خَالِدُ بْنُ مَيْسَرَةَ، عَنْ مُعَاوِيَةَ بْنِ قُرَّةَ

"When the Prophet of Allah sat, some of his Companions would sit with him. Among them was a man who had a little son who used to come to him from behind, and he would make him sit in front of him. He (the child) died, and the man stopped attending the circle because it reminded him of his son, and made him feel sad. The Prophet missed him and said: 'Why do I not see so-and-so?' They said: O Messenger of Allah, his son whom you saw has died.' The Prophet met him and asked him about his son, and he told him that he had died. He offered his condolences and said: 'O son-and-so, which would you like better, to enjoy his company all you life, or to come to any of the gates of Paradise on the Day of Resurrection, and find that he arrived there before you, and he is opening the gate for you?' he said: 'O Prophet of Allah! For him to get to the gate of Paradise before me and open it for me is dearer to me.' He said: 'You will have that."'  

كَانَ نَبِيُّ اللَّهِ ﷺ إِذَا جَلَسَ يَجْلِسُ إِلَيْهِ نَفَرٌ مِنْ أَصْحَابِهِ وَفِيهِمْ رَجُلٌ لَهُ ابْنٌ صَغِيرٌ يَأْتِيهِ مِنْ خَلْفِ ظَهْرِهِ فَيُقْعِدُهُ بَيْنَ يَدَيْهِ فَهَلَكَ فَامْتَنَعَ الرَّجُلُ أَنْ يَحْضُرَ الْحَلْقَةَ لِذِكْرِ ابْنِهِ فَحَزِنَ عَلَيْهِ فَفَقَدَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَقَالَ مَا لِي لاَ أَرَى فُلاَنًا قَالُوا يَا رَسُولَ اللَّهِ بُنَيَّهُ الَّذِي رَأَيْتَهُ هَلَكَ فَلَقِيَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَسَأَلَهُ عَنْ بُنَيِّهِ فَأَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّهُ هَلَكَ فَعَزَّاهُ عَلَيْهِ ثُمَّ قَالَ يَا فُلاَنُ أَيُّمَا كَانَ أَحَبُّ إِلَيْكَ أَنْ تَمَتَّعَ بِهِ عُمْرَكَ أَوْ لاَ تَأْتِي غَدًا إِلَى بَابٍ مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ إِلاَّ وَجَدْتَهُ قَدْ سَبَقَكَ إِلَيْهِ يَفْتَحُهُ لَكَ قَالَ يَا نَبِيَّ اللَّهِ بَلْ يَسْبِقُنِي إِلَى بَابِ الْجَنَّةِ فَيَفْتَحُهَا لِي لَهُوَ أَحَبُّ إِلَىَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ لَكَ  

[Machine] "His father recited the following hadith in a story about a man who had young sons. They used to come to the Prophet ﷺ and one of his sons died. The man was so sad that he did not attend the gathering. When the Prophet ﷺ met him, he asked him about his son, and the man informed him that he had passed away. The Prophet ﷺ then consoled him, saying, 'O so-and-so, which one would you prefer: to have him with you throughout your entire life or that whenever you enter a gate of paradise, you find him waiting for you and opening it for you?' The man replied, 'The Prophet of Allah, I would prefer him to precede me to the gates of paradise.' The Prophet ﷺ said, 'Then that shall be for you.' At that moment, a man from the Ansar stood up and asked the Prophet ﷺ , 'O Prophet of Allah, may I be sacrificed for you! Is this specific to him or is it for anyone who loses a child among the Muslims?' The Prophet ﷺ replied, 'No, rather it is for anyone who loses a child among the Muslims. It will be as if that child is for him.'"  

عَنْ أَبِيهِ وَذَكَرَ الْحَدِيثَ فِي قِصَّةِ رَجُلٍ لَهُ بُنَيٌّ صَغِيرٌ يَأْتِيَانِ النَّبِيَّ ﷺ وَأَنَّ بُنَيَّهُ هَلَكَ فَمَنَعَهُ الْحُزْنُ عَلَيْهِ أَنْ يَحْضُرَ الْحَلْقَةَ فَلَقِيَهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَسَأَلَهُ عَنِ ابْنِهِ فَأَخْبَرَهُ أَنَّهُ هَلَكَ قَالَ فَعَزَّاهُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ فَقَالَ يَا فُلَانُ أَيُّمَا كَانَ أَحَبَّ إِلَيْكَ أَنْ تُمَتِّعَ بِهِ عُمُرَكَ؟ أَوَ لَا تَأْتِي غَدًا بَابًا مِنْ أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ إِلَّا وَجَدْتَهُ قَدْ سَبَقَكَ إِلَيْهِ فَفَتَحَهُ لَكَ؟ قَالَ فَقَالَ يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ لَا بَلْ يَسْبِقُنِي إِلَى أَبْوَابِ الْجَنَّةِ أَحَبُّ إِلَيَّ قَالَ فَذَاكَ لَكَ قَالَ فَقَامَ رَجُلٌ مِنَ الْأَنْصَارِ قَالَ فَقَالَ يَا نَبِيَّ اللهِ جَعَلَنِي اللهُ فِدَاءَكَ أَهَذَا لِهَذَا خَاصَّةً أَوْ مَنْ هَلَكَ لَهُ طِفْلٌ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ كَانَ ذَلِكَ لَهُ؟ قَالَ لَا بَلْ مَنْ هَلَكَ لَهُ طِفْلٌ مِنَ الْمُسْلِمِينَ كَأَنَّ ذَلِكَ لَهُ