AHMAD 285:
from Abū al-ʿAjfāʾ al-Sulamī Qālasamiʿt ʿUmar —
I heard ‘Umar say: Do not make womenʿs dowries expensive, do not make womenʿs dowries expensive, for had this been a sign of honour in this world or piety before Allah, the first one of you to do it would have been the Prophet ﷺ. The Messenger of Allah ﷺ did not give any of his wives, and none of his daughters were given, any more than twelve Oasiyyahs [as a dowry. And a man will go to great trouble in order to offer a high dowry to his wife. On one occasion he said: A man would pay his wife a high dowry until he feels resentment towards her and says: You cost me everything I own, even the string to tie a waterskin and hang it up. He [the narrator] said: I was a young Arab boy with a non-Arab mother, and I did not know what a ʿstringʿ was. ʿUmar said: And another thing you say of one who is killed in your campaigns and dies that so and so was killed as a martyr, and o and so died as a martyr. But perhaps he loaded the back of his mount with gold and silver for the purpose of trading. So do not say that, rather say what the Prophet ﷺ (or what Muhammad) ﷺ said: “Whoever is killed or dies for the sake of Allah will be in Paradise.ʿ
أحمد ٢٨٥:
عن ابو العجفاء السلمي قالسمعت عمر —
قَالَسَمِعْتُ عُمَرَ يَقُولُ أَلا لَا تُغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ أَلا لَا تُغْلُوا صُدُقَ النِّسَاءِ قَالَ فَإِنَّهَا لَوْ كَانَتْ مَكْرُمَةً فِي الدُّنْيَا أَوْ تَقْوَى عِنْدَ اللهِ كَانَ أَوْلاكُمْ بِهَا النَّبِيُّ ﷺ مَا أَصْدَقَ رَسُولُ اللهِ ﷺ امْرَأَةً مِنْ نِسَائِهِ وَلا أُصْدِقَتِ امْرَأَةٌ مِنْ بَنَاتِهِ أَكْثَرَ مِنْ ثِنْتَيْ عَشْرَةَ أُوقِيَّةً وَإِنَّ الرَّجُلَ لَيُبْتَلَى
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