45. The Book of Virtue, Enjoining Good Manners, and Joining of the Ties of Kinship

٤٥۔ كتاب البر والصلة والآداب

45.30 The Virtue Of One Who Controls Himself At Times Of Anger, And What Takes Away Anger

٤٥۔٣٠ باب فَضْلِ مَنْ يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ وَبِأَىِّ شَىْءٍ يَذْهَبُ الْغَضَبُ

True strength is in self-control

(1676) bukhari:6114ʿAbdullāh b. Yūsuf > Mālik > Ibn Shihāb > Saʿīd b. al-Musayyab > Abū Hurayrah

the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The strong is not the one who overcomes the people by his strength, but the strong is the one who controls himself while in anger."  

(١٦٧٦) البخاري:٦١١٤حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللَّهِ بْنُ يُوسُفَ أَخْبَرَنَا مَالِكٌ عَنِ ابْنِ شِهَابٍ عَنْ سَعِيدِ بْنِ الْمُسَيَّبِ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ: «لَيْسَ الشَّدِيدُ بِالصُّرَعَةِ إِنَّمَا الشَّدِيدُ الَّذِي يَمْلِكُ نَفْسَهُ عِنْدَ الْغَضَبِ۔»  

(1677) bukhari:6115ʿUthmān b. Abū Shaybah > Jarīr > al-Aʿmash > ʿAdī b. Thābit > Sulaymān b. Ṣurad

Two men abused each other in front of the Prophet ﷺ while we were sitting with him. One of the two abused his companion furiously and his face became red. The Prophet ﷺ said, "I know a word (sentence) the saying of which will cause him to relax if this man says it. Only if he said, "I seek refuge with Allah from Satan, the outcast.' " So they said to that (furious) man, 'Don't you hear what the Prophet ﷺ is saying?" He said, "I am not mad."  

(١٦٧٧) البخاري:٦١١٥حَدَّثَنَا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ حَدَّثَنَا جَرِيرٌ عَنِ الأَعْمَشِ عَنْ عَدِيِّ بْنِ ثَابِتٍ حَدَّثَنَا سُلَيْمَانُ بْنُ صُرَدٍ قَالَ

اسْتَبَّ رَجُلاَنِ عِنْدَ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ وَنَحْنُ عِنْدَهُ جُلُوسٌ وَأَحَدُهُمَا يَسُبُّ صَاحِبَهُ مُغْضَبًا قَدِ احْمَرَّ وَجْهُهُ فَقَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ إِنِّي لأَعْلَمُ كَلِمَةً لَوْ قَالَهَا لَذَهَبَ عَنْهُ مَا يَجِدُ لَوْ قَالَ أَعُوذُ بِاللَّهِ مِنَ الشَّيْطَانِ الرَّجِيمِ فَقَالُوا لِلرَّجُلِ أَلاَ تَسْمَعُ مَا يَقُولُ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ قَالَ إِنِّي لَسْتُ بِمَجْنُونٍ