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nasai-kubra:9166ʿImrān b. Bakkār > al-Rabīʿ b. Rawḥ > Mughīrah b. ʿAbd al-Raḥman > Muḥammad b. ʿAjlān > Zayd b. Aslam > Abū Ṣāliḥ > Abū Hurayrah

[Machine] Narrated by Prophet Mohammed (PBUH): "The upper hand is better than the lower hand and start with those who depend on you." Zaid asked Abu Hurairah, "Who are those who depend on you, O Abu Hurairah?" Abu Hurairah replied, "Your wife says, 'Spend on me or divorce me,' and your servant says, 'Feed me and employ me,' and your son says, 'To whom will you leave me?'"  

الكبرى للنسائي:٩١٦٦أَخْبَرَنِي عِمْرَانُ بْنُ بَكَّارٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا الرَّبِيعُ بْنُ رَوْحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُغِيرَةُ بْنُ عَبْدِ الرَّحْمَنِ قَالَ حَدَّثَنَا مُحَمَّدُ بْنُ عَجْلَانَ عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَسْلَمَ عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ «الْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ» قَالَ زَيْدٌ فَسُئِلَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ مَنْ تَعُولُ يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ؟ قَالَ امْرَأَتُكَ تَقُولُ أَنْفِقْ عَلَيَّ أَوْ طَلِّقْنِي وَعَبْدُكَ يَقُولُ «أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي» وَابْنُكَ يَقُولُ «إِلَى مَنْ تَذَرُنِي»  


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bukhari:5355ʿUmar b. Ḥafṣ from my father > al-Aʿmash > Abū Ṣāliḥ > Abū Hurayrah

"The Prophet ﷺ said, 'The best alms is that which is given when one is rich, and a giving hand is better than a taking one, and you should start first to support your dependents.' A wife says, 'You should either provide me with food or divorce me.' A slave says, 'Give me food and enjoy my service." A son says, "Give me food; to whom do you leave me?" The people said, "O Abu Huraira! Did you hear that from Messenger of Allah ﷺ ?" He said, "No, it is from my own self."  

البخاري:٥٣٥٥حَدَّثَنَا عُمَرُ بْنُ حَفْصٍ حَدَّثَنَا أَبِي حَدَّثَنَا الأَعْمَشُ حَدَّثَنَا أَبُو صَالِحٍ قَالَ حَدَّثَنِي أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ ؓ قَالَ

قَالَ النَّبِيُّ ﷺ أَفْضَلُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا تَرَكَ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ تَقُولُ الْمَرْأَةُ إِمَّا أَنْ تُطْعِمَنِي وَإِمَّا أَنْ تُطَلِّقَنِي وَيَقُولُ الْعَبْدُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي وَيَقُولُ الاِبْنُ أَطْعِمْنِي إِلَى مَنْ تَدَعُنِي فَقَالُوا يَا أَبَا هُرَيْرَةَ سَمِعْتَ هَذَا مِنْ رَسُولِ اللَّهِ ﷺ قَالَ لاَ هَذَا مِنْ كِيسِ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ  

ahmad:10785ʿAbd al-Malik b. ʿAmr > Hishām > Zayd > Abū Ṣāliḥ > Abū Hurayrah

[Machine] The Prophet ﷺ said: "The best charity is what is given when one is wealthy, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand. Begin with those whom you are responsible for." Abu Hurairah was asked, "Who are those you are responsible for?" He replied, "Your wife might say, 'Feed me, or spend on me if you have doubt, for Abu 'Amir is my rival.' And your servant might say, 'Feed me and employ me.' And your daughter might ask, 'To whom will you leave me?'"  

أحمد:١٠٧٨٥حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ الْمَلِكِ بْنُ عَمْرٍو حَدَّثَنَا هِشَامٌ عَنْ زَيْدٍ عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ قَالَ خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ قَالَ سُئِلَ أَبُو هُرَيْرَةَ مَا مَنْ تَعُولُ؟ قَالَ امْرَأَتُكَ تَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي أَوْ أَنْفِقْ عَلَيَّ شَكَّ أَبُو عَامِرٍ أَوْ طَلِّقْنِي وَخَادِمُكَ يَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي وَابْنَتُكَ تَقُولُ إِلَى مَنْ تَذَرُنِي؟  

ahmad:10818ʿAbdullāh b. Yazīd > Saʿīd > Ibn ʿAjlān > Zayd b. Aslam > Abū Ṣāliḥ > Abū Hurayrah

[Machine] "Narrated by the Prophet ﷺ that he said, 'The best charity is that which is given when one is wealthy, and the upper hand is better than the lower hand. Start with those whom you are obliged to provide for.' It was said, 'Who are those whom we are obliged to provide for, O Messenger of Allah?' He said, 'Your wife, from whom you take obedience (i.e., fulfill her rights) saying, 'Feed me, otherwise divorce me.' Your neighbor said, 'Feed me and employ me.' And your child said, 'To whom will you leave me?'"  

أحمد:١٠٨١٨حَدَّثَنَا عَبْدُ اللهِ بْنُ يَزِيدَ حَدَّثَنَا سَعِيدٌ حَدَّثَنِي ابْنُ عَجْلَانَ عَنْ زَيْدِ بْنِ أَسْلَمَ عَنْ أَبِي صَالِحٍ عَنْ أَبِي هُرَيْرَةَ

عَنِ النَّبِيِّ ﷺ أَنَّهُ قَالَ خَيْرُ الصَّدَقَةِ مَا كَانَ مِنْهَا عَنْ ظَهْرِ غِنًى وَالْيَدُ الْعُلْيَا خَيْرٌ مِنَ الْيَدِ السُّفْلَى وَابْدَأْ بِمَنْ تَعُولُ فَقِيلَ مَنْ أَعُولُ يَا رَسُولَ اللهِ؟ قَالَ امْرَأَتُكَ مِمَّنْ تَعُولُ تَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَإِلَّا فَارِقْنِي وَجَارِيَتُكَ تَقُولُ أَطْعِمْنِي وَاسْتَعْمِلْنِي وَوَلَدُكَ يَقُولُ إِلَى مَنْ تَتْرُكُنِي  

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"خَيْرُ الصدقِة مَا كانَ عَن ظَهْرِ غِنًى، واليَدُ العُلْيَا خيْرٌ مِنَ اليَدِ السُّفْلَى، وابْدَأْ بِمن تعول" فقيل: يا رسول اللَّه: مَنْ أَعُولُ؟ قال: "أمرأَتُكَ ممن تَعُولُ، تَقُولُ: أَطعمنى وَإِلَّا فارِقْنى، جَارِيتُك تَقُول: أَطعمنى واستعملنى، وَلَدُكَ يقول: إِلى منْ تتركنى؟ ".  

[حم] أحمد [قط] الدارقطنى في السنن بإِسناد صحيح