TABARANI 3091:
from Ḥakīm b. Ḥizām —
[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and one should start with those who are dependent on him. The best charity is that which is given while one is self-sufficient, and whoever seeks chastity, Allah will assist him with it, and whoever seeks self-sufficiency, Allah will make him self-sufficient."
الطبراني ٣٠٩١:
عن حكيم بن حزام —
قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللهُ ﷻ»
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