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ahmad:15578 – Ibn Numayr > Hishām b. ʿUrwah from his father > Ḥakīm b. Ḥizām

[Machine] I heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and let one of you start with those he is responsible for. The best charity is that which is given when one is still self-sufficient. Whoever seeks self-sufficiency, Allah will enrich him, and whoever seeks chastity, Allah will keep him chaste." So I said, "And who is it from you, O Messenger of Allah?" He said, "From me." I said, "May my hand never be beneath the hand of an Arab man."  

أحمد:١٥٥٧٨ – حَدَّثَنَا ابْنُ نُمَيْرٍ أَخْبَرَنَا هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامٍ قَالَ

سَمِعْتُ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللهُ وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ فَقُلْتُ وَمِنْكَ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ؟ قَالَ وَمِنِّي قَالَ حَكِيمٌ قُلْتُ لَا تَكُونُ يَدِي تَحْتَ يَدِ رَجُلٍ مِنَ الْعَرَبِ أَبَدًا  

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Collected by Ibn Ḥibbān, Ṭabarānī

ذِكْرُ الْبَيَانِ بِأَنَّ الْيَدَ الْمُعْطِيَةَ أَفْضَلُ مِنَ الْيَدِ السَّائِلَةِ

ibnhibban:3363 – Zakariyyā b. Yaḥyá b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman al-Sājī Bi-al-Baṣrah > ʿAbd al-Wāḥid b. Ghiyāth > Ḥammād b. Salamah > ʿĀṣim b. Bahdalah > Abū Ṣāliḥ > Abū Hurayrah

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The best charity is what is given while one is self-sufficient, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand. Let one of you start with those who depend on him. His wife will say, 'Spend on me,' and his mother will say, 'To whom will you entrust me?' And his servant will say, 'Feed me and give me employment.'"  

ابن حبّان:٣٣٦٣ – أَخْبَرَنَا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ يَحْيَى بْنِ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ السَّاجِيُّ بِالْبَصْرَةِ حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْوَاحِدِ بْنُ غِيَاثٍ حَدَّثَنَا حَمَّادُ بْنُ سَلَمَةَ عَنْ عَاصِمِ بْنِ بَهْدَلَةَ عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

أَنَّ رَسُولَ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ «خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ تَقُولُ امْرَأَتُهُ أَنْفِقْ عَلَيَّ وَتَقُولُ أُمُّ وَلَدِهِ إِلَى مَنْ تَكِلُنِي؟ وَيَقُولُ لَهُ عَبْدُهُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي»  

tabarani:3091 – al-Ḥusayn b. Isḥāq al-Tustarī > ʿUthmān b. Abū Shaybah > ʿAbdah b. Sulaymān > Hishām b. ʿUrwah from his father > Ḥakīm b. Ḥizām

[Machine] The Messenger of Allah ﷺ said, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and one should start with those who are dependent on him. The best charity is that which is given while one is self-sufficient, and whoever seeks chastity, Allah will assist him with it, and whoever seeks self-sufficiency, Allah will make him self-sufficient."  

الطبراني:٣٠٩١ – حَدَّثَنَا الْحُسَيْنُ بْنُ إِسْحَاقَ التُّسْتَرِيُّ ثنا عُثْمَانُ بْنُ أَبِي شَيْبَةَ ثنا عَبْدَةُ بْنُ سُلَيْمَانَ عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامٍ قَالَ

قَالَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ «الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللهُ ﷻ»  

tabarani:3092 – Zakariyyā b. Yaḥyá al-Sājy > Aḥmad b. Saʿīd al-Hamdānī > Ibn Wahb > Saʿīd b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman al-Jumaḥī Wayaḥyá b. ʿAbdullāh b. Sālim > Hishām b. ʿUrwah from his father > Ḥakīm b. Ḥizām

[Machine] He heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ saying, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and let one of you begin with the person he provides for. The best charity is that which is given in a state of wealth, and whoever refrains, Allah will make him abstain, and whoever seeks sufficiency, Allah will make him self-sufficient."  

الطبراني:٣٠٩٢ – حَدَّثَنَا زَكَرِيَّا بْنُ يَحْيَى السَّاجيُّ ثنا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ سَعِيدٍ الْهَمْدَانِيُّ ثنا ابْنُ وَهْبٍ أَخْبَرَنِي سَعِيدُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ الْجُمَحِيُّ وَيَحْيَى بْنُ عَبْدِ اللهِ بْنِ سَالِمٍ عَنْ هِشَامِ بْنِ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامٍ

أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ وَمَنْ يَسْتَغْنِ يُغْنِهِ اللهُ ﷻ»  

tabarani:3093 – Ismāʿīl b. al-Ḥasan al-Khaffāf al-Miṣrī > Aḥmad b. Ṣāliḥ > Anas b. ʿIyāḍ > Hishām b. ʿUrwah from his father > Ḥakīm b. Ḥizām b. Khūwaylid

[Machine] He heard the Messenger of Allah ﷺ say, "The upper hand is better than the lower hand, and one of you should start with those who depend on him. The best charity is giving from what is sufficient, and the person who refrains from asking, Allah will make him self-sufficient, and the one who is self-sufficient, Allah will make him rich."  

الطبراني:٣٠٩٣ – حَدَّثَنَا إِسْمَاعِيلُ بْنُ الْحَسَنِ الْخَفَّافُ الْمِصْرِيُّ حَدَّثَنَا أَحْمَدُ بْنُ صَالِحٍ قَالَ قَرَأْتُ عَلَى أَنَسِ بْنِ عِيَاضٍ حَدَّثَنِي هِشَامُ بْنُ عُرْوَةَ عَنْ أَبِيهِ عَنْ حَكِيمِ بْنِ حِزَامِ بْنِ خُوَيْلِدٍ

أَنَّهُ سَمِعَ رَسُولَ اللهِ ﷺ يَقُولُ «الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَلْيَبْدَأْ أَحَدُكُمْ بِمَنْ يَعُولُ وَخَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَمَنْ يَسْتَعْفِفْ يُعِفَّهُ اللهُ وَمَنِ اسْتَغْنَى أَغْنَاهُ اللهُ»