُ أَنَّكَ لَمْ تُصِبْ  

"عن ابن مسعود أنه جاء إليه رجلٌ فقال: كان بينى وبين امرأتى بعض ما يكون بين الناس، فقالت: لو أن الذى بيدك من أمرى بيدى لعلمت كيف أصنع، فقال: إن الذى بيدى من أمرك بيدك، قالت: فأنت طالقٌ ثلاثًا، فقال: أُرَاها واحدة. وأنت أحق بالرجعة، وسألقى أميرَ المؤمنين عمر، فلقيه فقصَّ عليه القصة، فقال: فعل اللَّه بالرجال، وفعل اللَّه بالرجال يعمدون إلى ما جعل اللَّه في أيديهم فيجعلونه في أيدى النساء بفيها التراب، ماذا قلت؟ قال: قلت: أراها واحدة وهو أحق بها، قال: وأنا أرى ذلك، ولو رأيت غير ذلك رأيت أنك لم تصب".