"Umar bin Al-Khattab said: 'Do not go to extremes with regard to the dowries of women, for if that were a sign of honor and dignity in this world, or a sign of piety before Allah, the Mighty and Sublime, then Muhammad would have done that before you. But he did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, more than twelve Uqiyyah. A man may increase the dowry until he feels resentment against her and says: You cost me everything I own ('Alaqul-Qirbah)'" "And I was a man born among the 'Arabs, but I did not know the meaning of 'Alaqul-Qirbah' and others of you are saying -about those killed in this or that battle of yours, or who died: 'So-and-so was martyred' or 'so and so died as a martyr.' While perhaps he merely overloaded the backside of his beast, or lined his saddle with gold or silver seeking trade. So do not say that, rather say as the Prophet said: 'Whoever is killed in the cause of Allah, or dies, then he is in Paradise.'"  

عُمَرُ بْنُ الْخَطَّابِ أَلاَ لاَ تَغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّهُ لَوْ كَانَ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوَى عِنْدَ اللَّهِ ﷻ كَانَ أَوْلاَكُمْ بِهِ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ مَا أَصْدَقَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ وَلاَ أُصْدِقَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ ثِنْتَىْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُغْلِي بِصَدُقَةِ امْرَأَتِهِ حَتَّى يَكُونَ لَهَا عَدَاوَةٌ فِي نَفْسِهِ وَحَتَّى يَقُولَ كُلِّفْتُ لَكُمْ عَلَقَ الْقِرْبَةِ وَكُنْتُ غُلاَمًا عَرَبِيًّا مُوَلَّدًا فَلَمْ أَدْرِ مَا عَلَقُ الْقِرْبَةِ قَالَ وَأُخْرَى يَقُولُونَهَا لِمَنْ قُتِلَ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ أَوْ مَاتَ قُتِلَ فُلاَنٌ شَهِيدًا أَوْ مَاتَ فُلاَنٌ شَهِيدًا وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ عَجُزَ دَابَّتِهِ أَوْ دَفَّ رَاحِلَتِهِ ذَهَبًا أَوْ وَرِقًا يَطْلُبُ التِّجَارَةَ فَلاَ تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ أَوْ مَاتَ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ  

[Machine] "Do not belittle the friendship of women, for if it were a valuable thing in this world or in the sight of Allah, then Muhammad ﷺ would be the most truthful person in terms of his women and daughters. And no woman from his women or daughters would exceed twelve ounces of it. And if you mention someone who was killed in your battles as a martyr, do not say that so-and-so died as a martyr, but say as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said or as Muhammad ﷺ said: 'Whoever is killed in the cause of Allah or died in the cause of Allah, he is in Paradise."  

أَلَا لَا تَغْلُوا صَدَاقَ النِّسَاءِ فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوَى عِنْدَ اللَّهِ لَكَانَ أَوْلَاكُمْ وَأَحَقُّكُمْ بِهَا مُحَمَّدًا ﷺ مَا أَصْدَقَ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ وَلَا امْرَأَةً مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنِ اثْنَتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً وَأُخْرَى تَقُولُونَهَا مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ مَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكَ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللَّهِ ﷺ أَوْ كَمَا قَالَ مُحَمَّدٌ ﷺ «مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ أَوْ مَاتَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللَّهِ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ»  

[Machine] "And others of you say for those who are killed in your wars or if someone dies, 'So-and-so is a martyr,' as if he had distributed his belongings in charity, with sincere intention, or said, 'For the sake of trade.' Do not say that, but say as the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, 'Whoever is killed in the cause of Allah or dies, then he is in Paradise.'"  

وَأُخْرَى تَقُولُونَهَا لِمَنْ قُتِلَ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ هَذِهِ أَوْ مَاتَ قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا وَلَعَلَّهُ أَنْ يَكُونَ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ دَفَّتَيْ رَاحِلَتِهِ ذَهَبًا أَوْ وَرِقًا يَبْتَغِي بِهِ الدُّنْيَا أَوْ قَالَ التِّجَارَةَ فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَاكُمْ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ أَوْ مَاتَ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ  

[Machine] "And another saying that you say to those who were killed in your battles: 'So and so was killed as a martyr, and so and so died as a martyr.' And perhaps he had only embraced something insignificant like a piece of gold or a piece of paper, seeking worldly gains or engaging in trade. So do not say that, but say what the Prophet ﷺ said: 'Whoever is killed in the cause of Allah, or dies, then they are in Paradise.'"  

وَأُخْرَى تَقُولُونَهَا لِمَنْ قُتِلَ فِي مَغَازِيكُمْ هَذِهِ قُتِلَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا وَمَاتَ فُلَانٌ شَهِيدًا وَلَعَلَّهُ يَكُونُ قَدْ أَوْقَرَ دَفَّتَيْ رَاحِلَتِهِ ذَهَبًا أَوْ وَرِقًا يَبْتَغِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ قَالَ التِّجَارَةَ فَلَا تَقُولُوا ذَلِكُمْ وَلَكِنْ قُولُوا كَمَا قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ مَنْ قُتِلَ فِي سَبِيلِ اللهِ أَوْ مَاتَ فَهُوَ فِي الْجَنَّةِ