ذِكْرُ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللَّهِ الْأَنْصَارِيِّ ؓ

My father died and left seven or nine girls and I married a matron. Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me, "O Jabir! Have you married?" I said, "Yes." He said, "A virgin or a matron?" I replied, "A matron." he said, "Why not a virgin, so that you might play with her and she with you, and you might amuse her and she amuse you." I said, " ʿAbdullah (my father) died and left girls, and I dislike to marry a girl like them, so I married a lady (matron) so that she may look after them." On that he said, "May Allah bless you," or "That is good."  

هَلَكَ أَبِي وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قَالَ فَقُلْتُ لَهُ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ بَنَاتٍ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَتُصْلِحُهُنَّ فَقَالَ بَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ أَوْ قَالَ خَيْرًا  

My father died and left behind seven or nine daughters, and I married a woman. The Prophet ﷺ said, "Did you get married, O Jabir?" I replied, "Yes." He asked, "Is she a virgin or a matron?" I replied, "She is a matron." He said, "Why didn't you marry a virgin girl so that you might play with her and she with you (or, you might make her laugh and she make you laugh)?" I said, "My father died, leaving seven or nine girls (orphans) and I did not like to bring a young girl like them, so I married a woman who can look after them." He said, "May Allah bestow His Blessing on you."  

هَلَكَ أَبِي وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا قُلْتُ ثَيِّبًا قَالَ هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ أَوْ تُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قُلْتُ هَلَكَ أَبِي فَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ فَكَرِهْتُ أَنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ فَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكَ لَمْ يَقُلِ ابْنُ عُيَيْنَةَ وَمُحَمَّدُ بْنُ مُسْلِمٍ عَنْ عَمْرٍو بَارَكَ اللَّهُ عَلَيْكَ  

'Abdullah died and he left (behind him) nine or seven daughters. I married a woman who had been previously married. Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me: Jabir, have you married? I said: Yes. He (again) said: A virgin or one previously married? I said: Messenger of Allah, with one who was previously married, whereupon he said: Why didn't you marry a young girl so that you could sport with her and she could sport with you, or you could amuse with her and she could amuse with you? I said to him: 'Abdullah died (he fell as martyr in Uhud) and left nine or seven daughters behind him; I, therefore, did not approve of the idea that I should bring a (girl) like them, but I preferred to bring a woman who should look after them and teach them good manners, whereupon he (Messenger of Allah) said: May Allah bless you, or he supplicated (for the) good (to be) conferred on me (by Allah).  

أَنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ قَالَ سَبْعَ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ يَا جَابِرُ تَزَوَّجْتَ قَالَ قُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ فَبِكْرٌ أَمْ ثَيِّبٌ قَالَ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبٌ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَالَ فَهَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ أَوْ قَالَ تُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ قَالَ قُلْتُ لَهُ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ هَلَكَ وَتَرَكَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ سَبْعَ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ آتِيَهُنَّ أَوْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ أَجِيءَ بِامْرَأَةٍ تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ وَتُصْلِحُهُنَّ قَالَ فَبَارَكَ اللَّهُ لَكَ أَوْ قَالَ لِي خَيْرًا وَفِي رِوَايَةِ أَبِي الرَّبِيعِ تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ  

"I married a woman and went to the Prophet, he said: 'O Jabir! Have you married?' I said: 'Yes.' He said: 'A virgin or a matron?' I said: 'A matron.' He said: 'Why didn't you marry a young girl, so that you may play with her and she with you?' I said: 'O Messenger of Allah! Abdullah (his father) died and left behind seven - or nine - daughter, so I have brought someone who can look after them.'" (He said:) "So he supplicated for me."  

تَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً فَأَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فَقَالَ أَتَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ فَقَالَ بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيِّبًا فَقُلْتُ لاَ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ هَلاَّ جَارِيَةً تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ فَقُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللَّهِ مَاتَ وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ تِسْعًا فَجِئْتُ بِمَنْ يَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ قَالَ فَدَعَا لِي قَالَ وَفِي الْبَابِ عَنْ أُبَىِّ بْنِ كَعْبٍ وَكَعْبِ بْنِ عُجْرَةَ  

[Machine] "And Sulaiman and Musaddad converge in the wording, and the wording is for Sulaiman. They said: Thana Hammad ibn Zaid from Amr ibn Dinar from Jabir ibn Abdullah, and he said: Abdullah died and left seven or nine daughters. Jabir said: So, I married a widow. So, the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said to me: "Did you get married, O Jabir?" I said: Yes. He said: A virgin or a widow? I said: Rather, a widow, O Messenger of Allah. He said: Then why not marry a young girl whom you can play with, she can play with you, laugh with her, and she can laugh with you? I said: O Messenger of Allah, Abdullah died and left seven or he said nine daughters, and I disliked to marry them off to someone of their own age. So, I preferred to marry them off to a woman who can take care of them. So, he said: May Allah bless you or he said: Good for you."  

وَسُلَيْمَانُ وَمُسَدَّدٌ يَتَقَارَبُونَ فِي اللَّفْظِ وَاللَّفْظُ لِسُلَيْمَانَ قَالُوا ثنا حَمَّادُ بْنُ زَيْدٍ عَنْ عَمْرِو بْنِ دِينَارٍ عَنْ جَابِرِ بْنِ عَبْدِ اللهِ ؓ قَالَ تُوُفِّيَ عَبْدُ اللهِ وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ قَالَ جَابِرٌ فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا فَقَالَ لِي رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ؟ فَقُلْتُ نَعَمْ قَالَ بِكْرًا أَوْ ثَيِّبًا؟ قُلْتُ بَلْ ثَيِّبًا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ قَالَ فَهَلَّا جَارِيَةٌ تُلَاعِبُهَا وَتُلَاعِبُكَ وَتُضَاحِكُهَا وَتُضَاحِكُكَ؟ قُلْتُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنَّ عَبْدَ اللهِ تُوُفِّيَ وَتَرَكَ سَبْعَ بَنَاتٍ أَوْ قَالَ تِسْعَ بَنَاتٍ وَإِنِّي كَرِهْتُ أَنْ آتِيَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ فَأَحْبَبْتُ أَنْ آتِيَهُنَّ بِامْرَأَةٍ تَقُومُ عَلَيْهِنَّ فَقَالَ بَارَكَ اللهُ لَكَ أَوْ قَالَ خَيْرًا  

"عَنْ جَابِرٍ قَالَ: هَلَكَ أَبِى وَتَرَكَ سَبع بَنَات أوْ تِسْعًا، فَتَزَوَّجْتُ امْرَأَةً ثَيِّبًا، فَقَالَ لى رَسُولُ الله ﷺ : تَزَوَّجْتَ يَا جَابِرُ؟ قُلتُ: نَعَمْ، قَالَ: بِكْرًا أَمْ ثَيبًا؟ قُلتُ: ثَيِّبًا، قَالَ: فَهَلاًّ جَارِيَة تُلاَعِبُهَا وَتُلاَعِبُكَ؟ ! أوْ قَالَ: تُضَاجِعُهَا وَتُضَاجِعُكَ؟ ! فَقُلتُ: إِنَّ أَبِى مَاتَ وَتَرَكَ تِسع بَنَات أَوْ سَبْعًا، وَإنِّى كَرِهْتُ أنْ أَجِيئَهُنَّ بِمِثْلِهِنَّ، فَقَالَ: أحْسَنْتَ بَارَكَ الله فِيكَ، وَقَالَ لِى خِيْرًا".