"Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "Have you got married O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked "What, a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "Not a virgin but a matron." He said, "Why did you not marry a young girl who would have fondled with you?" I replied, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ! My father was martyred on the day of Uhud and left nine (orphan) daughters who are my nine sisters; so I disliked to have another young girl of their age, but (I sought) an (elderly) woman who could comb their hair and look after them." The Prophet ﷺ said, "You have done the right thing."  

لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ هَلْ نَكَحْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ مَاذَا أَبِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ لاَ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُكَ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ أَبِي قُتِلَ يَوْمَ أُحُدٍ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ كُنَّ لِي تِسْعَ أَخَوَاتٍ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجْمَعَ إِلَيْهِنَّ جَارِيَةً خَرْقَاءَ مِثْلَهُنَّ وَلَكِنِ امْرَأَةً تَمْشُطُهُنَّ وَتَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ أَصَبْتَ  

My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron. Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "O Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he said, "Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you." I said, " ʿAbdullah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them." On that he said, "May Allah bless you," or "That is good."  

هَلَكَ أَبِي وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ بَنَاتٍ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَتُصْلِحُهُنَّ فَقَالَ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ أَوْ قَالَ خَيْرًا  

My father died and left behind seven or nine daughters, and I married a woman. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Did you get married, O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked, "Is she a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "She is a matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a virgin girl so that you might play with her and she with you (or, you might make her laugh and she make you laugh)?" I said, "My father died, leaving seven or nine girls (orphans) and I did not like to bring a young girl like them, so I married a woman who can look after them." He said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you."  

هَلَكَ أَبِي وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ أَوْ تُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قُلْتُ هَلَكَ أَبِي فَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ فَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكَ لَمْ يَقُلِ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مُسْلِمٍ عَنْ عَمْرٍو بَارَكَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكَ  

'Abdullah died and he left (behind him) nine or seven daughters. I married a woman who had been previously married. Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: Messenger of Allah, with one who was previously married, whereupon he said: Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you could sport with her and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you? I said to him: 'Abdullah died (he fell as martyr in Uhud) and left nine or seven daughters behind him; I, therefore, did not approve of the idea that I should bring a (girl) like them, but I preferred to bring a woman who should look after them and teach them good manners, whereupon he (Messenger of Allah) said: May Allah bless you, or he supplicated (for the) good (to be) conferred on me (by Allah).  

أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ قَالَ سَبْعَ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَا جَابِرُ تَزَوَّجْتَ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَبِكْرٌ أَمْ ثَيِّبٌ قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ أَوْ قَالَ تُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قَالَ قُلْتُ لَهُ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ سَبْعَ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ آتِيَهُنَّ أَوْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أَجِيءَ بِامْرَأَةٍ تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَتُصْلِحُهُنَّ قَالَ فَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ أَوْ قَالَ لِي خَيْرًا وَفِي رِوَايَةِ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ  

"I married a woman and went to the Prophet, he said: 'O Jabir! Have you married?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a matron?' I said: 'A matron.' He said: 'Why didn't you marry a young girl, so that you may play with her and she with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Abdullah (his father) died and left behind seven - or nine - daughter, so I have brought someone who can look after them.'" (He said:) "So he supplicated for me."  

تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا فَقُلْتُ لاَ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ مَاتَ وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ تِسْعًا فَجِئْتُ بِمَنْ يَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ فَدَعَا لِي قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ أُبَىِّ بْنِ كَعْبٍ وَكَعْبِ بْنِ عُجْرَةَ  

[Machine] "That his father died and left behind nine daughters or seven daughters. So I went to the Messenger of Allah ﷺ and he asked me, 'Did you get married, O Jabir?' I said, 'Yes.' He asked, 'A virgin or a previously married?' I said, 'Rather previously married.' He said, 'So why don't you marry a young girl who will play with you, and you will play with her, and she will make you laugh, and you will make her laugh?' So I said, 'Indeed, Abdullah died and left behind nine daughters or seven daughters, and I dislike marrying them to someone like themselves, and I want a woman who can take care of them.' He said to me, 'May Allah bless you.'"  

أَنَّ أَبَاهُ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ قَالَ فَأَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ لِي «تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ؟ » قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ « بِكْرًا أَوْ ثَيِّبًا؟ » قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ «فَهَلَّا جَارِيَةً تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ» فَقُلْتُ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ مَاتَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ وَأَرَدْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ فَقَالَ لِي «بَارِكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ»