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nasai-kubra:7756Muḥammad b. Bashhār > ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Sufyān > Muḥammad b. al-Munkadir > Umaymah b. Ruqayqah

[Machine] I came to the Prophet ﷺ regarding women we were selling, so the Prophet ﷺ took an oath from us, "You should not associate anything with Allah" (Al-Mumtahanah 12). The verse says, "To the best of your ability." We said, "O Messenger of Allah ﷺ, aren't you more merciful to us than ourselves?" We said, "O Messenger of Allah, don't you shake hands with us?" He said, "I do not shake hands with women. My saying to one woman is like saying it to a hundred women."  

الكبرى للنسائي:٧٧٥٦أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ أُمَيْمَةَ بِنْتِ رُقَيْقَةَ قَالَتْ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فِي نِسَاءٍ نُبَايِعُهُ فَأَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ {أَنْ لَا يُشْرِكْنَ بِاللهِ} [الممتحنة 12] الْآيَةُ قَالَ «فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ أَطَقْتُنَّ» قُلْنَا رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ أَرْحَمُ بِنَا مِنْ أَنْفُسِنَا قُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَلَا تُصَافِحُنَا؟ قَالَ «إِنِّي لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ مَا قَوْلِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ إِلَّا كَقَوْلِي لَمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ»  


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Collected by Nasāʾī, Aḥmad, Ṭabarānī, Bayhaqī
nasai:4181Muḥammad b. Bashhār > ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Sufyān > Muḥammad b. al-Munkadir > Umaymah b. Ruqayqah

"I came to the Prophet with some other Ansari women to give our pledge. We said: 'O Messenger of Allah, we give you our pledge that we will not associate anything with Allah, we will not steal, we will not have unlawful sexual relations, we will not utter slander, fabricating from between our hands and feet, and we will not disobey you in goodness.' He said: 'As much as you can and are able.' We said: 'Allah and His Messenger are more merciful toward us. Com, let us give you our pledge, O Messenger of Allah! The Messenger of Allah said: 'I do not shake hands with women. Rather my word to a hundred women is like my word to one woman."'  

النسائي:٤١٨١أَخْبَرَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ أُمَيْمَةَ بِنْتِ رُقَيْقَةَ

أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فِي نِسْوَةٍ مِنَ الأَنْصَارِ نُبَايِعُهُ فَقُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ نُبَايِعُكَ عَلَى أَنْ لاَ نُشْرِكَ بِاللَّهِ شَيْئًا وَلاَ نَسْرِقَ وَلاَ نَزْنِيَ وَلاَ نَأْتِيَ بِبُهْتَانٍ نَفْتَرِيهِ بَيْنَ أَيْدِينَا وَأَرْجُلِنَا وَلاَ نَعْصِيَكَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ قَالَ فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ وَأَطَقْتُنَّ قَالَتْ قُلْنَا اللَّهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَرْحَمُ بِنَا هَلُمَّ نُبَايِعْكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِنِّي لاَ أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ إِنَّمَا قَوْلِي لِمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ كَقَوْلِي لاِمْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ أَوْ مِثْلِ قَوْلِي لاِمْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ  

ahmad:27009ʿAbd al-Raḥman b. Mahdī > Sufyān > Muḥammad / Ibn al-Munkadir > Umaymah b. Ruqayqah

[Machine] "I came to the Prophet ﷺ about women whom we marry. He mentioned to us what is in the Quran, that we should not associate anything with Allah. We said, 'Allah and His Messenger are more merciful to us than ourselves.' We said, 'O Messenger of Allah, won't you shake hands with us?' He replied, 'I do not shake hands with women. My words to a woman are like my words to a hundred women.'"  

أحمد:٢٧٠٠٩حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الرَّحْمَنِ بْنُ مَهْدِيٍّ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ مُحَمَّدٍ يَعْنِي ابْنَ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ أُمَيْمَةَ بِنْتِ رُقَيْقَةَ قَالَتْ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فِي نِسَاءٍ نُبَايِعُهُ فَأَخَذَ عَلَيْنَا مَا فِي الْقُرْآنِ أَنْ لَا نُشْرِكَ بِاللهِ شَيْئًا الْآيَةَ قَالَ فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ وَأَطَقْتُنَّ قُلْنَا اللهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَرْحَمُ بِنَا مِنْ أَنْفُسِنَا قُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ أَلَا تُصَافِحُنَا؟ قَالَ إِنِّي لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ إِنَّمَا قَوْلِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ كَقَوْلِي لِمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ  

tabarani:20938[Chain 1] Bishr b. Mūsá > al-Ḥumaydī > Sufyān [Chain 2] Abū Muslim al-Kashhī > Ibrāhīm b. Bashhār al-Ramādī > Sufyān > Muḥammad b. al-Munkadir > Umaymah b. Ruqayqah

[Machine] I came to the Prophet ﷺ regarding women, and he said, "Take the pledge not to associate anything with Allah, not to steal, and not to commit adultery." Then he said, "To the best of your ability and within your means." We said, "May Allah and His Messenger be kinder to us than ourselves." We said, "O Messenger of Allah, give us your pledge." He said, "I do not shake hands with women. My statement to a hundred women is the same as my statement to one woman."  

الطبراني:٢٠٩٣٨حَدَّثَنَا بِشْرُ بْنُ مُوسَى ثنا الْحُمَيْدِيُّ ثنا سُفْيَانُ ح وَحَدَّثَنَا أَبُو مُسْلِمٍ الْكَشِّيُّ ثنا إِبْرَاهِيمُ بْنُ بَشَّارٍ الرَّمَادِيُّ ثنا سُفْيَانُ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ أُمَيْمَةَ بِنْتِ رُقَيْقَةَ قَالَتْ

أَتَيْتُ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ فِي نِسَاءٍ فَقَالَ «تُبَايِعْنَ عَلَى أَنْ لَا تُشْرِكْنَ بِاللهِ شَيْئًا وَلَا تَسْرِقْنَ وَلَا تَزْنِينَ» الْآيَةُ ثُمَّ قَالَ «فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ وَأَطَقْتُنَّ» قُلْنَا اللهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَرْحَمُ بِنَا مِنْ أَنْفُسِنَا قُلْنَا يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ بَايِعْنَا قَالَ «لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ إِنَّمَا قَوْلِي لِمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ مِنْكُنَّ كَقَوْلِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ»  

bayhaqi:16568Abū Aḥmad ʿAbdullāh b. Muḥammad b. al-Ḥasan al-ʿAdl > Abū Bakr Muḥammad b. Jaʿfar al-Muzakkī > Muḥammad b. Ibrāhīm al-ʿAbdī > Ibn Bukayr > Mālik > Muḥammad b. al-Munkadir > Umaymah b. Ruqayqah

"I came to the Prophet with some other Ansari women to give our pledge. We said: 'O Messenger of Allah, we give you our pledge that we will not associate anything with Allah, we will not steal, we will not have unlawful sexual relations, we will not utter slander, fabricating from between our hands and feet, and we will not disobey you in goodness.' He said: 'As much as you can and are able.' We said: 'Allah and His Messenger are more merciful toward us. Com, let us give you our pledge, O Messenger of Allah! The Messenger of Allah said: 'I do not shake hands with women. Rather my word to a hundred women is like my word to one woman."' (Using translation from Nasāʾī 4181)   

البيهقي:١٦٥٦٨أَخْبَرَنَا أَبُو أَحْمَدَ عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْحَسَنِ الْعَدْلُ أَنْبَأَ أَبُو بَكْرٍ مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ جَعْفَرٍ الْمُزَكِّي ثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ إِبْرَاهِيمَ الْعَبْدِيُّ ثَنَا ابْنُ بُكَيْرٍ ثَنَا مَالِكٌ عَنْ مُحَمَّدِ بْنِ الْمُنْكَدِرِ عَنْ أُمَيْمَةَ بِنْتِ رُقَيْقَةَ

أَنَّهَا قَالَتْ أَتَيْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ فِي نِسْوَةٍ نُبَايِعُهُ فَقُلْنَا نُبَايِعُكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ عَلَى أَنْ لَا نُشْرِكَ بِاللهِ شَيْئًا وَلَا نَسْرِقَ وَلَا نَزْنِيَ وَلَا نَقْتُلَ أَوْلَادَنَا وَلَا نَأْتِيَ بِبُهْتَانٍ نَفْتَرِيهِ بَيْنَ أَيْدِينَا وَأَرْجُلِنَا وَلَا نَعْصِيَكَ فِي مَعْرُوفٍ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ فِيمَا اسْتَطَعْتُنَّ وَأَطَقْتُنَّ قَالَتْ فَقُلْنَا اللهُ وَرَسُولُهُ أَرْحَمُ بِنَا مِنْ أَنْفُسِنَا هَلُمَّ نُبَايِعْكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ فَقَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ إِنِّي لَا أُصَافِحُ النِّسَاءَ إِنَّمَا قَوْلِي لِمِائَةِ امْرَأَةٍ كَقَوْلِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ أَوْ مِثْلُ قُولِي لِامْرَأَةٍ وَاحِدَةٍ