ذِكْرُ اسْتِحْبَابِ الِاجْتِهَادِ لِلْمَرْأَةِ فِي قَضَاءِ حُقُوقِ زَوْجِهَا بِتَرْكِ الِامْتِنَاعِ عَلَيْهِ فِيمَا أَحَبَّ

Abdullah bin Abu Awfa said “When Muadh bin Jabal came from Sham, he prostrated to the Prophet who said: 'What is this, O Muadh?' He said: 'I went to Sham and saw them prostrating to their bishops and patricians and I wanted to do that for you.' The messenger of Allah said: 'Do not do that. If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone other than Allah, I would have commanded women to prostrate to their husbands. By the One in Whose Hand is the soul of Muhammad! No woman can fulfill her duty towards Allah until she fulfills her duty towards her husband. If he asks her (for intimacy) even if she is on her camel saddle, she should not refuse.' ” (Using translation from Ibn Mājah 1853)   

لَمَّا قَدِمَ مُعَاذُ بْنُ جَبَلٍ مِنَ الشَّامِ سَجَدَ لِرَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ «مَا هَذَا؟ » قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ قَدِمْتُ الشَّامَ فَرَأَيْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لِبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ وَأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ فَأَرَدْتُ أَنْ أَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ بِكَ قَالَ «فَلَا تَفْعَلْ فَإِنِّي لَوْ أَمَرْتُ شَيْئًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِشَيْءٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ»  

[Machine] "O Messenger of Allah, what do you think about the People of the Book prostrating to their bishops and rabbis? Shouldn't we prostrate to you instead?" He said, "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to another, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate to her husband. And the wife would not fulfill her husband's rights even if he asked her to do so while riding a camel, she would give it to him."  

يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَرَأَيْتَ أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ يَسْجُدُونَ لِأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ وَبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ؟ أَفَلَا نَسْجُدُ لَكَ؟ قَالَ «لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَلَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا عَلَى قَتَبٍ لَأَعْطَتْهُ»  

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , sent Mu'adh to Sham (Syria). When he arrived, Mu'adh said, "O Messenger of Allah, I have seen the People of the Book prostrating to their bishops and monks. Shouldn't we prostrate to you?" The Messenger of Allah, ﷺ , replied, "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to anyone else, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate to her husband. And a wife does not fulfill her husband's rights even if he asks her while she is on the back of a camel."  

بَعَثَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مُعَاذًا إِلَى الشَّامِ فَلَمَّا قَدِمَ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنِّي رَأَيْتُ أَهْلَ الْكِتَابِ يَسْجُدُونَ لِأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ وَبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ أَلَا نَسْجُدُ لَكَ؟ قَالَ «لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا وَلَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا عَلَى ظَهْرِ قَتَبٍ أَعْطَتْهُ»  

[Machine] To do that for the Prophet ﷺ , so when he arrived, he prostrated to the Prophet ﷺ and he objected to that. He said, "O Messenger of Allah, I entered Syria and found them prostrating to their bishops and patriarchs. So, I thought to myself that I should do the same for you." The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "If I were to command anyone to prostrate to another, I would have commanded the wife to prostrate to her husband. By the One in Whose Hand is my soul, a woman does not fulfill her Lord's right until she fulfills her husband's right in its entirety, even if he were to ask for her while she is on a saddle."  

أَنْ يَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ لِلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَلَمَّا قَدِمَ سَجَدَ لِلنَّبِيِّ ﷺ فَأَنْكَرَ ذَلِكَ قَالَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ إِنِّي دَخَلْتُ الشَّامَ فَوَجَدْتُهُمْ يَسْجُدُونَ لِبَطَارِقَتِهِمْ وَأَسَاقِفَتِهِمْ فَرَوَيْتُ فِي نَفْسِي أَنْ أَفْعَلَ ذَلِكَ لَكَ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أَنْ يَسْجُدَ لِأَحَدٍ لَأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأَةَ أَنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا فَوَالَّذِي نَفْسِي بِيَدِهِ لَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأَةُ حَقَّ رَبِّهَا ﷻ حَتَّى تُؤَدِّيَ حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا كُلَّهُ حَتَّى أَنْ لَوْ سَأَلَهَا نَفْسَهَا وَهِيَ عَلَى قَتَبٍ أَعْطَتْهُ أَوْ قَالَ لَمْ تَمْنَعْهُ  

"لَوْ كُنْتُ آمِرًا أَحَدًا أنْ يَسْجُدَ لِغَير الله لأَمَرْتُ الْمَرْأةَ أنْ تَسْجُدَ لِزَوْجِهَا، وَالَّذِى نَفْسُ مُحَمَّدٍ بِيَدِهِ لَا تُؤَدِّي الْمَرْأةُ حَقَّ رَبِّها حَتَّى تُؤَدِّى حَقَّ زَوْجِهَا حَتَّى لَوْ سَأَلَهَا عَلَى ظَهْر قَتبٍ أَعْطَتْهُ".